Assistant Sleeping! Probably Mad Parent! What To Do??

[JustKids]

OKAY!.....soooo

I am very sick and exhausted and do not want to get the other children sick...so I left my substitute/assistant with 2 children (sleeping baby and preschooler)...i go upstairs to put my son for a nap and fell asleep....( i know this is a no no but was super exausted) I have left my assistant with the kids before so I didn't think twice.....

So I hear a knock at the door, preschoolers parent, my asisstant doesn't answer, so i get up, I go down and see she is SLEEPING!!!!!! The preschooler is just standing there looking at the door....so the Mom comes in, its dark and sesame street is on...i know she will tell her mom that ***** was sleeping.

I know if i was the parent i would be PISSED! She is a friend of mine, not close close but we were friends before i opened. I dont know if she knew if my assistant was asleep or not but I am sure her daughter will tell her.

I don't know what to do???!!!! Should i contact her before she contacts me??? Tell her the truth? or what??

Oh and my asisstant is my sister in law, i already basically told her off and she knows I am pissed..I will deal with her, but not sure what to do about Mom?? Her daughter hasn't seemed happy here as it is.....

Please any advice, i know I shouldn't have slept either.....so please how would you go about this if you were in my schoes????

[sharlan]

Basically, you messed up. You should have told your assistant that you needed a nap. If something had happened, it would have come down on your head, not your assistant's.

BUT, since she was aware that you went upstairs, she knew that she was in charge of the kids.

Personally, "I" wouldn't say anything to the mom. Just let sleeping dogs lie for now. If the mom brings it up, apologize, tell her that it's unexcusable, it never happened before, and it will NEVER happen again.

If the child is unhappy in your home, chances are the parent is already looking for another provider. This may just set it in motion.

We have all made mistakes and learned from them. This one is yours.

[Hunni Bee]

I don't know...I make it known with my assistants that if I leave the room, for whatever reason, they are to take over. That's one of the things assistants are FOR.

Her being asleep with children in her care is UNACCEPTABLE.

Yes, I agree you probably should have told her you were going to take a nap, but from what you posted, you weren't really with the kids because you were sick, which meant you really didn't have to. But none of this has any bearing on the fact that she shouldn't have fallen asleep with children in her care.

[wdmmom]

I wouldn't mention anything to the parent unless it is mentioned to you first.

AND

I'd term the so-called assistant and find someone more reliable and responsible!

[cheerfuldom]

I would let your assistant go. She could really put your whole operation in jeopardy. You're lucky that little one did not hurt themselves or something while being unsupervised. I know it's tough to work with family. I made the mistake of letting my sister work for me. She doesn't anymore and thank goodness.

As for the mom, I would let the assistant go and let each of the parents know that she is no longer working for you and you will be hiring someone new. You don't have to share all the dirty details but at least this mom will know that she no longer works there. I do let my parents know when I am looking to hire so they are prepared to see a new face in the future. They do not get any part of the hiring process but I do let them know who was hired and especially, their qualifications.

[TBird]

I wouldn't say anything but your SIL put you in a bad situation.

[Sprouts]

So far the parent hasn't said anything. I texted askering her about something else just to see if she would bring it up.....

But about my sister in law...I need to have a long talk with her, i think she will learn from this mistake, but def. do not trust her like i used to

I wish it was just easy just to find a new assistant but there are so many flakes out there....

[Blackcat31]

OKAY!.....soooo

I am very sick and exhausted and do not want to get the other children sick...so I left my substitute/assistant with 2 children (sleeping baby and preschooler)...i go upstairs to put my son for a nap and fell asleep....( i know this is a no no but was super exausted) I have left my assistant with the kids before so I didn't think twice.....

So I hear a knock at the door, preschoolers parent, my asisstant doesn't answer, so i get up, I go down and see she is SLEEPING!!!!!! The preschooler is just standing there looking at the door....so the Mom comes in, its dark and sesame street is on...i know she will tell her mom that ***** was sleeping.

I know if i was the parent i would be PISSED! She is a friend of mine, not close close but we were friends before i opened. I dont know if she knew if my assistant was asleep or not but I am sure her daughter will tell her.

I don't know what to do???!!!! Should i contact her before she contacts me??? Tell her the truth? or what??

Oh and my asisstant is my sister in law, i already basically told her off and she knows I am pissed..I will deal with her, but not sure what to do about Mom?? Her daughter hasn't seemed happy here as it is.....

Please any advice, i know I shouldn't have slept either.....so please how would you go about this if you were in my schoes????

So far the parent hasn't said anything. I texted askering her about something else just to see if she would bring it up.....

But about my sister in law...I need to have a long talk with her, i think she will learn from this mistake, but def. do not trust her like i used to

I wish it was just easy just to find a new assistant but there are so many flakes out there....

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Ok, I am confused?! Who is the OP? Is it JustKids or Sprouts? Do you have two user names?

[Former Teacher]

:confused::confused::confused:
Ok, I am confused?! Who is the OP? Is it JustKids or Sprouts? Do you have two user names?

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The cover is BLOWN!

[Blackcat31]

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The cover is BLOWN!

Yeah, Sprouts is answering as if she is the original poster but the original poster isn't Sprouts so....yeah, I'm confused.

Although being confused is a normal state of mind for me.....I still had to ask.

I will only take credit for a certain amount of confusion....the rest is NOT my fault!

[Former Teacher]

Yeah, Sprouts is answering as if she is the original poster but the original poster isn't Sprouts so....yeah, I'm confused.

Although being confused is a normal state of mind for me.....I still had to ask.

I will only take credit for a certain amount of confusion....the rest is NOT my fault!

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Well I am glad you got caught that! I sure didnt!

[Sprouts]

LOL I did that in case the parent was checking!!!! LOL ooopsy I feel like an ar$e.....

[Ariana]

Can you lie about why you were not there? Does the parent know you were sleeping? I would be mortified!!! I'd probably make up a white lie about why I wasn't there (son having a rough time going down for nap, had to clean something etc). Apologize profusely for the assistant falling asleep and either talk it out with SIL or fire her.

[Abigail]

How long was your assistant in charge? Is she always there on a daily basis or as an on-call basis? I would just give the SIL a warning. I'm not sure if you have a substitute (because you were sick) if you're then allowed to sleep. It should be as if you never went to work that day and stayed home to sleep.....as long as you were not over ratio. If you needed you to make sure you were within ratio then sleeping I don't think is okay. I know I am not allowed to sleep during nap time, but I can if I have kids before sunrise and get up early before the kids wake up.

[Sprouts]

How long was your assistant in charge? Is she always there on a daily basis or as an on-call basis? I would just give the SIL a warning. I'm not sure if you have a substitute (because you were sick) if you're then allowed to sleep. It should be as if you never went to work that day and stayed home to sleep.....as long as you were not over ratio. If you needed you to make sure you were within ratio then sleeping I don't think is okay. I know I am not allowed to sleep during nap time, but I can if I have kids before sunrise and get up early before the kids wake up.

She is my sub/assistant....and yes I was def. within ratio, always am.

I technically had her there so I could be "absent" because i was sick and did not want to get the other kids sick, I actually didn't need that day (ratio wise) but I had her come in to cover for me.

I never sleep while i am watching kids, even during nap time, too much to do and illegal and not a good idea.