Venting Thread

[e.j.]

Does it irritate anyone else to get reimbursed for meals at half the rate of providers one town over, who charge the same or higher rates, and pay less in property taxes?

Yes! What irked me most, though, was when Tier 2 providers took a cut in their rate while the Tier 1 providers got an increase in their already higher rate. Basing rates on the percentage of public school students who qualify for free or reduced lunch seems unfair to me. Child care providers who live in relatively wealthy communities don't necessarily make the same kind of money their neighbors do. Both Tier 1 and Tier 2 providers are required to pay for infant formula and good, quality food for the children in their care. In my opinion, they should be reimbursed at the same rate.

[MomBoss]

When a parent tells you their child is ready for underwear and they end up pooping in their pants...in tight leggings...and not a firm poop...ugh!!! Until your child can poop and pee on the potty without me telling them to go, they must be in pullups!

[CountryRoads]

Dcb2 is a momma's boy and has separation anxiety issues. He was doing so much better and was reaching for me and waving bye to mom at drop-off.

He went on vacation for 2 weeks and now we are back at square one

[MomBoss]

Not daycare related but..
I needed to register my son for 3rd grade at his new assigned school since we moved. We still stayed in the district so this should have been easy. My mom goes for me to drop off the paperwork since as providers, its hard for us to take time off especially when the window the school is open in the summer is so small. They tell my mom she cant be the one to register. She says she doesn’t understand why if all they need is the paperwork, which she has. They said no they need to physicallly see mom or dad. Ok so i go, my mom is my backup provider and she had one hour before she had to go to work so i run down there to register him. I give her the registration and the paperwork to prove we are in the district, our closing papers. First she cant find where it says buyer. Umm..borrower is the same thing. Then she cant find my name in the paperwork. Well my name isnt on the title. I say its dads name. Then she asks me if hes on the birth certificate. Weird question since the birth certificate wasn’t required for registration. I said no...then she says “oh so hes step dad, so he doesnt actually have any educational rights” and some other stuff she said that i tuned out because i was getting angry. My son has no other legal dad, so if i say this man is his dad and im allowing him rights, then he has rights. I kept telling her its a complicated situation. Then she asked if we were married (still dont see why its relevant, what is she gonna ask for a marraige certificate??) i said no. So she goes “oh so your not even married and hes not even step dad” i still dont understand why shes asking me all these questions. So i asked the lady if it would be easier if he write me a lease agreement since no one has ever heard of fiancées living together...
Mind you, we are talking about this in front of everyone and i find this to be personal info. She tells me my fiancee has to be the one to come in. Why didnt she say that in the first place?!?!? The person on the title needs to come in. Geezzz!! What a waste of time. I just feel frustrated because if we all had the same last name im sure she wouldnt have asked all those questions. It seemed judgemental.

[Annalee]

Not daycare related but..
I needed to register my son for 3rd grade at his new assigned school since we moved. We still stayed in the district so this should have been easy. My mom goes for me to drop off the paperwork since as providers, its hard for us to take time off especially when the window the school is open in the summer is so small. They tell my mom she cant be the one to register. She says she doesn’t understand why if all they need is the paperwork, which she has. They said no they need to physicallly see mom or dad. Ok so i go, my mom is my backup provider and she had one hour before she had to go to work so i run down there to register him. I give her the registration and the paperwork to prove we are in the district, our closing papers. First she cant find where it says buyer. Umm..borrower is the same thing. Then she cant find my name in the paperwork. Well my name isnt on the title. I say its dads name. Then she asks me if hes on the birth certificate. Weird question since the birth certificate wasn’t required for registration. I said no...then she says “oh so hes step dad, so he doesnt actually have any educational rights” and some other stuff she said that i tuned out because i was getting angry. My son has no other legal dad, so if i say this man is his dad and im allowing him rights, then he has rights. I kept telling her its a complicated situation. Then she asked if we were married (still dont see why its relevant, what is she gonna ask for a marraige certificate??) i said no. So she goes “oh so your not even married and hes not even step dad” i still dont understand why shes asking me all these questions. So i asked the lady if it would be easier if he write me a lease agreement since no one has ever heard of fiancées living together...
Mind you, we are talking about this in front of everyone and i find this to be personal info. She tells me my fiancee has to be the one to come in. Why didnt she say that in the first place?!?!? The person on the title needs to come in. Geezzz!! What a waste of time. I just feel frustrated because if we all had the same last name im sure she wouldnt have asked all those questions. It seemed judgemental.

I'm sure this was frustrating:hug:

Not sure what state you are in, but in my county, people are always trying to give other family-members' addresses to get in a certain school zone. Plus nowadays there are extended family members leaving town with children with no "legal rights". We are living in a different time with so much the school has to deal with. A few bad apples spoil the bunch for sure! While you were telling the truth, there were probably many who weren't.

[MomBoss]

I'm sure this was frustrating:hug:

Not sure what state you are in, but in my county, people are always trying to give other family-members' addresses to get in a certain school zone. Plus nowadays there are extended family members leaving town with children with no "legal rights". We are living in a different time with so much the school has to deal with. A few bad apples spoil the bunch for sure! While you were telling the truth, there were probably many who weren't.

What bothers me is the people in line behind me now know that 1. im not married 2. im not on the title of my home 3. My son has no natural father
Personal things these questions should not have been asked in front of others.

[Ac114]

What bothers me is the people in line behind me now know that 1. im not married 2. im not on the title of my home 3. My son has no natural father
Personal things these questions should not have been asked in front of others.

I would call the school board and report this. Tell them that personal information like this should not be discussed in front of others. Not only that, your fiancé is not his legal guardian. So he could just take child in there and say he lives with me and I want to enroll him? That doesn’t even make sense.

[MomBoss]

I would call the school board and report this. Tell them that personal information like this should not be discussed in front of others. Not only that, your fiancé is not his legal guardian. So he could just take child in there and say he lives with me and I want to enroll him? That doesn’t even make sense.

Right i dont understand why he has to come in, he could be lying for me. Asking for my name on a utility bill makes more sense.

[Josiegirl]

Ugh. Someone stopped talking to me yesterday and I have no idea why. Can we say adult temper tantrum. :confused:

[Blackcat31]

Not daycare related but..
I needed to register my son for 3rd grade at his new assigned school since we moved. We still stayed in the district so this should have been easy. My mom goes for me to drop off the paperwork since as providers, its hard for us to take time off especially when the window the school is open in the summer is so small. They tell my mom she cant be the one to register. She says she doesn’t understand why if all they need is the paperwork, which she has. They said no they need to physicallly see mom or dad. Ok so i go, my mom is my backup provider and she had one hour before she had to go to work so i run down there to register him. I give her the registration and the paperwork to prove we are in the district, our closing papers. First she cant find where it says buyer. Umm..borrower is the same thing. Then she cant find my name in the paperwork. Well my name isnt on the title. I say its dads name. Then she asks me if hes on the birth certificate. Weird question since the birth certificate wasn’t required for registration. I said no...then she says “oh so hes step dad, so he doesnt actually have any educational rights” and some other stuff she said that i tuned out because i was getting angry. My son has no other legal dad, so if i say this man is his dad and im allowing him rights, then he has rights. I kept telling her its a complicated situation. Then she asked if we were married (still dont see why its relevant, what is she gonna ask for a marraige certificate??) i said no. So she goes “oh so your not even married and hes not even step dad” i still dont understand why shes asking me all these questions. So i asked the lady if it would be easier if he write me a lease agreement since no one has ever heard of fiancées living together...
Mind you, we are talking about this in front of everyone and i find this to be personal info. She tells me my fiancee has to be the one to come in. Why didnt she say that in the first place?!?!? The person on the title needs to come in. Geezzz!! What a waste of time. I just feel frustrated because if we all had the same last name im sure she wouldnt have asked all those questions. It seemed judgemental.

What weird district you live in.....

I've never heard of anything like that before. :confused:

If you stayed in the district your son should already be "registered" and the only thing you should need to do is provide a change of address.

Given the different types of relationship statuses people are in today, none of that questioning should even be legal or any of their business.

[CountryRoads]

Dcb2.5 has a hard time doing anything for himself (taking off coat, taking off shoes, etc.) - because his mom does it all for him.

We've been working on taking his shoes off and he's able to do it most of the time. He comes in this morning and mom goes to take off his shoes and I tell her we've been working on him doing that himself and he can do it on his own most of the time.

Dcb throws a massive fit and demands mom take off his shoes. And she does.

I'm not sure why, but it bothered me. Maybe because I've been working on it with him everyday and I know he can do it. It's very clear she does everything for him at home, too.

[Leigh]

Dcb2.5 has a hard time doing anything for himself (taking off coat, taking off shoes, etc.) - because his mom does it all for him.

We've been working on taking his shoes off and he's able to do it most of the time. He comes in this morning and mom goes to take off his shoes and I tell her we've been working on him doing that himself and he can do it on his own most of the time.

Dcb throws a massive fit and demands mom take off his shoes. And she does.

I'm not sure why, but it bothered me. Maybe because I've been working on it with him everyday and I know he can do it. It's very clear she does everything for him at home, too.

It could be that he is showing you who is boss by bossing his mom into taking off his shoes and by showing you that he doesn't have to do it himself because he has a servant for that. Try putting his shoes back on him and having him remove them himself?

[CountryRoads]

It could be that he is showing you who is boss by bossing his mom into taking off his shoes and by showing you that he doesn't have to do it himself because he has a servant for that. Try putting his shoes back on him and having him remove them himself?

As soon as we came in from outside, he took them off himself and put them away

Maybe it's one of those he "saves the drama for his mama" moments. He knows I expect it from him, and I'm sure he knows he doesn't need to do it when moms around.

[Ariana]

Dcb2.5 has a hard time doing anything for himself (taking off coat, taking off shoes, etc.) - because his mom does it all for him.

We've been working on taking his shoes off and he's able to do it most of the time. He comes in this morning and mom goes to take off his shoes and I tell her we've been working on him doing that himself and he can do it on his own most of the time.

Dcb throws a massive fit and demands mom take off his shoes. And she does.

I'm not sure why, but it bothered me. Maybe because I've been working on it with him everyday and I know he can do it. It's very clear she does everything for him at home, too.

I have two kids the same age, 2 yrs old. One kid can put on and off shoes, clothes, is potty trained, can put on her winter gear etc etc. The other kid has no clue what a garbage is when I tell her to throw something in it. You can tell which kid is treated like a princess

[Vesta]

One of my DCG4 has adopted a “diddy” laugh. All day at a high volume over every little thing. I want to have my eardrums removed and I feel like a bit of a jerk because I really want her to just stop laughing. It’s just so disingenuous and constant. Of course there’s one DCB4 that seems to thoroughly enjoy it so he spends a majority of his time getting her to do it.