Venting Thread

[Josiegirl]

I am literally at the point where I would take the write up for not going outdoors on a day the temperature was fine... although if there were a licensing visit I doubt highly they would blame me as everyone is over this. I could barely plow my driveway and sidewalk this morning I didn’t even attempt the paver patio/paths in the backyard where the kids play. I AM DONE. I don’t know how much we got last night, it is hard to tell because the wind is ridiculous and the snow is all drifting but it took me 75 minutes to plow what usually takes 12 minutes for a normal snowfall. The rumblings on Facebook say we got 11 inches last night. We are supposed to be getting the worst of it tonight it just started snowing heavier about an hour ago after taking a break during daylight hours today. They say an additional 10 to 18 inches is possible according to my local weather stations latest post. I have never seen snow like this in my life. I mean it’s Wisconsin we get a ton of snow but it usually comes in 3-6 inch spurts. I feel like I jinxed it because I recall saying something to the SIL of the “I would love it if it snowed a crap ton just once because I’ve never seen that happen”. Although I said this in January when I was thinking how nice a few unexpected days off would be.. not in APRIL. This is most deff a storm for the record books.

The snow gods heard you!! I went out with my dogs an hour ago and it had only snowed about an inch and wasn't doing anything so I was thinking cool, we didn't get the predicted 6". Well, now it's coming down like crazy. Unfortunately April can bring some bad snow.
Every day is one day closer to summer. Hang in there.:hug:

[CeriBear]

DCB age 4.5 refuses to try and wipe himself after he poops. I try and encourage him to do it for himself and that I will check him afterwards to make sure he gets it all off but he cries and says his mommy or daddy always does it for him. It’s the same thing with wiping his nose too. He won’t even put on his shoes by himself and we are talking about a kid who is probably going to be going to kindergarten in the fall. He’s very smart cognitively and is otherwise well behaved. It’s just that mommy and daddy baby him so with things like dressing him and wiping his bottom and nose.

[Josiegirl]

3 1/2 yo dcg says in a singsongy voice "I got something for you".
Me...What is it?
Sticking her finger out at me "A booger!!" As she wipes it on the table.
Ewwww. She's done it more than once and now whines/cries when I hustle her in to wash her hands.

[MomBoss]

2 ft of snow in yard, i dont care im not taking the kids outside today. I have 1 and 2 yr olds...im not listening to them cry the whole time because their stuck in the snow or their boot fell off. I had a child cry the whole time we were outside in 5 in of snow because he couldnt move...2ft..yeah right..

[Second Home]

I asked if they were taking him to the doctor because he’s going on a fever for a week now and dad replied “well I tried taking him to urgent care but they needed $100 co pay which i couldn’t pay because I’m here paying you” 😱😱

My mouth dropped. And responded well you can take him to the ER and they don’t require payment at the time of visit.

Why do people not have insurance for their children? I understand insurance is expensive, I’ve been a single mom barely scraping by but still made sure my child and I had insurance.

They probably have insurance which is why they only have a $100 co-pay . The total bill is going to be probably at least $200 for an urgent care visit.

[Blackcat31]

They probably have insurance which is why they only have a $100 co-pay . The total bill is going to be probably at least $200 for an urgent care visit.

I understand that medical costs are outrageous at times and that many people struggle to pay for medical care but I have serious issues with parents that don't or won't bring their child to the doctor when it's clear they need to go.

That co-pay is such a small price to pay considering that should a cold take a turn for the worse, the cost will be much higher.

Your child should be your priority over all else...including co-pays.

[finsup]

Enforced sick policy... On my in laws Actually, I personally didn't but my husband did. They came into the house yesterday and MIL announces "oh I hope you don't have what we have! And then goes into symptoms. Fever, sweats, sore throat to not being able to eat or drink, non stop cough" and I'm sure my expression was just like are you kidding me?! My husband tells them both to leave, go rest and get to the doctor. Because at 82 and 84 with copd and diabetes, you really don't let stuff like this go on. Or spread it to your grandkids and very pregnant DIL. They laughed at him, said they weren't contagious he said no. You need to leave. Come back when you're better. They refused. He finally had to force them to talk outside as the kids were upset with the yelling (he always has to be loud they can't hear anything but the tone was different) and then upset because they wanted to see their grandparents and didn't understand why their dad was making them leave. I explained it of course (nicely) but they were still upset. So then FIL yells at my husband and says "well if we leave we're aren't coming back" and I'm just like seriously?! Just stay home if you're sick. We COULD complain that you come here every weekend, unnaccounced, and stay for a few hours but we don't. We just don't want you giving us/our kids whatever you have.

But yeah, this hasn't been there first lack of common sense thing that's come up. A few months ago they allowed my 3yr old to have as many vitamins (with iron) as she wanted (thank God she used some self control that day) and let both kids paint on their toys because they didn't want to say no. That was the last time we allowed them to watch them without us there. My oldest used to go to their house for the day (they live an hour away) but after they forgot to feed him lunch and got in their second car accident within a year (thankfully not with DS and they were fine but it's the 2nd car they've totaled) we had to stop doing those visits. Honestly the whole thing just stinks. They mean well, and love their grandkids and I WANT them to have a relationship with them. I actually do like these people and it's hard seeing them go downhill but not realize it themselves.

[MomBoss]

When parents text u about something after hours that is dumb and could have waited until they saw u the next day! Thanks for interrupting time with my family!

[TheMisplacedMidwestMom]

posted in the wrong place.

[Miss A]

Screaming toddlers + putting on snow gear = one crabby Miss A. These kids are not made to do anything for themselves at home, and scream about having to do it here. I am SO ready for spring!

[Josiegirl]

Screaming toddlers + putting on snow gear = one crabby Miss A. These kids are not made to do anything for themselves at home, and scream about having to do it here. I am SO ready for spring!

I have a 4 yo dcb whose mom and grandma will do it all for him. He asks me to take off his rubber slip off boots and I told him no, that he is very capable. So he asks the other 4yo to do it and she said no, you can do it. So he asks me again and when I said no, he said 'but I don't want to get my hands dirty'. Well, kiddo, you're the one that tromped all through the mud. Gimme a break. I also refuse to do the 3 yos' zippers now because they've proven to me that they can do it themselves.

[Josiegirl]

Sending home a short note to everyone that rates will be going up $5 a week for all, the beginning of June. I've been working my way up to what the average rates seem to be locally, or what I thought they were. Then I saw a provider on FB this a.m. advertising $15 below what my new rates will be, PLUS sib discounts which make it $65 below!! She's charging 110 and 170 for an added sibling.Now I feel like pulling all those notes out of everybody's cubbies and forget about it.

[amberrose3dg]

Sending home a short note to everyone that rates will be going up $5 a week for all, the beginning of June. I've been working my way up to what the average rates seem to be locally, or what I thought they were. Then I saw a provider on FB this a.m. advertising $15 below what my new rates will be, PLUS sib discounts which make it $65 below!! She's charging 110 and 170 for an added sibling.Now I feel like pulling all those notes out of everybody's cubbies and forget about it.

Don't do it! They won't all jump ship.Shoot none probably will. My rates are closer to center rates. Centers aren't real high in this area. The issue is there aren't many and most aren't very good. We have a real shortage here especially for infant care. I decided to charge what a center does IF I take any more infants. I see facebook ads of stay at home moms or newby daycares starting up for 15 a day. :: I am full with a waitlist. Do not let those lower prices bother you.She will either get burnt out at those rates or increase hers.

[Play Care]

I just received notice that I'm being bumped back to tier 2 after being on tier 1 for 5 years. Five years ago I had been seriously reconsidering the FP because I hate paper work and the $60 or $70 a month tier 2 brought in wasn't worth it. I got bumped and my checks went to $300-$400 a month. I'm not putting up with the FP nonsense for a measly $60. #sorrynotsorry

[Miss A]

Sending home a short note to everyone that rates will be going up $5 a week for all, the beginning of June. I've been working my way up to what the average rates seem to be locally, or what I thought they were. Then I saw a provider on FB this a.m. advertising $15 below what my new rates will be, PLUS sib discounts which make it $65 below!! She's charging 110 and 170 for an added sibling.Now I feel like pulling all those notes out of everybody's cubbies and forget about it.

In my rural area I have one of the highest in-home rates at $125/week. But, I am also one of the only providers that has a contract and policies, and charges a flat weekly fee vs. Hourly or daily. While I still hate when a spot opens up, I filled my last open spot in less than 3 days. A $5/week increase is broken down to only $1/day. Do not let those newbies and SAHMs discourage you from earning a living that a veteran provider deserves.