Drama With Your Own Kids, OT

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I don't think you did hear her........

your house, your rules.... no facebook. Your not the only one that tells their 14 year old they can't have facebook. Yeap I am the worst mother in the world. Ok so I am....... I know better then that

You have tons of red flaggs flying about this girl and her family.......don't allow your daughter. Your the parent. It's ok to say no. Find new friends Emily. You can't control what goes on in school and having a friendship in school......fine...you would want her to behave nice to all people anyhow. Outside of school.......no way. Your daughter is not going to like it......but your advocating for her and someday she will appreciate it. Right now she just wants to hate you for everything. Don't stop being her parent. When she is at Dad's you can't control- unless you both have a good relationship and can work together for what is best for your child. Your house, your rules. She is going to look up to you for standing up for her when she couldn't do it on her own

Your daughter should not be telling you if you should involve the police or not............again your the parent. Sorry Emily but that is my car and I am not having that- I don't live that way and am not going to put up with that.

Emily is going to learn a lot here.......you put up safe boundries for her no matter what! Hope Emily is not your daughters name......

Best-

thanks for responding....
My ex and I do have a great relationship, he's one of my best friends, BUT we don't always see eye to eye on everything and unfortunately FB is one of them. The only reason I stopped fighting it, is because my ex lives overseas and he and her use facebook to load videos and pictures to all the time to share. He is on her FB and I now have the pass words to it. I go on it at least one time a day to look at it. My sister and cousins are also on it too and keep her in check. I have to pick and choose my battles and I already tired fighting that one and it was a never ending battle when I would take it away and my EX would give it back.

I know that it's ok to tell my daughter NO, trust me, I hear I hate you at least twice a month. When she says that to me, I tell her if you hate me that means I am doing my job as your parent. I am your parent, not your friend.

I think what I was having the hard time with is that I teach my children that we must learn to forgive. That we hold ourselves hostage to those we can't forgive. I can't forgive this family and even if they did apolgize to me, I don't think I would trust them ever again.

Like Blackcat said, sometimes you can talk to them until they are blue in the face and your words will mean nothing. You will have to let them fail on their own and just be there for them when it all comes crashing down.

As said in my previous post, I don't plan to go out of my way to let my daughter be friends with this girl, but I can't stop her from being friends with her at school.

Oh an no my daughter's name is not Emily, but that is a lovely name.....