Venting Thread

[daycarediva]

This isn't really a vent, it's more a sad. One of my dcms (I only have 2) is pregnant and was put on a lifting restriction. Since she works in a nursing home, she lost her job, and I've lost the little girl. I made a huge DC error and fell in love with her, as I've done with my other little girl. They are both part of the family, and we all treat them like grandkids. I've learned my lesson and won't fall in love again. I'll like them a whole lot, but I won't love them and make them part of the family next time. I've had her for a year, and I'm going to miss her like crazy. It's hard though when you just have 2 or 3 kids like I do.

Ok, there is a little vent. I'm pretty sure mom isn't going to pay me the last week. She's a single mom and she's already told me she doesn't have the money. Tomorrow is pay day, so I guess we will see what happens. Maybe she will get a call today from one of her applications. I've been scouring the online places and the paper and texting her job openings. ::

since the lifting restriction is temporary in NY you wouldn't be able to be fired for it. I broke my leg, went into preterm labor (took FML) and THEN went on lifting restrictions. I did a LOT of paperwork at my former job but they couldn't let me go!

[daycarediva]

I got called a 'sitter' today. A mom was on the phone when she came in, she said "Let me call you back, I'm picking up ******* at the sitter."

It just irks me!

[daycarediva]

another one: dcb that is regularly pooping in his underpants. Told Mom she needed to put him in pullups until he is accident free for atleast a week. He came today in underwear. She said "Oh that's what he really wanted to wear" &%*%^)&!!! Who is in charge?! I put him in pullups, right in front of Mom. I already had to throw away an expensive area rug because he pooped on the floor and I could never get the stain out.

Same Mom also allows him to poop outside (omg eewww) and thought it was hilarious that he tried to do it here.

[saved4always]

I got called a 'sitter' today. A mom was on the phone when she came in, she said "Let me call you back, I'm picking up ******* at the sitter."

It just irks me!

I guess that means you can just "sit" all day instead of engaging her child, right?

[SilverSabre25]

Dear, dcb, it's fantastic that you've finally learned the alphabet (except for that tricky "emmalopee" part) but after hearing you sing it 59.5 times today, I'm tired of it. Please sing a different song. Or work on counting to ten. You're still skipping 3-8.

[saved4always]

Dear, dcb, it's fantastic that you've finally learned the alphabet (except for that tricky "emmalopee" part) but after hearing you sing it 59.5 times today, I'm tired of it. Please sing a different song. Or work on counting to ten. You're still skipping 3-8.

:: Your post really brightened my day!

[daycarediva]

My dcm who is my earliest drop off always shows up 15-45 minutes late. After repeatedly talking to her about it (I was even going to change her drop off time) she shows 20 mins EARLY. 5:40 AM! I was getting out the bathroom and doing my morning pre-kid routine (opening blinds, getting out my paperwork, making the bleach solution, etc) and just refused to answer the door. I went about my business (while she knocked and then got back into her car) and unlocked the door at 6.

[daycarediva]

every Wednesday one of my dcd's is off of work. I still have dcb and dcg (sa) during the school year at 6am-6pm. UNTIL summer, then every other Wednesday dcg gets to stay home with dcd. NOT dcb (why not dcb the opposite wednesday to give him some 1:1 with Dad) Today at breakfast dcb told all of his friends "My Daddy is commin to get me and take me and sissy to the playground!" I didn't say anything, knowing that was not happening. He cried at lunch when he realized Dad was never coming. I talked to Mom about it at pick up and she LAUGHED! I was ticked! Obviously your son is old enough to overhear and understand conversations and just assumed that he was included in dcd's and dcg's fun plans.

[momma2girls]

My dcm who is my earliest drop off always shows up 15-45 minutes late. After repeatedly talking to her about it (I was even going to change her drop off time) she shows 20 mins EARLY. 5:40 AM! I was getting out the bathroom and doing my morning pre-kid routine (opening blinds, getting out my paperwork, making the bleach solution, etc) and just refused to answer the door. I went about my business (while she knocked and then got back into her car) and unlocked the door at 6.

Good for you!!

[Hunni Bee]

My vacation has been on the calendar for both parents and staff to see for more than a month. I also verbally told every person I saw last Friday.

Still, I have received work-related calls, text messages and emails every day since I've been on vacation. Just another push in my back towards the door

[daycarediva]

EVERY SINGLE DAY dcb comes in a dirty diaper. Mom says she changes him as soon as they leave their house and by the time he gets here he has pooped. It's annoying. He isn't USUALLY really wet so I tend to believe her. She was a little taken aback when I told her where his things were in the bathroom and told her to put the dirty diaper in the diaper genie when she was done today. (They were 20 minutes late and we were doing morning circle, which I wasn't about to interrupt, move all kids to hallway to wait while I changed dcb)

[SunshineMama]

I am so exhausted today and have a headache. I got up early for dcb, and of course, as usual, he was an hour and a half late without a call. Just last week I had to talk with dcm about being on time. Ugh.

I have been chasing my potty training child around all day. She has been doing great, but its a lot of work. I need my break today badly. Of course dcd texts me and says he will be by to pick up dcb- 30 minutes into nap, so I have to be on stand by for him to come. If I put dd down to nap before he gets here, she will be up the entire nap time because it takes her 30 minutes to fall asleep and she will get excited at the smallest knock. So irritated.

[Unregistered]

BAD Monday

Registered but logged out for sensitive reasons.

Worst Monday ever! I need to redo this day completely.

1. My brother informed me not to say the name of my unborn child, which we just decided what we wanted to name her. It's the same nickname as one my baby sis wants to name her future second daughter. He doesn't want me to say my baby's name bc it's my sis' special week (getting married Sat.)

2. Microwave decided to die while preparing lunch.

3. Cops are across the street again (were there at lunch) because of a domestic violence or eviction at a rental house. The cops were parked in front of my house, and they scared one of my daycare moms.

4. I have a potty-training 3yo. She wanted to wear panties (when she's only pottied twice her at my house. Dcd settled for pullup). My daughter just got a brand new mattress set yesterday. I put dcg in a diaper since she never pottied ALL morning when I tried to get her to go. After nap (she sleeps in dd's room bc she can't sleep around the others), dcg had soaked through a comforter, 2 sheets, and onto the new mattress.

[daycaremom76]

LOL I have to say when I am having a bad day I always read these and know I'm not alone so today is my turn to add one.............

I have this dcb that started last week he's 2.5yrs old and is big as a 4yr old. He's used to being at home with his mom so dc is new to him. EVERY morning when she drops him off he freaks out and throws the biggest temper tantrum, same at nap time, same when the other kids are getting picked up and same during the day when I ask him to do or not to do things. He does what he wants when he wants. So dcm has been giving him gummy worms for breakfast. The other day I took them from him and asked her not to bring them again. He freaked!!!!! She tries to bribe him when she drops him off, we go by a schedule each day. So when he gets here he always wants to go outside and play. So rather then just tell him NO she says........well maybe when I leave Ms ?????? will let you go outside and play. So when I say no he freaks and these aren't like little temper tantrums these are throw my body all over the floor and kick and scream tantrums!!!! I have 3 2yr olds that are potty training (he's already potty trained) and I have a set of stickers that were bought just for those kids for going potty. Everyday he wants them too now if it wasn't for all the other "i want my way" outburst during the day I wouldn't care if he got a sticker but I tried to explain they are special for the girls the first couple days he freaked when I said no but now he doesn't ask until his mom gets here. And of course she says sure you can have a sticker just ask Ms ?????? to get you one!!!! The one time I explained to her that they were special for the other kids and she kind of got an attitude with me like they are only stickers and they are only stickers but they are a special reward for the girls going potty. So today the dcm picks up her son and shes talking to me about his naptime which is about 2hrs (1.5hrs after his tantrum) she wants me to only let him sleep for 30-60 minutes cause apparently he isn't going to bed until midnight at home. Now when she started here (and in her paper work she filled out) she told me that she's been lazy with his bed time and that she usually doesn't put him down until 11-midnight. This kid is in charge, when I told her no that I am not only going to give him a 30-60 minute nap she got an attitude and said that he's taking to long of a nap here and causing him not to sleep at home.............NO YOU NEED TO SEND HIM TO BED AND STOP LETTING HIM RUN YOUR LIFE!!!!! So instead of telling her that I just told her that she'll have to figure something else out for him cause he naps during that time and I'm not waking him up! So tonight I bought him his own pack of spider man stickers and I am going to have a talk with them in the morning and as long as he doesn't freak out and have a tantrum through out the day he will get a sticker cause I am at my whits end with him and can't take much more. I have a waiting list so it wouldn't matter if I let him go but I hate letting parents go cause I just feel weird having that conversation but it's really driving me insane and I watch a 4 month old as well that he constantly wakes up with all these tantrums so then I have both of them crying!

Wow............I feel much better now! LOL happyface

[Hunni Bee]

LOL I have to say when I am having a bad day I always read these and know I'm not alone so today is my turn to add one.............

I have this dcb that started last week he's 2.5yrs old and is big as a 4yr old. He's used to being at home with his mom so dc is new to him. EVERY morning when she drops him off he freaks out and throws the biggest temper tantrum, same at nap time, same when the other kids are getting picked up and same during the day when I ask him to do or not to do things. He does what he wants when he wants. So dcm has been giving him gummy worms for breakfast. The other day I took them from him and asked her not to bring them again. He freaked!!!!! She tries to bribe him when she drops him off, we go by a schedule each day. So when he gets here he always wants to go outside and play. So rather then just tell him NO she says........well maybe when I leave Ms ?????? will let you go outside and play. So when I say no he freaks and these aren't like little temper tantrums these are throw my body all over the floor and kick and scream tantrums!!!! I have 3 2yr olds that are potty training (he's already potty trained) and I have a set of stickers that were bought just for those kids for going potty. Everyday he wants them too now if it wasn't for all the other "i want my way" outburst during the day I wouldn't care if he got a sticker but I tried to explain they are special for the girls the first couple days he freaked when I said no but now he doesn't ask until his mom gets here. And of course she says sure you can have a sticker just ask Ms ?????? to get you one!!!! The one time I explained to her that they were special for the other kids and she kind of got an attitude with me like they are only stickers and they are only stickers but they are a special reward for the girls going potty. So today the dcm picks up her son and shes talking to me about his naptime which is about 2hrs (1.5hrs after his tantrum) she wants me to only let him sleep for 30-60 minutes cause apparently he isn't going to bed until midnight at home. Now when she started here (and in her paper work she filled out) she told me that she's been lazy with his bed time and that she usually doesn't put him down until 11-midnight. This kid is in charge, when I told her no that I am not only going to give him a 30-60 minute nap she got an attitude and said that he's taking to long of a nap here and causing him not to sleep at home.............NO YOU NEED TO SEND HIM TO BED AND STOP LETTING HIM RUN YOUR LIFE!!!!! So instead of telling her that I just told her that she'll have to figure something else out for him cause he naps during that time and I'm not waking him up! So tonight I bought him his own pack of spider man stickers and I am going to have a talk with them in the morning and as long as he doesn't freak out and have a tantrum through out the day he will get a sticker cause I am at my whits end with him and can't take much more. I have a waiting list so it wouldn't matter if I let him go but I hate letting parents go cause I just feel weird having that conversation but it's really driving me insane and I watch a 4 month old as well that he constantly wakes up with all these tantrums so then I have both of them crying!

Wow............I feel much better now! LOL happyface

wow....kid probably runs over Mom like a Mack truck. With the stickers, I wouldn't bribe him or say anything about them - I'd catch him doing something good and comment and give the sticker. But you'll still run into him thinking he should get a sticker for everything he does. Honestly...

You say you have a waiting list. This kid is causing all kids of chaos, and Mom is absolutely no help, actually the opposite of help. I'd give him two more weeks and term. You'll find that having that conversation is much easier than dealing with that kind of craziness daily.