Your Thoughts On Mom's Potty Training Email To Me And My Response

[mac60]

I have a boy that was 3 in July, he still isn't potty trained. He won't tell me he has to go pee ever. They also send him in blue jeans with snap and zipper that he can not do on his own, he won't even try. I know the mom is getting frustrated about the whole thing, but, I suggested to her easy on/off pants, and that didn't change, and I told her he will not tell me. He is a big kid, and I basically have to lift him on/off, because he is stubborn as hell. He could care less that he pees. He comes in the morning with a pull up but all I have here is diapers, that in it's self is a pain in the butt trying to potty trian using diapers, he can't get his pants unsnapped let alone remove a diaper too.

[Crystal]

If I don't think the child is ready (and I am REALLY good at knowing when they are) I simply tell the parent " we can start today and he'll be trained in 6 months, or we can wait til' he's really READY and he'll be trained in a day."

and, when my kids are ready, they ARE trained in a day.

[Unregistered]

Crystal - care to tell us HOW you know the moment they're ready, and HOW they become trained in a day? I NEED this info! Thanks!

[SimpleMom]

I think your response was great. It clearly stated your take on the situation, showed support for what they are doing and opened up the door for further conversation.

I used to do ALL the work before also. I listened to and followed whatever method the parent chose but after so many years in this business I realized it is ALOT of work on my part and very little on the parents.

I now request that parents start and complete the process at home before the child can wear undies only at daycare. Don't get me wrong, I fully support the parents but am no longer so actively involved.

I agree! This is exactly what I do as well.

[Mommy2One]

This may be side tracking the thread, and for that I apologize, but you ladies seem to have so much experience and confidence I would love it if you would share some of your potty training secrets.

I'm a first time mother with no prior caregiving experience with children and I'm the type that loves an orderly step by step plan to get things done. None of you seemed to agree with the 20 minute on the potty rule but when I Google potty training methods that's the one that comes up the most (with various intervals). So what do you do? Also, how do you know whether the child is READY-ready versus just showing signs of readiness?

Our daughter is 28 months old and showing some signs of interest/readiness (like 7 out of 10 on most lists) but despite letting us know when she needs a clean diaper, she's not reliably saying that she needs to go ahead of time and she seems to enjoy sitting/playing on the potty chair rather than do-your-business-and-get-up. She's with my husband and me on the weekends, my mom watches her 2 days/week (during the day) and we have a babysitting come to our house 3 days/week (during the day) so I know when she's ready, we will have to lead/drive the effort and make sure there's a uniform method being used by all the caregivers.

[Lucy]

Update

I'm the OP of this thread. I was looking for a particular post of mine in regards to a question someone asked, and came across this one and re-read it. Wow, I didn't realize it had been 8 months ago that this all started. (The potty training for this girl).

She's now 2 yrs 7 months. She wears "big-girl panties", but with plastic pants over them at this point. She had been in pull-ups, while still going on the potty, and the pull-ups were staying dry 95% of the time, so I switched to the panties with plastic panties over them about 2 weeks ago, and she hasn't had an accident in them at all. She is doing really well. She tells me EVERY time she has to go. I told the Mom just this week, that if the little girl goes two more full weeks without accidents, I will ditch the plastic pants. She actually has not had an accident for a couple weeks now, but I want to give her 2 more weeks just to make SURE.

And the mom has not had one problem with the way I'm doing this. We would discuss progress, both at home and here, but she never disagrees or pushes for anything different. She's really great to work with.

[Francine]

I have a boy that was 3 in July, he still isn't potty trained. He won't tell me he has to go pee ever. They also send him in blue jeans with snap and zipper that he can not do on his own, he won't even try. I know the mom is getting frustrated about the whole thing, but, I suggested to her easy on/off pants, and that didn't change, and I told her he will not tell me. He is a big kid, and I basically have to lift him on/off, because he is stubborn as hell. He could care less that he pees. He comes in the morning with a pull up but all I have here is diapers, that in it's self is a pain in the butt trying to potty trian using diapers, he can't get his pants unsnapped let alone remove a diaper too.

I have this kid at my house too! He just turned three in June, he just doesn't care if he is wet or poopy. If I smell something and ask him if he has poop in his pants he will laugh and say " yeeeeaaaaaaah". Everything is funny to him. Parents plan to send him to preschool in the fall, not sure how that is going to happen.

[Blackcat31]

I'm the OP of this thread. I was looking for a particular post of mine in regards to a question someone asked, and came across this one and re-read it. Wow, I didn't realize it had been 8 months ago that this all started. (The potty training for this girl).

She's now 2 yrs 7 months. She wears "big-girl panties", but with plastic pants over them at this point. She had been in pull-ups, while still going on the potty, and the pull-ups were staying dry 95% of the time, so I switched to the panties with plastic panties over them about 2 weeks ago, and she hasn't had an accident in them at all. She is doing really well. She tells me EVERY time she has to go. I told the Mom just this week, that if the little girl goes two more full weeks without accidents, I will ditch the plastic pants. She actually has not had an accident for a couple weeks now, but I want to give her 2 more weeks just to make SURE.

And the mom has not had one problem with the way I'm doing this. We would discuss progress, both at home and here, but she never disagrees or pushes for anything different. She's really great to work with.

That is fantastic! happyface

I also think it is great that you and the mom were able to work together to get this little gal trained. It is always so nice to hear success stories like this!

[itlw8]

I never worry if the child learns to ask. except when out in public the goal is they go by themselves when they need to go.

Children used to be trained earlier. What is the difference. Disposable diapers and pull ups. Take he in to sit when the older kids go And instead of asking her if she needs to go just say it is time to go potty.

There is a window of oportunity before they are 2 when they want to please you. If a child is able to produce when sitting during that stage They are often in underware before 2 Miss that window and they are often much older. like closer to 3. The parents are motivated so that will help alot.

[momma2girls]

I implemented a potty training policy about 3 yrs. ago in my contract. it's great- I will not start with it here, til child fully understands the just of it. I have fully potty trained 5 of my own children, and many daycare children. They will not potty trained til they are ready. I will not totally potty train any child. It is up to the parents to start them and have them so they understand the just of it, before starting it here at daycare.

[Snapdragon]

If I don't think the child is ready (and I am REALLY good at knowing when they are) I simply tell the parent " we can start today and he'll be trained in 6 months, or we can wait til' he's really READY and he'll be trained in a day."

and, when my kids are ready, they ARE trained in a day.

Haven't potty trained kids, but I know my own two girls were not ready until they were three years old and then, as you say, Crystal, it was overnight.