Venting Thread

[lovemykidstoo]

That is one of my biggest frustrations.

I have a "no toys from home" policy and almost every morning, dcb comes with a toy. "He won't leave the house without something in his hands." And who's the parent??

Also have a dcb who refuses to come down the stairs sometimes and he thinks it's funny. Mom lets him take his sweet time and do it on his terms even though she's complaining she's got to get to work. JUST GRAB HIM AND BRING HIM DOWN. Sheesh. But, then he would cry, and we can't have that, can we?

OH my gosh they can't make them cry. That's the most horrible thing in the world . The thing is, the child may cry the first time, but then they will know what's expected and wont' cry. Why do they cry? Because it works. They get exactly what they want.

[CountryRoads]

Why do all the neighborhood kids come to our house?

I feel bad for my oldest kid, but come on. I'm working. I don't want extra kids hanging around our house.

I feel like a fun hater ::

[MomBoss]

First time parents that use the excuse "im a new mom" for why they freak out about everything..i cant. They make my job stressful. I put sunscreen on a 2 yr old who decided he didnt like it and rubbed his face, of course getting it in his eyes. So i wiped his eyes but they are red of course. Ive gotten sunscreen in my eyes many times just from sweating. It stings but goes away.
This mom was asking if she should be concerned about it and what i did for him " You just wiped his eyes?" Not sure what else i should have done. Its just sunscreen..KIDS sunscreen, if it was that harmful i dont think it would be for kids. No different than getting shampoo in your eyes. It will sting but your eye will clean itself out. Its not like i poured it in his eye. I told her if she doesnt want sunscreen on his face, he needs to wear a hat.
Then she notices some redness on his forehead. "What happened to his head?!" I dont know, probably heat rash. Honestly...children with "fair" skin have all sorts of different things going on with their skin and most of the time for no reason.
Everything is a concern for this parent.
I cant wait til we move. We are downgrading so we can enjoy our money and not be house poor. Ill be able to care for just 3! And i can be picky about who i enroll!

[CountryRoads]

Dcm made a comment about how the center in town was doing a fundraiser for some new equipment.

"I mean, they have to pay for everything themselves!"

Umm...and what do you think home providers do??

I know she didn't mean any harm by it, but it was a little offensive.

Why are in-home daycares looked at as "less than" centers? Don't these parents understand all the expenses and work that goes into home daycares?

[Cat Herder]

We are downgrading so we can enjoy our money and not be house poor. Ill be able to care for just 3! And i can be picky about who i enroll!

This will be the best decision you ever make, IMHO, of course. It changed everything for us. Insurance poor is still something we have to figure out.

[CountryRoads]

Let's see...

DCF1 - Showed up 20 minutes before opening this morning, dcd has the day off.

DCF2 - Caused a meltdown and chaos at drop-off by letting her child bring a treat (because he "wouldn't put it down") and then handing it to me telling me to put it away.

DCF3 - Sent non-potty trained child in underwear because "he wanted to wear them."

I just love this venting thread! ::

[springv]

I am SO ready for the school agers to go back to school it isn't even funny. School age child told a younger school age child to shut up because he was being annoying. Older school age child thinks EVERYTHING is a joke and when we get onto him it does NOTHING! We tell his mom and she gets on to him but the next day its the same thing and its been like this since school got out!

[Ac114]

So I know giving special to clients is a no no and I’m slowly learning who appreciates me and who doesn’t. My very first daycare family argued over getting a free vacation week when I implemented a contract last year. When they started I did not have a contract. I stay open until 6pm for their child only when I close at 5:30. They were picking him up between 4:45-5:15 but now that it’s nice outside they come rolling in at 5:55 and sometimes drop off at 7:00am! Anyways, we are able to afford our very first family vacation. We’re going to Gatlinburg and also eloping. I was excited to share the news with everyone and this family’s only response was “do we need to pay for that week?” They are already getting a free week in August as well for their vacation. It just shows how much they really appreciate me. I wasn’t even going to charge them because that’s how it’s written in my contract but I’m just annoyed and upset that, that’s how they view me or appreciate our relationship. Not even a congrats or that’s exciting. Oh well I guess.

[Idkwatimdoing]

A huge rant

I have a huge rant I was on here a couple months back questioning if I should quit, because of my daycare's director incompetence of leading everyone. And questioning my own self worth because she keeps berating me and saying I can't do anything right.

((A little backstory again. I have worked in a similar daycare setting but it was after and before school program. Where the kids are already in kindergarten and elementary meaning some of them are behaved and knows manners. Not like the toddlers which I was thrust into working. Again, never told the interviewer and my director that yet she forced me to work in situations that were never claimed in my resume)).

Backstory done back to my rant. My director uses authoritarian to run this daycare. I really have never met such a callious, manipulative person for a boss. Its almost laughable at her attitude. She berates all of her staff yelling at everyone for very minor things. When I mean minor its things like, don't have the kids run around when parents are here. Dude, its in their genetics to run. She also lies about things constantly even in dire situations, for example, this toddler had a fever one time and her teacher wanted to check her temperature but she yelled at her to "control" her kid. She has a fever and you're yelling at her? Even lying to her parent all because you wanted to **** out the money.

She constantly puts words in peoples mouths stating stuff like did you go to school, do you not know english, use your brain, its common sense. Yet it doesn't apply the same to her apparently. She gets angry easily so when I tell her to calm down she got angsty and reploed with don't tell me what to do. Um...I told you to calm down cause you need to relax especially when you claimed you got out of the hospital. Its common sense for someone to relax after they got back from a hospital yet here you are getting angry at everything. She's extremely impatient as well not good for a director and also not very mature.

I have also seen her do some very shady things. When this new kid came in the daycare he cried very loudly, so she took him inside the washroom and slapped him. She didn't see that I saw her slap him, and came to me claiming that he was "banging" his head. She also hates it when I say I know as a response and always wants a last say to berate me. But like I just don't want to deal with your holyiness thats why I say I know. To get you the stfu.

For a daycare director when she hit the child that was the last straw. I'm glad I'm quitting and I'm also going to report her for this attitude toward that child.

[CountryRoads]

A parent asked me a few questions this morning which were all addressed in the handbook.

Does anyone read those things anymore?

Maybe she thought by asking me in person, my answer would change to what she wanted it to be ::

[Bluemoon5]

Aaaarrrrggggghhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!

Sorry, that's all I've got. There are no words to describe this morning. Just three more days until my kids all move up!

[Cat Herder]

18 months on a personal debt payment plan, set to be paid off, again (kids college/cars, medical), in 6 months. So close.

You guessed it. Back to month 1. I did not go backward, yet, but lost my progress.

I had to replace the fridge, stove, washer, dryer, coffee/end tables, three rugs and two mattresses this year. I did manage to sell my truck to offset some damage.

BUT, now we need a new roof and 3 massive trees must come down (will require professionals). My DH can fund half of the roof, but that still leaves me back underwater for who knows how long. Grr.. Plans.

Off now for some sweets and an attitude adjustment. I know so many have it so much worse. We have been in this house 13 years, it was coming.

[Annalee]

18 months on a personal debt payment plan, set to be paid off, again (kids college/cars, medical), in 6 months. So close.

You guessed it. Back to month 1. I did not go backward, yet, but lost my progress.

I had to replace the fridge, stove, washer, dryer, coffee/end tables, three rugs and two mattresses this year. I did manage to sell my truck to offset some damage.

BUT, now we need a new roof and 3 massive trees must come down (will require professionals). My DH can fund half of the roof, but that still leaves me back underwater for who knows how long. Grr.. Plans.

Off now for some sweets and an attitude adjustment. I know so many have it so much worse. We have been in this house 13 years, it was coming.

:hug:I hear ya! My brother has given me tons of boxes of laminate to redo my floors and rip up carpet that is 25 years old (since we built it) but I'm afraid to begin afraid I will have some floor repairs or other unforeseen issues arise!

[Cat Herder]

2 year old. One of only two kids here today. Everyone else out on vacation or with GP's. Walking in circles with toy cell phone yelling "You better show. I'm tired of this bullship. You late, you fired. Now! Now! No! Now!"

Time to put the phones away for a bit. Gave her a doll and book, she ripped it's leg off and sat on the book. Lego's it is.

Her Dad owns a construction company.

[sharlan]

18 months on a personal debt payment plan, set to be paid off, again (kids college/cars, medical), in 6 months. So close.

You guessed it. Back to month 1. I did not go backward, yet, but lost my progress.

I had to replace the fridge, stove, washer, dryer, coffee/end tables, three rugs and two mattresses this year. I did manage to sell my truck to offset some damage.

BUT, now we need a new roof and 3 massive trees must come down (will require professionals). My DH can fund half of the roof, but that still leaves me back underwater for who knows how long. Grr.. Plans.

Off now for some sweets and an attitude adjustment. I know so many have it so much worse. We have been in this house 13 years, it was coming.

I hear you. I knew with my mom's estate I could retire and we could breathe a little easier.

Oh, no. My husband's truck has been in the shop several times and he keeps whining about needing new tires. We bought a new Subaru to cut the mileage and gas on his truck. He doesn't want to drive it. He picked it out.

I put my mom's car in my name, registration, and insurance so my sister can drive it. One week later the transmission goes out. Not worth repairing.

We decided to keep Mom's condo in PS. We lost power in one room. DH and SIL spent hours trying to find cause. Hire electricians, spent 4 hours, couldn't find it. They come back with a tracer and find a broken wire inside a wire nut on a ceiling fan that was installed 35 years ago.

Dh takes my van in for an oil change. Next day I smell oil burning and assume they spilt oil. No, rear main seal went out. DH picks up his truck and drops off my van to the mechanic.

SIL comes home from work after a 14 hour day yesterday and takes a shower. He slipped and fell, putting his knee through the fiberglass tub. At least he didn't fall through the glass enclosure.

I just see $$$$ flying out the window.

Good thing, we sold my mom's house for $37.5K over asking price and we're closing escrow 28 days after we put it on the market.