Assistant Sleeping! Probably Mad Parent! What To Do??

[Sprouts]

Can you lie about why you were not there? Does the parent know you were sleeping? I would be mortified!!! I'd probably make up a white lie about why I wasn't there (son having a rough time going down for nap, had to clean something etc). Apologize profusely for the assistant falling asleep and either talk it out with SIL or fire her.

Well i told her i was putting my son for a nap, i think i said i fell asleep:confused:

yeah I am not good at lies, as u can see i got busted here!!!::

[sharlan]

Can you lie about why you were not there? Does the parent know you were sleeping? I would be mortified!!! I'd probably make up a white lie about why I wasn't there (son having a rough time going down for nap, had to clean something etc). Apologize profusely for the assistant falling asleep and either talk it out with SIL or fire her.

Not a good idea. IMHO, it's never good to lie to a parent. We emphasize that we don't want them lying to us, we shouldn't do it to them, either. Best to admit a mistake and be proactive that it won't happen again.

[Crystal]

Can you lie about why you were not there? Does the parent know you were sleeping? I would be mortified!!! I'd probably make up a white lie about why I wasn't there (son having a rough time going down for nap, had to clean something etc).

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!!! I expect my families to be honest with me, and I expect the same of myself. NEVER, EVER lie to a parent. It is unethical and simply not good business practice.

[Sprouts]

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!!! I expect my families to be honest with me, and I expect the same of myself. NEVER, EVER lie to a parent. It is unethical and simply not good business practice.

Thank you both, I agree.

But do you both feel i should wait to say something or say something to her right away?:confused:

I have spoken to her a few times already and she hasnt mentioned it, she would have brought it up if it was bothering her.

[sharlan]

I would just leave it alone.

[Ariana]

Not a good idea. IMHO, it's never good to lie to a parent. We emphasize that we don't want them lying to us, we shouldn't do it to them, either. Best to admit a mistake and be proactive that it won't happen again.

I think a little white lie so she doesn't get fired isn't all that bad. I don't expect parents to tell me the truth about everything (especially insignificant things) either. The point is that the assistant was sleeping so if the parent knew BOTH were sleeping it would look doubly bad. It's not like she left the kids alone to go sleeping and then lied to the parents about why she wasn't there.

Anyway I understand where you're coming from but I wasn't promoting "lying to parents" in general!!

[Crystal]

I think a little white lie so she doesn't get fired isn't all that bad. I don't expect parents to tell me the truth about everything (especially insignificant things) either. The point is that the assistant was sleeping so if the parent knew BOTH were sleeping it would look doubly bad. It's not like she left the kids alone to go sleeping and then lied to the parents about why she wasn't there.

Anyway I understand where you're coming from but I wasn't promoting "lying to parents" in general!!

I personally wouldn't offer the information, but I would NOT lie if the parent brought it up. And I DO expect the parents to be truthful with me about EVERYTHING. Lying is the ONE issue that I would term over. And, lying to a parent is a Good way to lose a client when the kid tells the parent the truth.

[Preschool/daycare teacher]

I agree your assistant should NOT have been sleeping. But I do not think you, personally, did anything wrong, if I'm understanding everything correctly. You had her come in to cover for you, because you were sick, and didn't want to be around the children and get them sick. So the assistant was in charge. You were technically not there. So since you were technically not there, it was perfectly okay for you to take a nap. It'd be the same thing as you going home and taking a nap (if you had a seperate house for your daycare, like some providers do). If your assistant/sub knew she was covering for you that day so you didn't have to be around the children, then it wouldn't matter if you told her you were taking a nap or not. You wouldn't have to tell her anything about what you're doing. After all, you're technically not there. SHE is working that day, not you.

I also agree with the other posters not to mention it to the mom unless she brings it up. No need to borrow trouble. If she mentions it, be honest about it all: You were sick, had assistant/sub come in to work for you so you would not get the children sick, You went upstairs to put your son down for nap, and went to sleep yourself. And yes, your assistant, however, did too. It is has been taken care of and will not happen again. Let her know you do NOT allow sleeping during nap time, even if it wasn't against licensing.
Since she hasn't mentioned anything yet, she probably won't.