Did I Say Something Bad? *Frustrated*

[wdmmom]

I tend to call my kids "Turkey Birds". It's cute, it's fun and it's not a derrogatory term. If a parent had an issue with it, maybe my program isn't for them.

Until DCM or DCD come to you with the matter at hand, I wouldn't change a thing.

[Solandia]

Try not to let it rattle you too much. "getting in trouble" with mom and dad, might have been them correcting his speech/grammar...and not "in trouble" at all. I make my kids apologize for tone of voice, not necessarily the exact words they are using.

I do NOT censor my vocab...there are going to be parents that do not like the word "butt" or "bum", others that don't like "rear", or "toushy"...well, someone is going to be offended sometime over something. Not my problem, and they can't really make it mine.

Sure, the parent can say to me that they use the word "bum" instead of butt, or "fluff" instead of fart...too bad, but I have a wide range of acceptable among the families, and the child is not going to understand why he is the only one who 'gets in trouble' at my house over one particular word. I have more important things to correct, and language that is not profane totally does not make the list. LOL

BTW, its "youse guys" around here...over by my parents it is "y'all"...neither of which is going to win the good grammar awards.

[daycare]

I look at it like this....

Let the parents parent their child at home, we can't control what the parents want for their children in their homes. IF the dad is that crazy about it and it's really bothering him that bad, he will come and talk to about it.

where at that point you can then address the issue.

I don't expect parents to do things the way I do it here and vice verse.

I think it's silly, but my mother used to get upset at me when I would say mail man or police man....She wanted me to be politically correct...I was 5, do you think anyone really cared if I said police man or police officer....No one but my mum. She is a crazy lady.....

[Ariana]

I think it's just this particular phrase thats bothering them. He's probably referring to the parents as "you guys" and they're annoyed with it. I think I would be too since it's not really a proper way to address adults.

I say it all the time and I certainly wouldn't stop. The parents might know how you're using it and aren't offended by it necessarily just when their kid uses it to address them kwim? I'm not sure I'd bring it up but I might in a joking way like "so Danny said something interesting today and I just wanted to ask you about it"....

[Springdaze]

I try not to say "you guys" because I dont really like the way it sounds either. Once i said it years ago when I worked at a center. The owners mom heard me and said "Boys and Girls!" I then looked at my group and said "boys!' there were no girls at the time! I think she was mad!

[DCMom]

If it's really bothering you, I would ask dcdad about it. But I certainly wouldn't stress over NOT saying it around him.

My dcfamilies call them 'DCMom-ism's' since the kids pick up all sorts of little habits and mannerisms from me. That's what happens when they spend 40-50 hrs a week with a person...

[heyhun77]

Our center uses an anti-bias approach to teaching so instead of "you guys" we use "friends". For instance, instead of saying "do you guys want to go to the gym next?" I say "Friends, are you ready to go to the gym?" My own family it tired of me coming home in "friends" mode at night and it took a while to get used to the anti-bias vocab but I like it now.

[saved4always]

Try not to let it rattle you too much. "getting in trouble" with mom and dad, might have been them correcting his speech/grammar...and not "in trouble" at all. I make my kids apologize for tone of voice, not necessarily the exact words they are using.

I do NOT censor my vocab...there are going to be parents that do not like the word "butt" or "bum", others that don't like "rear", or "toushy"...well, someone is going to be offended sometime over something. Not my problem, and they can't really make it mine.

Sure, the parent can say to me that they use the word "bum" instead of butt, or "fluff" instead of fart...too bad, but I have a wide range of acceptable among the families, and the child is not going to understand why he is the only one who 'gets in trouble' at my house over one particular word. I have more important things to correct, and language that is not profane totally does not make the list. LOL

BTW, its "youse guys" around here...over by my parents it is "y'all"...neither of which is going to win the good grammar awards.

I had a child who would correct me every time I said the word "butt". She was not allow to refer to her rear-end as a "butt". She would tell me "no butt, bottom" every time I said the word "butt". Very annoying.

[laundrymom]

[QUOTE=DCMom;189300]If it's really bothering you, I would ask dcdad about it. But I certainly wouldn't stress over NOT saying it around him.

My dcfamilies call them 'DCMom-ism's' since the kids pick up all sorts of little habits and mannerisms from me. That's what happens when they spend 40-50 hrs a week with a person... [/QUOT
I have lots of isms. Lol

[laundrymom]

I had a mom last year tell me, we say tinkle and toot.

I responded with- but watching sons of anarchy is ok?

She responded with..... oh. Hmmm. Ok
I guess maybe hes too young for that show?

I said, well he is 3, but you do what you want. We say spotty and fart.

Try not to let it rattle you too much. "getting in trouble" with mom and dad, might have been them correcting his speech/grammar...and not "in trouble" at all. I make my kids apologize for tone of voice, not necessarily the exact words they are using.

I do NOT censor my vocab...there are going to be parents that do not like the word "butt" or "bum", others that don't like "rear", or "toushy"...well, someone is going to be offended sometime over something. Not my problem, and they can't really make it mine.

Sure, the parent can say to me that they use the word "bum" instead of butt, or "fluff" instead of fart...too bad, but I have a wide range of acceptable among the families, and the child is not going to understand why he is the only one who 'gets in trouble' at my house over one particular word. I have more important things to correct, and language that is not profane totally does not make the list. LOL

BTW, its "youse guys" around here...over by my parents it is "y'all"...neither of which is going to win the good grammar awards.

[countrymom]

I hate the word "****er" its called "lipop"

[Ariana]

I had a mom last year tell me, we say tinkle and toot.

I responded with- but watching sons of anarchy is ok?

She responded with..... oh. Hmmm. Ok
I guess maybe hes too young for that show?

I said, well he is 3, but you do what you want. We say spotty and fart.

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[morgan24]

I really wouldn't give that a second thought. If he kept telling me to apologize to him for saying it, I would say tell Daddy if he doesn't like me using that come and see me.

[Zoe]

You are not cussing, you are not being racist, sexist, ageist, whatever. I say you guys all the time. It's not a gender thing, I don't feel it's disrespectful. If the dad thinks it's that bad, he'll talk to you about it. And to be honest, if he tries to censor something that ludacris, I wouldn't change it. I don't let my parents dictate my -isms as long as they're appropriate!

Do not censor yourself in that way. Keep doing what you're doing. You're fine.

[KBCsMommy]

I tend to call my kids "Turkey Birds". It's cute, it's fun and it's not a derrogatory term. If a parent had an issue with it, maybe my program isn't for them.

Until DCM or DCD come to you with the matter at hand, I wouldn't change a thing.

:: This is what I call all my daycare kids too!! It's always " Come on Turkies!"


I wouldn't pay any mind to it. It is your home, your program. Even if the parents talk to you about it. You are not saying anything derogatory. So they cant tell you how to talk when you are in your own home.