How Often Do You Terminate Kids?

[christinaskids]

I have never terminated a kid in the year ive been open. I have had lots of times that ive thought about it but never did. Its not the easiest thing in the world to get new kids, especially from good families. How often have you terminated a child?

[laundrymom]

Two times is 24 years

[Zoe]

I've been doing this for 4 years. I terminated a child in my first year. I tried to make it work with this kid for 6 months but I just couldn't put up with his biting, choking, and hitting of my own kids and my dogs.

I don't know if this counts, but I did end a 2 week trial period 2 days into it with another child just last month. I really wouldn't calling it terminating, more like ending something before it began.

[Meyou]

I've terminated a pair of siblings and I've refused service to 3 other families before I had a contract which is essentially the same as a termination.

[newtodaycare22]

I've been open 14 months and I termed one kid. He was my third dck and I had only been open 2 months. He lasted 3 days because he kicked walls and ran around during nap (he was 3). Then he'd poop his pants and laugh, even though he'd been potty trained for a year. I prayed that I'd find a better fit! Definitely wouldn't change my mind. A month later I was full with 6 kids::

[laundrymom]

I just rechecked, I actually have termed 5 times. Two nonpayment, one Childs behavior, one parent issue and one cleanliness issue

[MarinaVanessa]

One time in 5 years. Maybe another in the next few weeks (my SIL) . Get ready for a rumble.

[nannyde]

I've termed two for badly behaving parents and one who was a first time Mom who cried hysterically at drop off for two weeks. By the end of the second week it was starting to affect the other day care parents and me. She was upset... but her husband was REALLY mad. He was forcing her to go back to work and she HATED it.

I've had two little boys who didn't make it past the first week. One was one day. The other was one week. The Mom of the one day kid was mad. The Mom with the one week one is a friend of mine today and that was ten years ago. Our sons go to school together and I see the little devil every Halloween.

I've had people leave over not being able to pay but that was not me terming them... just that I require prepayment for services.

I've had a few situations where I had to lay the law down about the kids behavior that pretty much forced them into leaving right away.

[littlemommy]

I've termed 2 in 2 years. Both due to weird parents.

One parent wanted me to potty train her 3 year old, even though she herself had not started. He was only here a couple hours a week, so it would have been impossible. The kid was naughty, VERY hyper, mean, and a major biter of other kids and almost my pets. What put me over the edge was the mom bringing a poopy potty chair over and parading it through my house, showing me exactly how to use it. (she even squatted over it, then told me I need to clean it because there was poop in it!!)

I'm sure you all read about the 2nd one a few weeks ago. Mom wanted 13 month old on several meds (prescription and non) all day long. I'm sure she was overdosing him, and it was too much of a liability for me to have him here if something were to happen.

[daycare]

2 times in 8 years.... It really stinks.. But I think that when a parent gives notice it is sometimes is worse than when I have had to term.... It seems like no matter the length of time, it feels like forever....

[safechner]

I termed three times in ten years.

Two AS sibling had a horrible behaviors that I can't handle it. They like to hurt those little toddlers and kicked my daughter's nose when she was 4 years old, destroyed everything in my house, running away many times that I can't go get them due to small children in my home when my husband had to go out looking for them. That was the last straw and I termed them right away that I can't take liable for them. That is the most worst terrible kids I ever had!!! NO before/after school kids for me!!!

Other two sibling that is not good fit in my program that their parents want them to stay longer hours (14 hours per day).

One toddler that I termed over non payment.

That is only I had termed three times so far.

[wdmmom]

I've only had to terminate once in my almost 3 years. The DCD was trying to bogart my assistant! He was playing Rico Suave, flirting and offering to throw more money her way.

I told him to stop, I sent a letter home saying that my assistant was uncomfortable, I was uncomfortable and that his behavior needed to stop. A week later, DCM picked up the kids, their belongings and a termination notice.

[momofsix]

Thankfully, never in over 20 years. I did quit for about a year once for personal reasons and quit everyone at that time, but that wasn't "terming" for anything the parents or child did

[sharlan]

I can only remember 2 that I termed. Others left on their own or I chose not to take them back the next school year.

#1 family, 9 mos into daycare. The kids were ok, not my favorites, but the Mom drove me absolutely crazy. If I could have gotten rid of the mom, I would have kept the kids. If I asked her to be on time, she'd go to the mall for an hour. If she knew we had plans, she'd show up late. She tried bringing the kids on holidays because her husband had to work. Too bad, she was home.

#2 family, 6 yo told a very tall tale of how the 1 yo was being abused. Mom knew it was a lie, Dad believed it. When he started telling other kids, I called Mom and termed on the spot. I still miss the mom and the younger 2 kids.

[snbauser]

2 times in 8 1/2 years. One was an infant that screamed - not cried, but screamed all day. After 2 weeks I referred her to another provider who only had 1 other kid and could hold her child all day if needed. The other one was a behavior problem and after working with a behavior specialist for a few months with no improvement, she helped find him another provider.