Venting Thread

[Leigh]

We had a trauma in our family a few days ago. I have a migraine. I have a slight fever. I'm OK when I'm with the kids, but when I'm around other adults this week, I have a hard time not crying. It's been a tough week. We're protective of our credit score, and this month we have been trying to figure out why both our house payment and our vehicle loan payment never cleared our bank (returned due to "no account"). No one will take responsibility for screwing up at the bank, and I have receipts showing that my bills were paid on time. So, of course, the food program rep shows up today (they visit about twice as often as they "have" to). She argued with me that I was over ratio. I told her I am not. She insists I am. This goes back and forth several times before she finally agrees to look up ratios. I'm UNDER my ratio, not at it. For both total kids and ages allowed. I am kind of ashamed of how I treated her-I was mean. If ever I needed a vacation-it's right now.

[Play Care]

We had a trauma in our family a few days ago. I have a migraine. I have a slight fever. I'm OK when I'm with the kids, but when I'm around other adults this week, I have a hard time not crying. It's been a tough week. We're protective of our credit score, and this month we have been trying to figure out why both our house payment and our vehicle loan payment never cleared our bank (returned due to "no account"). No one will take responsibility for screwing up at the bank, and I have receipts showing that my bills were paid on time. So, of course, the food program rep shows up today (they visit about twice as often as they "have" to). She argued with me that I was over ratio. I told her I am not. She insists I am. This goes back and forth several times before she finally agrees to look up ratios. I'm UNDER my ratio, not at it. For both total kids and ages allowed. I am kind of ashamed of how I treated her-I was mean. If ever I needed a vacation-it's right now.

:hug::hug::hug:

[Play Care]

DH is having a mantrum because I refused to go/take our kids to a neighbors/dcb's birthday party today.

My allergies are horrible and it's an outside party. Every year I go and suffer. I've also taken our kids to several neighborhood birthday parties this year without him because he was golfing. I jokingly said something about reaching my quota for kids activities and he's guilt tripping me "I didn't think it was an inconvienence to do things with our kids" "I like spending time with my kids"

Basically he's being an a$$ and I'm ready to brain him.

[Rockgirl]

"I didn't think it was an inconvienence to do things with our kids" "I like spending time with my kids"

"Oh, wonderful, honey! Then you won't mind taking them to the party. Have fun!"

[daycarediva]

"Oh, wonderful, honey! Then you won't mind taking them to the party. Have fun!"

[Play Care]

"Oh, wonderful, honey! Then you won't mind taking them to the party. Have fun!"

Well yeah that's the reply he got, but I'm annoyed I had to say anything at all. Especially considering I'm the one who has our kids all.the.time.
It's easy to think kid's activities are not inconvenient when you get plenty of "me" time weekly

[Unregistered]

You shouldn't mix friends and business. Slowly learning my lesson. Friend was suppose to pay on Friday money still isn't here today. I know I will get it eventually but my bills need to be paid on time not eventually...

[Rockgirl]

Well yeah that's the reply he got, but I'm annoyed I had to say anything at all. Especially considering I'm the one who has our kids all.the.time.
It's easy to think kid's activities are not inconvenient when you get plenty of "me" time weekly

So true. Ugh--I'm sorry.

[ChelseaB]

What. The. Crap.

Grr so I have had one DCF for over a year now. But when I sent out my updated contract last week, I thought I could tell a huge difference in the DCM attitude. She wasn't as friendly as before, and she would barely speak to me. Then, today, 30 mins before her 2 SA kids were scheduled to arrive, she just called me to inform me that she and her husband had talked over the weekend, and they weren't going to bring the kids anymore; that they had instead decided to enroll them in the after school at the YMCA. Okay, thank you for the 2 weeks preferred notice that I've requested since the beginning. Oh, and no, I didn't change their rates, hours, anything; it was just updating policies and such that weren't a huge deal. I am so frustrated. She never even spoke to me about any issues to give the chance to fix them, if there were any. This is the first time this has happened, and this was a family I had signed from the beginning, before I enforced flat rates, deposits, etc. So now, I'm going to be stressed and financially strapped until I find another family. So much for mine and Hubby's anniversary weekend plans.

[childcaremom]

Dcb3 who is hit or miss for naps on Wed didn't today. He had to go to the bathroom and yelled for me, waking up dcg1 in the process. She cried for the remainder of rest period. He finally fell asleep with an hour remaining. Had a heck of a time waking him and he kept nodding off at the table. Crying if I looked at him. I think dcm will like how easy her bedtime is tonight

New dcf broke a policy already (day 3). Don't think it was intentional and just reminded them but still. Frustrating.

All dcks are cranky and tired.

A w e s o m e last hour of the day ahead.

[daycarediva]

Grr so I have had one DCF for over a year now. But when I sent out my updated contract last week, I thought I could tell a huge difference in the DCM attitude. She wasn't as friendly as before, and she would barely speak to me. Then, today, 30 mins before her 2 SA kids were scheduled to arrive, she just called me to inform me that she and her husband had talked over the weekend, and they weren't going to bring the kids anymore; that they had instead decided to enroll them in the after school at the YMCA. Okay, thank you for the 2 weeks preferred notice that I've requested since the beginning. Oh, and no, I didn't change their rates, hours, anything; it was just updating policies and such that weren't a huge deal. I am so frustrated. She never even spoke to me about any issues to give the chance to fix them, if there were any. This is the first time this has happened, and this was a family I had signed from the beginning, before I enforced flat rates, deposits, etc. So now, I'm going to be stressed and financially strapped until I find another family. So much for mine and Hubby's anniversary weekend plans.

2 weeks preferred notice? Change that! 2 weeks WRITTEN notice. accepted on Fridays only, payment for the final two weeks due when notice is given. OR take a two week deposit when they enroll. I'm sorry that happened to you.

[Blackcat31]

2 weeks preferred notice? Change that! 2 weeks WRITTEN notice. accepted on Fridays only, payment for the final two weeks due when notice is given. OR take a two week deposit when they enroll. I'm sorry that happened to you.

I too, am sorry that happened.

I actually require two weeks written notice submitted on Fridays only WITH payment for the final weeks of care.

That ^^ is PER child too... so two kids would have meant a MONTH'S notice.

[hope]

I have 2 families, both part time. One gave notice today because dcd lost his job. I have been interviewing lately with no luck. Going to take a part time job for night hours at a very low wage just to pull in some money. Feeling sad because I went into home daycare to be home with my children and now I will be gone from them most nights and will still be making very little after working two jobs.

[ChelseaB]

2 weeks preferred notice? Change that! 2 weeks WRITTEN notice. accepted on Fridays only, payment for the final two weeks due when notice is given. OR take a two week deposit when they enroll. I'm sorry that happened to you.

Absolutely, that is something that I changed, part of the new contract that was given to this family. But since they were one of the first families I signed (before wisening up and making a contract, as well as requiring deposits and prepayment) they weren't under any obligation, unfortunately. When I first took them on, I just requested a 2 week notice, to which she verbally agreed. But it won't be happening again, that's for sure!! Thank you all for your words of wisdom and support!

[Sunshine74]

We are not having a very good nap day today. Our (very) challenging dcg has decided that today, when we have a brand new dcg who has never been in daycare before, that she is going to throw a huge tantrum at nap and keep half the room up. Our new dcg is just laying there starting at her with her eyes as big as saucers, looking scared.