Venting Thread

[wahmof3]

ticked

and just when my week couldn't get any worse.........

a DCF I have been holding a spot for just called and doesn't want to bring DCK now bc I will be at my max and they found someone who only wants to watch "1" kid.

DCK was supposed to start in a month. This is a family I know personally and I didn't charge a holding fee/deposit.

Its people like this that is going to turn me bitter.

I am hurt and ticked at the same time

I am so ready to close my business.........

[SilverSabre25]

Sent one child, (happened to be my DD) to a time out.

The other two dcks followed her and sat down in time out too, crying like I had told them to go to time out (and I most certainly did not...since they do not share DD's name!). I asked them what they were doing and they both said, "I don't know. I didn't do anything!"

:confused: I did NOT say your name, you do NOT need a time out!!!!

O. M. G.

I am really touchy and hormonal today, admittedly, but this made me really cranky. I mean seriously...WHY children? What possesses you to just blindly follow the others?

I told them to go play. One of them cried. I lost my temper and yelled...time to regroup and get back to pleasantry but really...I'm still irked and confused...WHY do they follow each other so blindly? The one in particular...she doesn't think for herself much at all.

[daycarediva]

I'm telling you, I had one FANTASTIC day with the littles, but my per diem girl was WAY off schedule and her Mom showed up DURING NAP to pick her up AND a Dad showed up with DCG on PICTURE DAY with some bed head and TOLD me to fix it.

If I could just pass the kid back and forth, I would be SO HAPPY some days!

[saved4always]

GOD I hope I am just premenstrual and just being sensitive to things, because so help me, if this is how this place is going to be, I can't do it. These kids are driving me completely crazy! They do not listen to anything I say! I tell them to clean (and they know how, they used to clean up awesome!), and they just ignore me. I have taken away over half of the toys because they refused to clean. They don't care. Soon they will have NOTHING to play with! It is ridiculous! I don't know what to do. And that is just ONE of the issues. I have no energy to do the projects that I had planned because they are so tiring and just don't deserve to do anything fun. Ugh. Maybe it is just end of summer blues? Good lord, I hope it improves soon!

OMG! Me, too! Today I had close to a stand off with an almost 3 yo over where she wanted to stand in line. She finally did what I needed her to do but it was painful. And getting them to clean up is like pulling teeth! I had that same problem today. Until they realized I meant business, they were happy to let me clean up everything. Until they realized if they didn't help, I was going to "close" the toys for the rest of the day so that I would not have to pick them up again. And then, just obeying rules to keep them safe! Does anyone else have a hard time feeling compassion for a boo caused by blatant disobedience?! These kids are so strong willed! It has been a bad day, can you tell?!

[mema]

Taking on 2 infants may not be the best thing for me. Just when I had the 1st one on a schedule and actually sleeping, #2 comes and dcm didn't listen to a thing I asked to make the transition easier. I know maternity leave is great for snuggles and running around, but at some point baby cannot just sleep on you or in a car seat. That is the only 2 places baby slept-all 3 months. Never been in a crib or pnp. Needless to say, baby has only slept for about 30 minutes since 5am (and 10 of that was the ride over) and is completely over tired. Rocking, bouncing, music, nothing. And 1st babe thinks it's playtime since babe 2 is up. Happy Monday! Baby #2's mom and I will have to have another chat tonight I guess about sleeping only in a car seat-not cool, not safe.

[phoenix]

Taking on 2 infants may not be the best thing for me. Just when I had the 1st one on a schedule and actually sleeping, #2 comes and dcm didn't listen to a thing I asked to make the transition easier. I know maternity leave is great for snuggles and running around, but at some point baby cannot just sleep on you or in a car seat. That is the only 2 places baby slept-all 3 months. Never been in a crib or pnp. Needless to say, baby has only slept for about 30 minutes since 5am (and 10 of that was the ride over) and is completely over tired. Rocking, bouncing, music, nothing. And 1st babe thinks it's playtime since babe 2 is up. Happy Monday! Baby #2's mom and I will have to have another chat tonight I guess about sleeping only in a car seat-not cool, not safe.

Have you ever read the book On Becoming Babywise? It has wonderful advice on how to get an infant onto a schedule and getting them to learn how to sleep on their own. I used it with my own children and I practice it in my daycare. Even if the parents dont follow it strictly at home, the babies seem to love the structure. I am often amazed at what the kids will do while in my care that they won't do at home. Good luck! Babies who can't sleep well are so stressful.

[daycarediva]

35* and dcg came in shorts, tshirt and flip flops. Are you KIDDING ME?!?!?!

DCM of other DCG repeatedly takes time off of work for stupid things. DCG is 2. If she is still sleeping at 8 when she leaves for work, she will call and let them know she will be late (as opposed to actually waking up dcg and getting her moving on time, etc) She took 3 days off when dcg got an ear infection despite the fact that on day 2 Dad was home and day 3 she could have been with me. Well, she is getting fired.

[Sugar Magnolia]

35* and dcg came in shorts, tshirt and flip flops. Are you KIDDING ME?!?!?!

DCM of other DCG repeatedly takes time off of work for stupid things. DCG is 2. If she is still sleeping at 8 when she leaves for work, she will call and let them know she will be late (as opposed to actually waking up dcg and getting her moving on time, etc) She took 3 days off when dcg got an ear infection despite the fact that on day 2 Dad was home and day 3 she could have been with me. Well, she is getting fired.

I will take your kid in shorts, it's 82 here. You can have mine that came in heavy jeans and thermal long sleeved shirt that is complaining he is hot.

[providerandmomof4]

Why did I agree to it?

I'm so mad at myself for agreeing to keep 3 sac (3 of the same group that I had such a rough summer with!) on school out days....Why...did...I...do ....that!? I'm absolutely dreading it. Sac are out Thurs and Fri this week. She paid me in advance for 9 school out days and I really needed the money at the time. I wasn't even considering that I would fill my sac slots with toddlers and not have room for her kids....never again. (i mean after the 9 inservice days-!)

[Lyss]

DCM of other DCG repeatedly takes time off of work for stupid things. DCG is 2. If she is still sleeping at 8 when she leaves for work, she will call and let them know she will be late (as opposed to actually waking up dcg and getting her moving on time, etc) She took 3 days off when dcg got an ear infection despite the fact that on day 2 Dad was home and day 3 she could have been with me. Well, she is getting fired.

I've got a DCM that does this too! I literally expect her to be fired any day! She got a new schedule (4days a week) and now 2 1/2 months later she still has not worked a full week (4days), she calls in or leaves work early at least once a week! Plus at her work you can call in 2 consecutive days in a row but it only counts as 1 absence, so if she calls in Thursday I know DCB isn't coming friday! The worst part for me (besides the fact that she's gonna get fired and I'll have a spot to fill) is that DCB is my earliest arrival at 6:15am, no one else shows up for 2.5 hours, and mom ALWAYS waits til the last second to text me. Yesterday she called in and text me 10 mins before they were supposed to show up and she knew the day before she was going to call in! It's really hard for me to get back to sleep after i've showered and had coffee in prepartion for them!

[queenbee]

My daycare doors close at 9am each morning. I do not allow parents to drop off anytime after that for any reason.

DCD tried dropping sibling pair off last week after 9am. We were out on a walk by 9am sharp and when DCD text and said they were "here", I text and said we don't allow drop-offs after 9am and we will see them tomorrow.

This morning we needed to leave at exactly 9am to be on time for our zoo tour and field trip. I was feeling nice and text both DCM & DCD at 8:45 and said we are leaving for our trip at 9am and J & J need to be here before that to be eligible for care.

No response. 9:20am I get a text from DCM asking if she could meet us at the zoo. She cannot afford to miss work today. We were in the middle of a presentation and I was unable to text back until almost 10am. By then, she had text twice more. "Did you get my text?" And "Hello?"

I never text back. As soon as my little ones went down for nap I called her. She didn't answer. Called again. No answer. I go on Facebook to upload photos of our trip and I see a post from DCM on her page. "My babysitter ditched my kids today. Guess its time for McDonalds and some fun at the park!"

I'll give you one guess on who received a termination letter by email and by text message Effective immediately.

Disrespect is the one thing I absolutely do not appreciate. At all. "Babysitter" was just cream cheese frosting on the carrot cake.

The post had also been deleted. But I took a picture of it on the phone and sent it with the termination email in case she got brave happyfacehappyface

Only downside is I'll miss the kids

[daycarediva]

I've got a DCM that does this too! I literally expect her to be fired any day! She got a new schedule (4days a week) and now 2 1/2 months later she still has not worked a full week (4days), she calls in or leaves work early at least once a week! Plus at her work you can call in 2 consecutive days in a row but it only counts as 1 absence, so if she calls in Thursday I know DCB isn't coming friday! The worst part for me (besides the fact that she's gonna get fired and I'll have a spot to fill) is that DCB is my earliest arrival at 6:15am, no one else shows up for 2.5 hours, and mom ALWAYS waits til the last second to text me. Yesterday she called in and text me 10 mins before they were supposed to show up and she knew the day before she was going to call in! It's really hard for me to get back to sleep after i've showered and had coffee in prepartion for them!

Oh heck no!!! This Mom was fired and is trying to do 'everything possible' to leave dd with me. I have NO CLUE how she is going to manage that, but we will see. I put an ad up for the spot. *sigh*

[daycarediva]

my daycare doors close at 9am each morning. I do not allow parents to drop off anytime after that for any reason.

Dcd tried dropping sibling pair off last week after 9am. We were out on a walk by 9am sharp and when dcd text and said they were "here", i text and said we don't allow drop-offs after 9am and we will see them tomorrow.

This morning we needed to leave at exactly 9am to be on time for our zoo tour and field trip. I was feeling nice and text both dcm & dcd at 8:45 and said we are leaving for our trip at 9am and j & j need to be here before that to be eligible for care.

No response. 9:20am i get a text from dcm asking if she could meet us at the zoo. She cannot afford to miss work today. We were in the middle of a presentation and i was unable to text back until almost 10am. By then, she had text twice more. "did you get my text?" and "hello?"

i never text back. As soon as my little ones went down for nap i called her. She didn't answer. Called again. No answer. I go on facebook to upload photos of our trip and i see a post from dcm on her page. "my babysitter ditched my kids today. Guess its time for mcdonalds and some fun at the park!"

I'll give you one guess on who received a termination letter by email and by text message Effective immediately.

Disrespect is the one thing i absolutely do not appreciate. At all. "babysitter" was just cream cheese frosting on the carrot cake.

The post had also been deleted. But i took a picture of it on the phone and sent it with the termination email in case she got brave happyfacehappyface

only downside is i'll miss the kids

awesome for you!!! Way to go!!! happyface That is beyond disrespectful!

[mema]

OMG! Do you ever doubt what you do? It has been one of those months where anything that can go wrong does. Seriously, if one more thing happens that shouldn't, I am going to have to quit doing this. My heart can't take anymore heart attacks.

[providerandmomof4]

Every time I feel like we are going to be okay financially, my parents are good, I have just the right amount of kids......I have one parent flake out. Today, dcm says that she won't be able to pay me for the upcoming week because she has financial problems right now. Then just stood there looking at me.
No, I will not let you pay me at the end of the week, I explained this in depth at interview. She leaves crying and saying she doesn't know what she'll do, she has to have dc.
I say, well...I hope you figure things out. I am not going against policy, and certainly not after three weeks. And two of those weeks, I had to ask for payment!!!