Venting Thread

[Play Care]

Today is the LAST day I'll have the SA kids all day.happyface

Because I had two new littles start yesterday I made it clear to the kids that we were on our school schedule and there would be quiet time.

Guess how many times they asked if they could stay up, watch a movie, etc.

I am off tomorrow (my last Friday off for the summer ) and Monday for Labor Day. Tuesday the kids go back to school and I do this happyfacehappyfacehappyfacehappyfacehappyface

I am sad to see my own kids go back - they were pretty good (mostly because we made age appropriate arrangements for them as I've encouraged mt clients to do all year long...)

[Controlled Chaos]

We are not having a very good nap day today. Our (very) challenging dcg has decided that today, when we have a brand new dcg who has never been in daycare before, that she is going to throw a huge tantrum at nap and keep half the room up. Our new dcg is just laying there starting at her with her eyes as big as saucers, looking scared.

I'm sorry :hug:

That was my yesterday. New dcb, never been in daycare before, my son (3) was TERRIBLE, I finally used my "scary whisper" and listed off every privilege he was going to lose, DS settled down and slept but poor dcb had the huge frightened eyes. Poor little dude.

[MsLisa]

...I don't know what I'm doing. And now my Sociophobia is amping up again.
Part of me want to be this amazing director who makes changes, handles and does amazing things. But the other part of me wants to bury myself in a hole cause I irrationally fear that I look like a joke.

[Controlled Chaos]

No hole hiding! You got this! This is your time to shine. Do your thing. I don't know you, but I am truly proud of you for get this position. You can always crawl under some blankets on your couch at the end of the night if you need some hole time :hug: but seriously - you can do this!

[DaveA]

...I don't know what I'm doing. And now my Sociophobia is amping up again.
Part of me want to be this amazing director who makes changes, handles and does amazing things. But the other part of me wants to bury myself in a hole cause I irrationally fear that I look like a joke.

You've got this. The transition is always like juggling chainsaws blindfolded, but you will get there. Like CC said, if you need to grab the blankets afterwards and decompress. But I wouldn't curl up in a hole- get a couple of chairs and use the blankets to make a tent. ::

Seriously- you can do it. :hug:

[MsLisa]

No hole hiding! You got this! This is your time to shine. Do your thing. I don't know you, but I am truly proud of you for get this position. You can always crawl under some blankets on your couch at the end of the night if you need some hole time :hug: but seriously - you can do this!

You've got this. The transition is always like juggling chainsaws blindfolded, but you will get there. Like CC said, if you need to grab the blankets afterwards and decompress. But I wouldn't curl up in a hole- get a couple of chairs and use the blankets to make a tent. ::

Seriously- you can do it. :hug:

Thank you guys lovethis
It really is like juggling chainsaws blindfolded! My now ex-boss has literally disappeared, my branch manager is clueless about the program and there are soooooooooo many things I have to figure out on my own. Its been an exhausting first week with all new experiences, a lot of fumblings. But the kids love me, the parents thankfully are patient and my co-workers are supportive (cause we are all very overworked and under appreciated). I keep flying between "LETS DO THIS!" to "Oh god I can't do this...". I wish I had better "people skills". Lovely introvert only child problems.

[Blackcat31]

Thank you guys lovethis
It really is like juggling chainsaws blindfolded! My now ex-boss has literally disappeared, my branch manager is clueless about the program and there are soooooooooo many things I have to figure out on my own. Its been an exhausting first week with all new experiences, a lot of fumblings. But the kids love me, the parents thankfully are patient and my co-workers are supportive (cause we are all very overworked and under appreciated). I keep flying between "LETS DO THIS!" to "Oh god I can't do this...". I wish I had better "people skills". Lovely introvert problems.

You are your own worst critic.

If your kiddos are loving you and they go home happy, healthy and eager to return the next day you are obviously doing a whole lot of something right!!

I've been reading your posts over the summer and like the others said YOU GOT THIS!!

I think you are going to rock that place and will be the best thing that ever happened to them!!

Don't sell yourself short! You CAN do this!!! happyface happyface

[nanglgrl]

Thank you guys lovethis
It really is like juggling chainsaws blindfolded! My now ex-boss has literally disappeared, my branch manager is clueless about the program and there are soooooooooo many things I have to figure out on my own. Its been an exhausting first week with all new experiences, a lot of fumblings. But the kids love me, the parents thankfully are patient and my co-workers are supportive (cause we are all very overworked and under appreciated). I keep flying between "LETS DO THIS!" to "Oh god I can't do this...". I wish I had better "people skills". Lovely introvert problems.

First off congrats! I'm sure you'll do great! Make sure you take notes on everything you do, phone calls you make, paperwork you fill out, conversations you have.
I had a position once where the person before me left leaving a huge mess and there was no list of things for me to get done. No one else knew what I was supposed to do so I had to learn from mistakes. I spent the majority of the year putting out fires that the person before me started and trying to figure out what needed to be done and doing everything that needed to be done immediately while organizing a binder of duties by month (there were specific things that needed to be done certain months). Some duties required specific procedures but since I had nothing to go off of some procedures weren't followed and I had to go back and do them later once I found out about them. None of these procedures were big mistakes but I like to do things right the first time. Anyway, at the end of a year I was done. I was exhausted. During meetings I seemed frazzled because I was. Even though everyone knew the person before me left a mess I didn't document all the stuff I was doing and make it a point to bring it up at meetings because I was trying to be polite and not throw the other person under the bus. I found out from a friend later that word was the new person was so much better than me and doing such a great job and I so wished I had done things different, documented everything I accomplished and brought it up. The new person would have been in the same boat I was in if I hadn't created the binder and cleaned up the mess from the previous person.

[NeedaVaca]

All new families, kids settling in well. One set of parents (in the middle of divorce) not so much, lots of "training" for them! They are getting better but last night they didn't communicate well resulting in a late pickup. DCD originally said he would pick up instead of DCM and would pick up at 5:00 even though he gets off work earlier so the pickup would be "consistent". Later texts mom finished her appt early and would pick up. Well, mom wasn't done, got here late and I firmly explained it can't happen again and add late fee. I tell them both that while they may be trying to be consistent, the scheduled pick up times vary for each set of parents anyway and the DCK's CAN'T TELL TIME Early pick ups are always fine, early drop offs or late pick ups are not...Looking forward to a long weekend

[Blackcat31]

All new families, kids settling in well. One set of parents (in the middle of divorce) not so much, lots of "training" for them! They are getting better but last night they didn't communicate well resulting in a late pickup. DCD originally said he would pick up instead of DCM and would pick up at 5:00 even though he gets off work earlier so the pickup would be "consistent". Later texts mom finished her appt early and would pick up. Well, mom wasn't done, got here late and I firmly explained it can't happen again and add late fee. I tell them both that while they may be trying to be consistent, the scheduled pick up times vary for each set of parents anyway and the DCK's CAN'T TELL TIME Early pick ups are always fine, early drop offs or late pick ups are not...Looking forward to a long weekend

:: that made me chuckle....

It's it funny how parents understand and support "consistency" when it comes to that type of thing but yet rarely apply it to anything else...

[auntymimi]

My Monday and everyone has forgotten how to nap. (Except for the baby, he's yet to learn) ugh. They're so tired they can barely hold the their eyeballs open, why all the fuss! Just. Go. To. Sleep.

[mommiebookworm]

Would you be comfortable walking in shows that are 2-3 sizes too big? Yeah i didnt think so!
Dcg almost 4, can't take more than a few steps without tripping. Poor kid.
I already mentioned it to dcm, but she doesn't care.

[BumbleBee]

Ran into former dcm while grocery shopping today. She's bent out of shape because her son (going into 6th grade now) has a special education class this year. I was a bit surprised so naturally I asked what class. She told me and turns out it's basically a behavior modification class for bullies in place of a study hall period. Well, no shocker there-he got kicked out of my daycare for bullying (and mom constantly making excuses instead of working with me.) Then mom says "I had no idea he was a bully. I wish someone would've said something sooner so we could've worked on it."



B*tch, please. We (me and at least 3 others who were in direct contact with this kid regularly) told you multiple times. Quit playing the victim. Your child is a product of your parenting, just like your 1st kid was.

*no I didn't say any of this to her. Just made an indiscriminate "mmmm" noise.

[BumbleBee]

Would you be comfortable walking in shows that are 2-3 sizes too big? Yeah i didnt think so!
Dcg almost 4, can't take more than a few steps without tripping. Poor kid.
I already mentioned it to dcm, but she doesn't care.

I have one who does this. Does this parent also send in the 'fancy' shoes that are so flipping uncomfortable that the kid struggles with them?

Ugh, parents!

[mommiebookworm]

I have one who does this. Does this parent also send in the 'fancy' shoes that are so flipping uncomfortable that the kid struggles with them?

Ugh, parents!

Yes they are usually fancy! I think that probably cost a lot more than mine do!