Venting Thread

[Mister Sir Husband]

{This isn't directed at anyone in particular! Just a general vent}
I simply hate seeing childcare providers who whine/complain/bicker all the time about kids. Yeah, I get we all have bad days and some kids are the devil. Its ok to vent and share our frustrations, just like any job. But some are just downright negative about it all. If you don't love kids then why do it?! {Money is a bonus not a motive!}
It makes me so upset. I would kill to have ONE kids in my care right now. Its unfair.

I somewhat agree with this... I can understand the complaints on here have sometimes been really excessive about the kids behavior and such, but most of it as I see it is to get advice as to how it can be handled. I as well have no kids enrolled yet, and really would like to change this soon. some of the problems I've read about here are things that I'd gladly deal with to have the enrollment..

[mrsnj]

I HATE negotiators. This is my rate. Period. WHY do some seem to think it is ok to negotiate? Frustrates me to all high heck! No where does it say "...Or best offer". So why take away from my time..........

Mom...third year....asking AGAIN at the start of the school year for a better rate. This time she pulled. Nooooooooooooo problem. Its cool with me. I think she missed that I am fazing out my before/after. Don't want to pay my LOW before/after rate? No biggie. Go to the school and pay double. Meanwhile, I shall kick my feet up and chill as the would be bus passes by.....see ya.

[MsLisa]

I somewhat agree with this... I can understand the complaints on here have sometimes been really excessive about the kids behavior and such, but most of it as I see it is to get advice as to how it can be handled. I as well have no kids enrolled yet, and really would like to change this soon. some of the problems I've read about here are things that I'd gladly deal with to have the enrollment..

I actually learn a ton here and its all constructive problem solving, its really the other places & groups I am a part of. I'm just like really? THAT'S your problem? I would kill to have that problem. Too many kids? Send them my way! & etc. .

[Annalee]

I HATE negotiators. This is my rate. Period. WHY do some seem to think it is ok to negotiate? Frustrates me to all high heck! No where does it say "...Or best offer". So why take away from my time..........

Mom...third year....asking AGAIN at the start of the school year for a better rate. This time she pulled. Nooooooooooooo problem. Its cool with me. I think she missed that I am fazing out my before/after. Don't want to pay my LOW before/after rate? No biggie. Go to the school and pay double. Meanwhile, I shall kick my feet up and chill as the would be bus passes by.....see ya.

I had a mom whom had 3....she had asked me multiple times before the third's birth if there would be a discount when the third one came and I always replied NO....upon the birth she gave 2 weeks notice because she saw I was serious....8 weeks later, I just took her kids back and she only gets her 3 days she works for full-time price.....she may use other 2 days with a cost and my discretion/availability for the day! Needless to say, she believes me now and come back with less than she started with along with feeling the effect of unreliable daycare for 4 weeks.

[Unregistered]

underwear on non potty trained 2 yearold

daycare mom brings a non potty trained 2 year old in underwear SERIOUSLY WTF? I think I'll go to her house tonight and pee on her carpet and she how she like it. freaking idiot he's in pull-ups or diapers until he's fully trained while at my daycare!

[CraftyMom]

daycare mom brings a non potty trained 2 year old in underwear SERIOUSLY WTF? I think I'll go to her house tonight and pee on her carpet and she how she like it. freaking idiot he's in pull-ups or diapers until he's fully trained while at my daycare!

I had a mom of a not-even-attempted-potty-training-yet 2.5 yo tell me "I'm just gonna put underwear on her and go from there" Ummmmm dcg has never so much as peed once in the potty. I just replied "At home only right?"

[Play Care]

{This isn't directed at anyone in particular! Just a general vent}
I simply hate seeing childcare providers who whine/complain/bicker all the time about kids. Yeah, I get we all have bad days and some kids are the devil. Its ok to vent and share our frustrations, just like any job. But some are just downright negative about it all. If you don't love kids then why do it?! {Money is a bonus not a motive!}
It makes me so upset. I would kill to have ONE kids in my care right now. Its unfair.

Actually, money IS the point of working. I find the idea that child care providers should be content to be paid in hugs and kisses somewhat offensive. I love what I do and I'm very blessed to be able to do it, but if I didn't operate in the BLACK, then I would have to find work elsewhere.

[LysesKids]

Actually, money IS the point of working. I find the idea that child care providers should be content to be paid in hugs and kisses somewhat offensive. I love what I do and I'm very blessed to be able to do it, but if I didn't operate in the BLACK, then I would have to find work elsewhere.

I'm right there with ya; I have no choice in what kind of career I have now due to a disability ( most people wouldn't hre me), however if I don't at least break even with bills, I would be on foodstamps ( I'm on the verge anyway). I've been operating with only half of my 4 spaces filled for 3 months now, and credit cards are somewhat floating me, so yes, $$ is a big thing... I also don't have a husband that brings in income, so everything is on me. I love kids and have been in the field almost 14 years

[LysesKids]

{This isn't directed at anyone in particular! Just a general vent}
I simply hate seeing childcare providers who whine/complain/bicker all the time about kids. Yeah, I get we all have bad days and some kids are the devil. Its ok to vent and share our frustrations, just like any job. But some are just downright negative about it all. If you don't love kids then why do it?! {Money is a bonus not a motive!}
It makes me so upset. I would kill to have ONE kids in my care right now. Its unfair.

BTW, when I vent, it's about the parents, because all I have is littles under 2 years old. The parents can make or break you sometimes ... I've been in situations that I wouldn't wish on any provider, because of overly aggressive parents who need it their way or NO WAY; yep, even called the cops on 2 families (different years), because they were endagering me and my charges. And yep, both ended up in jail and care was terminated immediately

[Leigh]

Actually, money IS the point of working. I find the idea that child care providers should be content to be paid in hugs and kisses somewhat offensive. I love what I do and I'm very blessed to be able to do it, but if I didn't operate in the BLACK, then I would have to find work elsewhere.

Absolutely. Money IS the reason we I do it. If I didn't need the money, I'd be home with just MY kids...I only take care of strangers' kids because I have a mortgage and utility bills. Yes, I chose this career because I love kids in general and enjoy most of the time I spend with them, but I would NEVER do it for free. Money is not a bonus-it's the ONLY reason I do it.

[Rockgirl]

Absolutely. Money IS the reason we I do it. If I didn't need the money, I'd be home with just MY kids...I only take care of strangers' kids because I have a mortgage and utility bills. Yes, I chose this career because I love kids in general and enjoy most of the time I spend with them, but I would NEVER do it for free. Money is not a bonus-it's the ONLY reason I do it.

Couldn't have said it better! My own kids are grown and out of the house now, and I'm still doing this. I still enjoy it, but if we win the lottery, I'll be generous and give everyone a two-weeks' notice!

[MsLisa]

Ya'll taken this WAY out of context....
I'm not saying to do it for free or for "hugs & kisses". Ever hear of doing what you love and you'll never work a day in your life? That's what I mean. I think doing it JUST cause it pays you or its convenient is greedy. Why do it at all?

I'm not going to college to become a daycare teacher cause of the pay, i'm doing it cause I love kids, teaching and want to give children the best there is. Whether it pays tons or pennies, for as long as I'm surrounded by kids I have all I need. When you die your not taking the money with you! But i'll be thrilled to know i made some difference in a kids life.

As for complaints, I mean the providers who gripe about kids getting dirty or making messes on water tables, or just silly stuff that kids naturally do. If kids are such an inconvenience to you then why do this? That's all I'm saying. And it wasn't even about this forum anyway. Thus rant.

[Blackcat31]

Ya'll taken this WAY out of context....
I'm not saying to do it for free or for "hugs & kisses". Ever hear of doing what you love and you'll never work a day in your life? That's what I mean. I think doing it JUST cause it pays you or its convenient is greedy. Why do it at all?

I'm not going to college to become a daycare teacher cause of the pay, i'm doing it cause I love kids, teaching and want to give children the best there is. Whether it pays tons or pennies, for as long as I'm surrounded by kids I have all I need. When you die your not taking the money with you! But i'll be thrilled to know i made some difference in a kids life.

As for complaints, I mean the providers who gripe about kids getting dirty or making messes on water tables, or just silly stuff that kids naturally do. If kids are such an inconvenience to you then why do this? That's all I'm saying. And it wasn't even about this forum anyway. Thus rant.

But that's the thing...there really is nothing wrong with doing this job FOR the money. The kids are still treated well, given the tools they need to learn and grow.

They aren't neglected simply because a provider is doing this for the money.

I think it's sad that love of children is a pre-requisite for being in this profession.

I doubt many sewer or sanitation workers are employed in that department because of their love of waste management...kwim?
Most of them are employed with the city because the money and the benefits make it worth while. Why should daycare be any different?

I AM in this for the money. I started out going to college for a degree in law. But I had a child of my own that is just like all the kids most providers vent about and no one wanted to take care of him so I had to do it and opening a child care to make money while I cared for my own child was the route I went.

I grew up with my own parents taking in foster kids. I have 5 younger siblings so caring for children has been second nature to me since I was 8 years old. I am good at it but loving other peoples kids or feeling all sunshine and rainbows when it comes to early childhood stuff isn't necessary to do this job and do it well.

I am the first to say that I do this FOR the money because I do. I make really good money being a child care provider.

It doesn't make me a bad provider.

As a matter of fact, I feel as though it makes me a good provider because I don't get lost or mixed up in the emotional part of it.


fwiw~ I did read in your post that it wasn't this board you were referring to but I did want to share another perspective with you..,,,there ARE tons of people in this field simply because they love kids and everything kind related. But there ARE lots of providers doing it simply for the money.

Like anything in life, we all have our own motivators as to why we are here.

[Rockgirl]

Yes, I've seen excessive complaining from time to time (mostly on other forums). It is nice to have a venting thread here, though. Sometimes you just need to get it out, and it's great that we can all relate. It doesn't necessarily mean we're unhappy with daycare in general--maybe just going through a rough patch. The positive thread is great, too.

[MsLisa]

But that's the thing...there really is nothing wrong with doing this job FOR the money. The kids are still treated well, given the tools they need to learn and grow.

They aren't neglected simply because a provider is doing this for the money.

I think it's sad that love of children is a pre-requisite for being in this profession.

I doubt many sewer or sanitation workers are employed in that department because of their love of waste management...kwim?
Most of them are employed with the city because the money and the benefits make it worth while. Why should daycare be any different?

I AM in this for the money. I started out going to college for a degree in law. But I had a child of my own that is just like all the kids most providers vent about and no one wanted to take care of him so I had to do it and opening a child care to make money while I cared for my own child was the route I went.

I grew up with my own parents taking in foster kids. I have 5 younger siblings so caring for children has been second nature to me since I was 8 years old. I am good at it but loving other peoples kids or feeling all sunshine and rainbows when it comes to early childhood stuff isn't necessary to do this job and do it well.

I am the first to say that I do this FOR the money because I do. I make really good money being a child care provider.

It doesn't make me a bad provider.

As a matter of fact, I feel as though it makes me a good provider because I don't get lost or mixed up in the emotional part of it.


fwiw~ I did read in your post that it wasn't this board you were referring to but I did want to share another perspective with you..,,,there ARE tons of people in this field simply because they love kids and everything kind related. But there ARE lots of providers doing it simply for the money.

Like anything in life, we all have our own motivators as to why we are here.

Ugh! I don't think I'm being understood here. This isn't directed to anyone on here!! I'm talking about overall, the things I've collectively read, and over all general vent. Do it for money, do it for love of kids but dont take it for granted. That's all. Ugh! Note to self, forget venting here.