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Started an infant today. Guess who doesn't want to nap....
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Told my oldest the apple tree was ready and come pick some. He shows up right as I'm laying kids down for nap and BRINGS HIS NEW PUPPY!!!!
I may have to hurt him.
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False allegations......What would you do in this situation?
I have been in operation for 8 years and have never had anything like this happen to me so I am unsure how to handle this....
I cared for a dck for 10 months within this time the dck has alleged what sounds like abuse....I was once confronted by one of the parents because the child alleged I locked them in the bathroom, when there are no locks on any bathroom doors in the home even the bathrooms that are off limits to kids dont have locks...when this child was trying to use the bathroom with the door open all of the other kids began to make inappropriate comments therefore I closed the door while dck used it...in dck mind I locked them in...
after I spoke with dck parent about this we moved on from that only to be confronted again a few months later as now the dck has told parents I yelled at dck outside..... myself and my assitant had a group of 11 playing in the park we called for the group to line up as it began to rain all of the kids lined up except for this child, who was still sitting in the park I did raise my voice for dck to line up please because it was raining and we had to hurry and dck was sitting on the other side of the park from where all of the kids know we line up at....
so again i spoke about it with parents and we moved on...after this incident my husband told me I should have dck parents sign off on anything that we think this child could perhaps use to say we did something....we even talked about removing the child from care but I silly me i figured the kid was only 4 and this is sometimes what 4 year olds do and it comes with the territory of my job.
A few months later a family member of the dck a 5year old soon to be six year old was enrolled into my program dck2 was with us for 7 months but left to spend time with family out of state. When dck2 left the parent wrote a very nice letter about the care we provided to the child and how much dck2 learned while in the program and thanked us for the care we provided.
Another incident with dck1 occurred a month and a half later after dck2 left the program. I got a call in the middle of the night from the parent of dck1 who now alleges dck1 was hit in the face by staff 5 times.. ( this is a new assiatant who was not aware of the two prior allegation the child made). When I asked staff about this, staff stated it was unture and the only time they had come in contact with dck head area was to brush out the woodchips that the dck had in hair from rolling around in the park.
The parent stated they did not trust my new staff and would not bring the dck back although the child loved me and the program. Before the converstaion was over the parent of dck1 conviently stated their family member who had a child enrolled in my program had the same concerns about abuse...this child had never met the new staff and parent left here and wrote a lovely withdrawl letter...
so I am confused..the next day the parent of dck2 called and left a message about the yearbook dvd they ordered(i had not heard from The parent since the child left care so this is about a month and a half). I explained they were not in yet and I asked about these new allegations that I was being told that dck2 now made.. the parent stated the dck2 never said anything while the child was in care, the parent also said they were sure the dck2 would have said something if someone had done something yet when dck1 made allegations they asked dck2 if anyone had done anything while the child was in care.
The parent said the child stated a family member of mine picked them up by the collar and threw them onto timeout Yesterday.... (YESTERDAY! We had not seen this kid In almost 2 months) . The parent cliams they did not believe it since the child tells everything and never said anything before and because the child said yesterday and was not In care but I am confused as to why dcp1 claimed the family member told them they had concerns as well.
i informed dck2 parents we would contact them when the dvd was ready prior to all of this maddness but I ended up closing my program for summer as I was so frustrated with this and did not know how to handle it. While I was closed I received a messgse from dck2 extended family member about the dvd and they stated if I did not call back about the dvd they would be showing up to my home..(mind you this is not the mom or dad or dck2 it is an extended family member)...no one ever showed up and I never returned the call to that person as I did not want to even look at my business phone while I was closed as it was just a reminder how I work my butt off to create an awsome program and am treated like crap so I did not turn on the phone in the months I was closed (yes I lost potential clients) but this family has made me lose my drive to do something I have always loved.
so the dvds will be in next week and I informed dck2 parents by phone but i am unsure what to do here..what would you do in this situation? Would you give the dck2 parent the dvd or a full refund as I cant see why anyone would want memories from a place that they alleged abused their child..all I can see in my head is this family looking at the dvd with dck1 and dck2 and making more false accusations..and i have a home daycare and dont really want these people with photos of the inside of my home but maybe i am overrecacting...I am lost here any feedback?????
Sorry for the long vent....I rewlly feel defeated by all of this my husband and I have had many sleepless nights thinking and talking about this whole mess.Last edited by Blackcat31; 09-02-2014, 12:00 PM.Comment
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In my opinion the parent of dck1 is just saying whatever they feel will get under your skin. If I were you I would believe the parent of dck2. What reason would they have to lie to you. It sounds, to me, like they have been and are continuing to be very loyal to you.
I hope things get better for you.
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I have strep throat AGAIN... this is the third time this year. I'm so sick of this. I have had it at least twice a year for three or four years now. When I don't have strep, my tonsils are HUGE and full of craters that are full of tonsil stones. I very much dislike my tonsils
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It's good to know, DCM, that you took the day off work to clean your house because you're having a party for your new neighbors. I'm sure your child would much rather be here with me, anyway. Don't forget to pick up at the last minute!Comment
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Uh, I am getting tired of dcm questioning the little bumps, bruises and scratches that her 4 yo dcg is getting. How is she getting them? By PLAYING and BEING ACTIVE! That's how! I know that dcg gets special snowflake bubble wrap treatment at grandma's two days a week, but 1) I have a few other kids here, and 2) Childhood is about running, jumping, getting dirty and yes occasionally, getting hurt. These aren't major injuries. The one she just texted about is a small scratch on her cheek that at first glance, I thought was a hair. It'll be gone by Monday at the latest. What is she going to do when dcg goes to school next year? Interrogate the teacher over every little owie? The ironic thing is about a month ago they had to take her to ER for an injury over a weekend and she acted like it was no big deal.
"Let it go, let it go..."Comment
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I am so annoyed with my school year assistant. Her CPR/first aid was up in July. As she doesn't come over the summer she said she would have it in time for the school year. I emailed her yesterday reminding her I would need her current certification before she starts. Guess who still has to take the class? And the only day she can do it is this Tuesday.
I really needed her here that day as the 3 yo preschool class has a shortened schedule and no sooner do I pack everyone in the van to bring them, I have to turn around and go back to pick them up. I hate dragging the other kids out for that.
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Not about daycare but its vent non the less....
I have nothing in common with my 7yr old daughter anymore and it makes me sad. Makes me insanely crave to have another kid. Which my hubby has already said no to a 1000 times.
She spends most of her days watching Minecraft videos on her iPad, plays minecraft with her dad, collect pokemon cards and has no interest in toys. All I feel I do anymore is remind her to eat, get dressed and make sure she's doing good in school. I feel completely disconnected from her. Like she isn't my kid.
I, on the other hand, love barbies, all things creative & art, and of course educational things. I dislike electronics, although they are a necessary evil for my business and social life. I would do without it if i could.
All these toys I have just sit...from millions of legos to gallons of barbies. I even find myself craving to buy more but know full well they will never see they joy they're should. It makes me so incredibly sad and even angry. I would pack it all away if I wasn't trying so hard for my business.
I want a kid who wants to squish play-doh, make puppets, experiment with science and read books on my lap. Who still wants to learn and PLAY....heck just go for a nature walk! She's none of these things.
Its really what fulls my passion for my daycare....I just want 1 kid who will come in and appreciate all I have. Make a toy tornado, wanting to try new things, giggle, laugh and PLAYYYYY....and i can't even get that.
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I have a cold. I feel as though it's been one thing or another all summer with illness and I'm dreading this winter. I wash my hands, I eat (mostly
) healthy foods, I take vitamins, etc. I would just like a couple of months to go by where I'm not waking at 3:00AM feeling like I'm suffocating due to cold and allergies. Is that too much to ask?!
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I have had the same issue before...
Well I feel for you! I have one, who gets dropped off first and after about 10 min after parent leaves he is pacing from front door to the baby gate whining! Really tends to get OLD hearing this every single morning all day long....ughComment
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When I say "I think her teeth are bugging her" and the parent says "She was up at midnight so we gave her Tylenol, and again at 6:00 this morning" then I ask if I should give her some today the parent says "No, I think she'll be OK."
Then why did YOU give her Tylenol??Comment
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I have a dcm that likes to drive me crazy. I have been getting better and better at keeping her in check. She was gone for the summer and returned with her newborn and toddler that I have watched last year. She wanted to use her own bottles instead of mine and I agreed. She pre made 3 five ounce bottles for the first day and that's it. So I told her that amount was not enough and I require a weeks supply of formula to be kept here, not pre made bottles. She put up a fuss because she was worried I would waste formula???? The next day she came with formula and text me 2 minutes after she left for drop off. Her text was instructions on how to prepare a bottle. ...for every 2 ounces of water add one scope she wrote. Really?
What I wanted to say was "not only have I raised two children of my own, I have also cared for numerous children over the years. Even if you were under the assumption that I have never cared for a formula baby before I would think you assumed that I can read. There are instructions on the canister. If you truly believe that I am that incapable I find it despicable that you would leave your two children in my care today.". But instead I replied "of course I know how to prepare a bottle. You need to remember to trust me.".Comment
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Today:
-My dog had an allergic reaction to some post surgery medication I gave him this morning. Puked multiple times all over my carpet. Ran out of paper towels last night, so I had to use and toss dish towels!
-At the park, I thought DCG pooped (she's a notorious park pooper). I went to check, and it went all the way up to the top of her diaper, so I got it on my finger, under my nail.
-Got home from park, and realized I left some cantaloupe peelings on the counter from an hour ago. Fruit flies everywhere. Not exaggerating, between 50-100. Where do they come from? Are they in fruit waiting to hatch?? Set up a couple fruit fly traps, but that was majorly gross.
-Same DCG pooped again during lunch. The gross, watery, sickly poop that has that "off" smell. I only realized it while I was carrying her. It had leaked all over her chair, her shorts, and my arms.
I need a shower.Comment
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