Totally Should Not Annoy Me But It Does!

[erinalexmom]

I should not care at all but does it annoy you when the daycare kids try to insert themselves into your family life? For example when my dh is trying to spend some time with our son when he gets home from work then I have kids who try to join in with the father/son. I dont like it. My kids get limited time with thier dad anyway. I also dont like when my son gives me hug and EVERYTIME someone else has to come break it up. ai give the daycare kids plenty of hugs and love but please stop breaking up any family moments we have KWIM?
I know its not a mature additude I am probably about on the level of my daycare kids huh?::

[Zoe]

I think it's just one of those things where family and daycare come into a grey area and if you're not in the best of moods, things can be taken personally. I know, it's happened to me too. Just keep telling yourself that the daycare kids WILL go home and then you will have some great family time with NO interruptions.

[daycare]

I should not care at all but does it annoy you when the daycare kids try to insert themselves into your family life? For example when my dh is trying to spend some time with our son when he gets home from work then I have kids who try to join in with the father/son. I dont like it. My kids get limited time with thier dad anyway. I also dont like when my son gives me hug and EVERYTIME someone else has to come break it up. ai give the daycare kids plenty of hugs and love but please stop breaking up any family moments we have KWIM?
I know its not a mature additude I am probably about on the level of my daycare kids huh?::

birds of a feather all flock together....

I know what you mean... Even though we are home with our kids, they really don't get as much attention from us as one would think.

Just yesterday I had to tell my son for the millionth time...sorry sweetie, mommy is not an octopus, I don't have enough arms. I will help you when I am done changing this diaper or this or that................and the list goes on....

I keep my little man up from naps for an hour extra just to get this time in.....this way no one to bug us...

[Mandy_Jane]

I feel like that's something you need to take into consideration BEFORE you open your home to other families. I would feel honored if my daughter was giving me a hug and a daycare kid ran over to join in and get some hugs of their own. Trying to keep the dcks separated from everything having to do with your own family is going to give them a complex. They will feel like they are not important to you at all and won't understand why you are treating them like that. They are forced to be away from their own families without any say so, every day. So I'm sure they just want to be a part of what ever love or fun is happening in your family, as they rightfully should be if they are in your home and their care and well being is left up to you.

[Country Kids]

I know its soooo hard when they want to be a part of the family or take so much time from you when your children are home. Mine don't even really like to be hear anymore on days off from school because some of the dcks are so out of control it seems lately.

Yesterday, I had to take my bunch to the school so that I could attend my sons party. He was almost in tears and embarrased because some of the dcks were not behaving themselves and just being very frustrating. After that I'm taking every party day as a 1/2 day.

Then I had parents upset because kids didn't get naps! Didn't you read the Halloween newsletter last week explaining that we would be gone and there would be no naps. Come and pick up your child early then and that way they are guaranted a nap.

[sharlan]

That is one of the pitfalls of daycare.

If you don't want the daycare kids involved, then maybe you son and dh can go to another part of the house or to the park or a walk around the block. Take it out of their sight.

IMHO, it's very natural for a child who's seeing someone get some special time to want some too. They just don't understand that invisable line you don't think they should cross.

My dh used to come home from work, pop a big bowl of popcorn or slice up some cheese and crackers and park himself on the sofa. Within minutes, he had 5 or 6 kids climbing all over him to get to the goodies.

[erinalexmom]

Thank you so much! Im glad Im not the only one I will especially take the advice to spend the time with my children during nap. I never really thought of that. All the daycare kids take a nap and my own kids dont. I always spend that time cleaning or doing something else. From now on after I eat my lunch I am going to spend at least 1/2 hour of napwith each kid. Thanks I will also take the advice to get dh and son or my daughter to get out of site Thanks so much. Its nice to admit those internal feelings and not get totally blasted for it

[sharlan]

It's a very normal situation. Your dh has been gone all day, your kids want him and he wants them. Unfortunately, you've got dck's in the mix and they want that attention, too.

IMHO, you can't pay attention to one group and ignore the other. I'm sure that's not what your dh is planning on doing, but that's what the dck's feel is happening.

[Country Kids]

The thing though is can you imagine what a daycare child would do if one of our children crawled all over them and their parent. They would have a total, all out meltdown I bet. I can see it now, NO THIS IS MY MOMMY OR DADDY AND YOU CAN'T TOUCH THEM!!!!!!!! Our children though are expected to share everything, even their parents-I think not. The last thing one of our own children would do is crawl all over a daycare parent.

[erinalexmom]

True that country kids! i do get tired of all the sharing my family and I have to do with the daycare kids and families but I do try to remind myself that at least my kids do haveme all day and I can hug my kids whenever I want and that is due to running a daycare. So I "try" to be more grateful/understanding. But some days it is hard!

[erinalexmom]

your right sharlan.These kids are lonely. Im sure they would love to be spending that time with thier own parents. Somedays I just dont "feel it" if you KWIM?

[Country Kids]

See my aren't home anymore (they are all in school). So when they get home I want their time to be quiet and stressless. If they want to give me a hug, give it to me, but everyone doesn't have to. When they want a snack go for it and eat what you want. I used to have my children go into their room for everything, play, eat, watch tv, etc. but it got to the point why be home if they are having to be hidden in their room. The teenagers go their automatically but why should my littler ones!

Sorry if this seems like a rant! I did got done 45 min early today but it was a longggggggggg day and I think it is time I take up running to get rid of my stress-

[sharlan]

your right sharlan.These kids are lonely. Im sure they would love to be spending that time with thier own parents. Somedays I just dont "feel it" if you KWIM?

I understand. I have one that I'm trying really hard to "feel it" with, but it's just not happening.

[dave4him]

Might just be trying to fill an void in their own relationships with their parents...

[Nellie]

My husband works from sun up to sun down about 10 months out of the year. When he does get home early due to weather he will take our boys to the basement(it is unfinished) but there are a few toys down their and he works on his hobbies down there too. He does this to spend some alone time with the kids and I go on about the daycare as normal. Now that winter is approaching some of the daycare kids are here before he leaves some days. They crawl on him want him t snuggle with him too and he does. My whole house is "daycare". I have a family room and a living room. The family room is all toys and the living room has the tv and some toys. When he is there and needs some "alone" time with the boys I conduct buisness in the family room(we are normally always in there). My youngest goes down for nap an hour before the daycare kids and my oldest stays up for an hour and a half after the daycare kids go down. This way I get to have some alone time with both of them.
Perhaps your husband could spend some time in your children's bedroom or another room with them when you have daycare going on. My husband is great with the daycare kids. He hasn't had to leave as early lately and there is normally one cuddled up to him on the couch while he watches the news and drinks his coffee. But when I do have the seperation I just state "J and J needs to be with there dad. Your daddy(mommy)will be here soon for you. I will hold/play with you. I'm daycare. DCK's get me 100%, but my husband isn't daycare.
"The thing though is can you imagine what a daycare child would do if one of our children crawled all over them and their parent. They would have a total, all out meltdown I bet. I can see it now, NO THIS IS MY MOMMY OR DADDY AND YOU CAN'T TOUCH THEM!!!!!!!! Our children though are expected to share everything, even their parents-I think not. The last thing one of our own children would do is crawl all over a daycare parent. "
One day my oldest son heard the door open and both DCB and my son ran to the door saying "daddy". When the DCB saw that it was his dad he got mad and starting hitting at my son saying "NO, my dad."
It is hard having daycare tight in the mix of your home.