Sorry it got a little long....
SO awhile back I had posted about some drama that was going on with my 13year old daughter (8th grade)
Long story short, the girl that she was having issues with I demanded that they were no longer friends after all the drama went down back in August.
I tried to reach out to this girls mom at that time and the mom acted like she was also 13 years old, calling my daughter names and putting all the blame on my daughter. I told my daughter that I could not support such an unhealthy relationship, but if she wanted to befriend this girl at school, she could.
Little more history on this story... The other girl, bullied my daughter on FB, (I know, she should not even have one, but she does and I can't do anything about it, because my ex allows her to have it) The girl also stold stuff from my daughter and made all of the kids at school turn against her. My daughter was gone all summer and came home from Europe 2 days before school started when all of this went down. In long, this girl and some other "supposed to be friends" of my daughters put sugar in our gas tank, egg our house and destroyed the paint on my car with ketchup. All of this was caught on video from our security cams. I know that my daughter was not innocent in all of this and made mistakes as well. These girls are 12-14 years old and they will make mistakes. My whole reason to try and reach out to the mom and try to talk with our daughters to fix the problem, but like I said, the mom was not willing to. A little more on the mom, she is the talk of the town and honestly is not a very good person. I don't like to judge people, but she is not an ideal mother when I think of what one should be. For a lack of better words, she is loose. There was some other stuff that this mom did directly to me as well and I am still angry.
Well as you can see, months have passed and my daughter has asked if she can hang out with this girl. I know I can't pick my daughters friends, but I can control what she does with them.
Also, the other night, my husband ran into this mom and her new BF (she changes BF weekly to monthly) and I guess my husband knows the guy. My husband chatted to the mom for the first time since all the drama started back in AUgust.
I told my daughter NO. That I did not like this girl, she lied to me and is disrespectful and I don't think that she is a good friend choice. Also since this happened, my daughter has made friends with some very nice girls from very nice families and none of them get along with this girl.
SOrry it's so long, my question is would you allow for your child to be friends with someone that you didn't like the child's parent? Would you allow for your child to have a friendship with someone who did something like this to them and has done nothing to gain back trust? It has been a real HOT Topic in my house the last few weeks and I get mixed bags of advice from my own family about letting her choose her friends...
Any advice??
SO awhile back I had posted about some drama that was going on with my 13year old daughter (8th grade)
Long story short, the girl that she was having issues with I demanded that they were no longer friends after all the drama went down back in August.
I tried to reach out to this girls mom at that time and the mom acted like she was also 13 years old, calling my daughter names and putting all the blame on my daughter. I told my daughter that I could not support such an unhealthy relationship, but if she wanted to befriend this girl at school, she could.
Little more history on this story... The other girl, bullied my daughter on FB, (I know, she should not even have one, but she does and I can't do anything about it, because my ex allows her to have it) The girl also stold stuff from my daughter and made all of the kids at school turn against her. My daughter was gone all summer and came home from Europe 2 days before school started when all of this went down. In long, this girl and some other "supposed to be friends" of my daughters put sugar in our gas tank, egg our house and destroyed the paint on my car with ketchup. All of this was caught on video from our security cams. I know that my daughter was not innocent in all of this and made mistakes as well. These girls are 12-14 years old and they will make mistakes. My whole reason to try and reach out to the mom and try to talk with our daughters to fix the problem, but like I said, the mom was not willing to. A little more on the mom, she is the talk of the town and honestly is not a very good person. I don't like to judge people, but she is not an ideal mother when I think of what one should be. For a lack of better words, she is loose. There was some other stuff that this mom did directly to me as well and I am still angry.
Well as you can see, months have passed and my daughter has asked if she can hang out with this girl. I know I can't pick my daughters friends, but I can control what she does with them.
Also, the other night, my husband ran into this mom and her new BF (she changes BF weekly to monthly) and I guess my husband knows the guy. My husband chatted to the mom for the first time since all the drama started back in AUgust.
I told my daughter NO. That I did not like this girl, she lied to me and is disrespectful and I don't think that she is a good friend choice. Also since this happened, my daughter has made friends with some very nice girls from very nice families and none of them get along with this girl.
SOrry it's so long, my question is would you allow for your child to be friends with someone that you didn't like the child's parent? Would you allow for your child to have a friendship with someone who did something like this to them and has done nothing to gain back trust? It has been a real HOT Topic in my house the last few weeks and I get mixed bags of advice from my own family about letting her choose her friends...
Any advice??
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