Totally Should Not Annoy Me But It Does!

[Nellie]

I feel like that's something you need to take into consideration BEFORE you open your home to other families. I would feel honored if my daughter was giving me a hug and a daycare kid ran over to join in and get some hugs of their own. Trying to keep the dcks separated from everything having to do with your own family is going to give them a complex. They will feel like they are not important to you at all and won't understand why you are treating them like that. They are forced to be away from their own families without any say so, every day. So I'm sure they just want to be a part of what ever love or fun is happening in your family, as they rightfully should be if they are in your home and their care and well being is left up to you.

I agree to this to a point. During "daycare" my children my DC children are treated the same way. Each child gets the same amount of hugs, holding, cuddling ect. I am the "daycare", but my husband and teenage daughter are not. They both hold any kid that comes with there arms up. The last few weeks my husband has been working closer to home so he has been home in the am when a few of the DCK's get here. Every morning on the couch there is a least 1 of the DCK's cuddled up next to him while he drinks his coffee and watches the news. But having them go to a separate part of the house so they can be away from the daycare is alright. My husband taking are boys to the basement when he gets home from work is about the same as a Daycare child's dad getting him and taking him home. Does A DCK get a complex because B DCK's mom isn't going take him/her home with them? When my husband is in the daycare part of our home he plays, holds, cuddles all the children. Most of the time he is only home for 5 to 10 minutes a handful of times a month when DCK's are here. I don't think I'd ever say Johnny you can't sit in DH lap, but in all honesty the DCK's see the lawn people more in a week than my DH. If one of the kids tried climbing on one of them I'd tell them "no, you can't bother X" I have one real friendly little one who will crawl up anyone. At pick up time I am always scooping him up so that he isn't trying to get picked up by another parent. There are things that are acceptable and things that aren't. It is acceptable though for me to be the one to hug, hold, and cuddle with the children. That's my job.

[erinalexmom]

I agree wholeheartedly with the idea that I am the daycare but my husband and children are not. I made this choice and they shouldnt have to suffer for it. My dh hates the daycare and although he is kind to the children he really just hides in the basement till they leave

[squareone]

I also have the occasional day where I feel like daycare is starting to take over my private life. Luckily, we only have about an hour of overlap between the time the dh gets home and the time the last dck gets picked up. When dh gets home, he pops in for about 5-10 mins to say hello to the dckids and give them hi-fives, fist bumps, hugs, etc. My daycare is on the main level of the house so when dh and my own children want some alone time then they either goes upstairs or downstairs to the private areas of our house where the dckids are not allowed. This seems to work well for us.