Venting Thread

[childcaremom]

After the day I have had today, I am pretty sure I am terming tonight. When I served Breakfast, which DCB asked for, he said he did not want it, tried to stab me with a fork, and then repeatedly said to me "I will cut you". Then, at lunch, he told another child he was going to kill their mother. The ensuing emotional turmoil on the girls part was more then we needed at lunch. 4 more hours.

Oh my goodness. I would be calling for pick up NOW with an immediate term. That is out of control and not acceptable.

ETA: Ignoring the violence towards you..... (which I would not be overlooking and would term for right then and there)

If I was those girls parents, I would want reassurances that this child would not be around my children anymore. Sorry to say, but I would pull my kids if you were going to keep him there. That is way beyond acceptable and not something I would want my children (or any child) exposed to.

[Annalee]

Oh my goodness. I would be calling for pick up NOW with an immediate term. That is out of control and not acceptable.

[Unregistered]

He's getting that from somewhere, seriously not normal and scary. Yes you should term imo, and I would be specific in telling the parent about his behavior. Is his last name Menendez?

[daycarediva]

New DCB-3 this week, and I already know this will be a tough one. He is aggressive! Cries for hours each morning after drop-off, hits and kicks everyone who goes near him, especially me. We had to designate a crying spot, and even still he screams forever! He threatens me and other children, says he will cut us, or shoot us dead. Ugh. Parents are both teachers, and neither one is concerned that he is that aggressive, just respond by telling me they will "talk" to him about speaking kindly. Also, does not pick up, and will dump toys that others are picking up, then when he faces a consequence, the aggression begins all over again! Ugh!

Oh my goodness. I would be calling for pick up NOW with an immediate term. That is out of control and not acceptable.

ETA: Ignoring the violence towards you..... (which I would not be overlooking and would term for right then and there)

If I was those girls parents, I would want reassurances that this child would not be around my children anymore. Sorry to say, but I would pull my kids if you were going to keep him there. That is way beyond acceptable and not something I would want my children (or any child) exposed to.

He's getting that from somewhere, seriously not normal and scary. Yes you should term imo, and I would be specific in telling the parent about his behavior. Is his last name Menendez?

He is a HUGE liability. NONE of my clients would stay here if they heard/heard of/saw ANY of that.

[Unregistered]

After the day I have had today, I am pretty sure I am terming tonight. When I served Breakfast, which DCB asked for, he said he did not want it, tried to stab me with a fork, and then repeatedly said to me "I will cut you". Then, at lunch, he told another child he was going to kill their mother. The ensuing emotional turmoil on the girls part was more then we needed at lunch. 4 more hours.

I would NOT be waiting 4 more hours. Id be calling now.
His parents more than likely have the same protocol at school since that behavior is unacceptable in almost ALL school in the country. Sometimes police are involved. I surely hope they become concerned now.

I would also report this to your licensor now before you term so that you aren't blamed and so that it is on record so in case he does something worse in the future and his parents don't do anything to help him, there is some sort of documentation that they DID know his behavior was that bad and perhaps they will be held accountible then.

[MsLisa]

I would have termed him after the first attempt at physical aggression towards me. If I hadn't I would have termed the second he "threatened" others with those words AND because the parents aren't concerned. HUGE red flag in my opinion that his parents aren't concerned at all.

AGREE!
I had a 5yr old boy during the last 2 weeks of summer camp who told me every day that he hated me for no reason and would cry 95% of the time. He would **** his thumb, lay in the middle of the floor for no reason or would just walk around breaking other kids stuff. On the last day he gave me and my assistant the middle finger twice, knowing full well what it meant and with the most hate driven eyes I’ve ever seen. We wrote him up and when we told his dad the dad just laughs and goes "he does it to his mom all the time.". Five years old.....blew my mind.

Want to guess who called and wanted to sign up for Aftercare this past week......
Sorry, that isn't happening. Welcome to the "waiting list".

[Miss A]

I am terming. I know I can not put other children in this position, and I know that I can not do this any more emotionally. It is taking me away from the other children, and they do not deserve that. Thank God I have a waiting list!

[spud912]

Dcm just texted me on a Sunday morning asking if I can take dcb 1 1/2 hours early because one of their vehicles is being worked on. Yeah, so a 12 hour day, waking up way early, not being able to spend my usual one-on-one time with my daughter before she goes to school, having to wake up extra early. Not to mention dcb does terrible with lack of sleep and he already is my biggest headache (loud, obnoxious, defiant).

What ever happened to going into work later, or making adjustments instead of inconveniencing someone else's life?

I told her no of course. But she did ask if she can compensate for the time. I think that extra time is worth $75 to me (which is almost half their weekly rate). Do you think she would take it if I offered or would they be offended ?

[TheGoodLife]

Dcm just texted me on a Sunday morning asking if I can take dcb 1 1/2 hours early because one of their vehicles is being worked on. Yeah, so a 12 hour day, waking up way early, not being able to spend my usual one-on-one time with my daughter before she goes to school, having to wake up extra early. Not to mention dcb does terrible with lack of sleep and he already is my biggest headache (loud, obnoxious, defiant).

What ever happened to going into work later, or making adjustments instead of inconveniencing someone else's life?

I told her no of course. But she did ask if she can compensate for the time. I think that extra time is worth $75 to me (which is almost half their weekly rate). Do you think she would take it if I offered or would they be offended ?

What ended up happening today?

[Controlled Chaos]

You guys....I am pretty sure it has been 4:17 for like 5 hours...

[mommyneedsadayoff]

what a great Tuesday Hubby stayed up watching the football game (drinking beer) and comes in at midnight, loud as heck, wakes me up out of a deep sleep and proceeds to pass out and snore louder than ever! Cats keep me up the rest of the night and my daughter got up at 6:15 for some reason. Coffee!! Coffee!!

[DaveA]

2 pronged vent 1) 700 last night (2 hours after I've closed) 2 school age girls from the neighborhood show up wanting to play with s/a DCG. Apparently she told them on the bus to come over and play "anytime". OYE Not happening kids.

2) My license expired the end of August, but because once again our broke a@@ state can't get its stuff together and is in a de facto shutdown (again) my rep isn't returning email or answering the phone. To take part in Great START I have to be currently licensed. I can continue if I get a letter stating I'm in the relicensing process......from the same people who won't answer the phone or email.

[finsup]

*sigh* every kid came this morning coughing and snot dripping everywhere. Not to mention whiny, and being clingly for the hour they've been here. Everyone has an hour to pull it together or pick up calls will be made. Ugh...happy Monday!

[ChelseaB]

Well, it finally happened to me. My most problematic DCM with whom I finally made arrangements to correct the other issues (so she's more or less on daycare probation ) texted me at 6 AM to inform me she needed to drop off at 6:30. I don't open until 7. Needless to say, I did NOT respond until 6:25 when my alarm went off. And she got the not so happy response of "I do not open until 7, so you will have to give me time to get ready since I just woke up." She just began a new job, and she failed to inform me of her changed hourly needs. Hope she realizes that this doesn't change my time. So not doing this. Agh! :dislike:

[Blackcat31]

Well, it finally happened to me. My most problematic DCM with whom I finally made arrangements to correct the other issues (so she's more or less on daycare probation ) texted me at 6 AM to inform me she needed to drop off at 6:30. I don't open until 7. Needless to say, I did NOT respond until 6:25 when my alarm went off. And she got the not so happy response of "I do not open until 7, so you will have to give me time to get ready since I just woke up." She just began a new job, and she failed to inform me of her changed hourly needs. Hope she realizes that this doesn't change my time. So not doing this. Agh! :dislike:

Ugh! So what time did you end up taking her?

Will you be adjusting your opening time to accommodate her new job hours?

I would have outright ignored her and would have put a sign on the door that said you are NOT open until 7:00 and that no one better be ringing your door bell until then.