Mom Has A Problem?

[Solandia]

I don't do nonverbal cues/attitudes with the parents. If they don't tell me there is a problem, then there isn't one. No sweat off my back. If they are playing mind games or crabby, bad day....it is on them, not me.

Now, don't get me wrong. I see it at times from the parents (the attitude or crabbiness, passive-agressive crap), but I ignore it. LOL>I have an almost 13yo, I can let it slide from her, I let is slide from the parents.

I would NOT lose sleep or worry over these type of behaviors, thinking it might be a nebulous "something" I did or didn't do.

[nannyde]

In all of my experience, I have NEVER had a parent act like they were my boss and attempt to play these type of head games! I'm not saying it might not happen...but from my experiences, I'm having a difficult time reading the OP posts and finding this direct correlation as plausible.

If you have never had the "I'm the boss of you" parent then I'm sure you haven't come across the kind of behavior I'm refferring to.

I said it was a GUESS on what is going on. You don't see the correlation to what I am saying because you haven't had this type of parent or counselled providers who have seen this parental misbehavior.

From what she has said she has had at least four times or more when the Mom has given the money to someone other than the provider when the provider was in the room and available to take the money. She's even given it to the providers child when the provider was RIGHT THERE.

I am probably wrong. I'm just taking a long shot on what it could be. We only have a couple of paragraphs from the OP but the behavior indicators for this type of parental rudeness and misbehavior are common to the type of parent who has a foundational relationship and foundational attitude that the provider is an employee or the parent has a belief that she is the actual boss of the provider. I call this "I'm the boss of you" behavior.

[Kaddidle Care]

Maybe she's just not a morning person. I personally don't say 2 words to anyone until I have my coffee.

[Blackcat31]

I don't do nonverbal cues/attitudes with the parents. If they don't tell me there is a problem, then there isn't one. No sweat off my back. If they are playing mind games or crabby, bad day....it is on them, not me.

Now, don't get me wrong. I see it at times from the parents (the attitude or crabbiness, passive-agressive crap), but I ignore it. LOL>I have an almost 13yo, I can let it slide from her, I let is slide from the parents.

I would NOT lose sleep or worry over these type of behaviors, thinking it might be a nebulous "something" I did or didn't do.

I see we share the same line of thinking!

Other people's issues are not mine.

If there is a problem, speak up to change it or stay quiet and I won't give it a second thought.

My DD was 13 once too! BTDT.

[nannyde]

I see we share the same line of thinking!

Other people's issues are not mine.

If there is a problem, speak up to change it or stay quiet and I won't give it a second thought.

My DD was 13 once too! BTDT.

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I don't deal with that either. I am so fortunate to have clients that TELL me when they are upset about something. It breaks my heart when I'm doing something wrong but I deal with it and FIX it. Cant fix it if I don't know what it is.

[dave4him]

Well we are pretty used to having my sister in law drop her 12 year old off at the curb without so much of a good morning or howdy... so ill be prepared for silence from any parents as well. I love my niece but she always goes to bed as soon as she gets here for about an hour before we have to leave for school.... guess thats okay shes a typicall jr high girl i guess