When A Parent Just Doesn’t Get It! (Sorry Its A Little Long)

[daycare]

So an update on this...

I decided that I had to say something, anything thing so that I could put this past me...

When DCM arrived this morning, I told her that I was really sorry that I am not doing a good enough job raising her daughter and thats why she acted the way she did at soccer the day before.

The mom stood there looking stunned.

I then told her I will make sure that from now on I consult you on how I am doing so that you don't have any more probelms, because parenting is hard work. Is there anything else that I can do to better parent your daughter?

She then says "yeah you can teach me how to parent, because obvioulsy to the whole town already knows that I don't know how!"

So in a laughing manner, I told her I wish there was a book to teach us how, but that most of it was all trail and error and a lot of good old consistency, followed by a good plan of action.

At the end of our conversation, she asked if I could reccomend a good bookfor her. I told her I would get back to her.....

Anybody have a suggestion on a good parenting book?

[sharlan]

I don't know of any good books, but here's my 2 cents.

Set rules and follow them - C O N S I S T E N C Y.

[Cat Herder]

"Girls will be Girls; Raising Confident and Courageous Daughters" by Joann Deak was fun.

"The Challenging Child; Understanding, Raising and Enjoying the Five "Difficult" types of Children." by Stanley Greenspan and Jacqueline Salmon will help.

[caligirl]

I would have said loud and proud "she's an angel for me".

Nobody bought her story.

I've had that kid who was wonderful with me and horrible with the parents.

LOL, I can't even begin to tell you how many time's I've said this line in my 26 years of daycare........and it's true. 100% !!

[daycare]

I am a slow thinker... I am still trying to figure out what or who a debbie downer is from a post last week.... sorry ESL..

Well, I look at it like this, at least she wants to show some efforts, that still does not stop me from marking my calendar and gving the boot in 30 days if things dont change.

So far its been a great monday and the fact that she even admitted that it's her issue made me happy...

[Kaddidle Care]

Ah yes, she admits it in private but in front of others?

I think your tactic was way too subtle. She needs to know that she won't get away with it again. If she does it again in public I would speak out.

"Sorry dear, she's not on my watch today - I don't have these problems with her."

These parents don't have any clue of when they should outright leave. If they don't get with the program soon the whole team is going to treat their daughter like a soccer ball and the other parents will conveniently not see it.

I am glad that you feel better about it though. I don't. ::

[laundrymom]

I think I would recommend mom get a book on puppy rearing,.. its the same principles.

as for mom who called you out,.. I would have said,.. hey my house,.. my rules,..oh wait,.. this isnt MY HOUSE,...Its YOUR house, YOUR party YOUR time,.. YOUR responsibility. Why didnt YOU say something to Jeremys parents if you didnt like how they were responding to his behavior?

[daycare]

Ah yes, she admits it in private but in front of others?

I think your tactic was way too subtle. She needs to know that she won't get away with it again. If she does it again in public I would speak out.

"Sorry dear, she's not on my watch today - I don't have these problems with her."

These parents don't have any clue of when they should outright leave. If they don't get with the program soon the whole team is going to treat their daughter like a soccer ball and the other parents will conveniently not see it.

I am glad that you feel better about it though. I don't. ::

...you crack me up!1

Well, I really don't care if they dont want to be parents...Someone hit it on the head...they said that kids for them are just an accessory...

I actually got an email from the atheltic coordinator asking me what happened....Looks like the parents of the other child that was hit, not only pulled their child from the team, but are screaming law suit....OH BOY, this could be bad, but its not my problem...

I am just going to cooperate with the director and actually also request that my son be moved to another team..

I know this sounds horrible, but I am hoping that there are enough parent complaints that they kick her out of the league.

[Kaddidle Care]

Hold on STOP!!!

Don't put anything in writing... CALL the director. Just a helpful hint!

[daycare]

Hold on STOP!!!

Don't put anything in writing... CALL the director. Just a helpful hint!

....oh I am so with you on this.... I emailed him that we are getting ready to do outside play time and I would be mroe than happy to call him when the kids go down for nap...

[Cat Herder]

Hold on STOP!!!

Don't put anything in writing... CALL the director. Just a helpful hint!

THIS!!

Conflict of interest

I hope they kick her out fast. This should not have to affect your child.

[daycare]

So, I dont really know what to say when i do call him back. I will of course cooperate with all questions, but I don't want to get put in the middle of this. I feel like the less I say the better....yes?

[Cat Herder]

So, I dont really know what to say when i do call him back. I will of course cooperate with all questions, but I don't want to get put in the middle of this. I feel like the less I say the better....yes?

Just tell him what you saw/heard. Not what others said they saw/heard....and you should be fine.

I'd start by telling him that they are clients of yours and the child does not act that way in your care.

[daycare]

Yes I plan on making it clear that she does not act like that here.
I didn't see a lot of what happened, as I was trying to help my own child with the tasks that were givEn.
So I guess there's not much for mr to say... Lol