Venting Thread

[jokalima]

Just say no - tell her you already had plans. Don't feel bad about it either, you're not obligated to do it.

I did say no, she said that we would talk tomorrow about it :confused: but that's not the problem really, is just that I find it a little bit disrespectful for some one to know that one of the few times during the year that i can get a long weekend and rest ask me to do this.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

New child is a biter.

[Bookworm]

I have NEVER had this happen so I should count my blessings--but a hand down a poopy diaper at naptime is not a good thing. At least she yelled my name so I knew something was up! Grrr and yuck. It was only on her hand so it could have been MUCH worse...

Oh, I can top that. I once had a DCG who put her poop in her mouth one day at nap. They were hard little balls and when I noticed her moving them in her mouth, I asked what did she have in her mouth. Then she showed me. I freaked out. We had to call mom to take her to the doctor. I wanted to bleach out her mouth and then give her a Lysol cough drop.

[Blackcat31]

Oh, I can top that. I once had a DCG who put her poop in her mouth one day at nap. They were hard little balls and when I noticed her moving them in her mouth, I asked what did she have in her mouth. Then she showed me. I freaked out. We had to call mom to take her to the doctor. I wanted to bleach out her mouth and then give her a Lysol cough drop.

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Another reason we REALLY need a "vomit" emoticon.....although, I don't think it would really convey how gross that is.

I wanna bleach my own mouth out from just reading this!!!

[jokalima]

Ok, so I have this girl that when she gets upset she screams, but she sreams bloody murder, so bad that I get scared that someone is going to call the police because they could think I am hurting her, yes that bad So today I put her in time out because she just was being to much, she started to scream like that, it was I mean I can't describe how loud it was, it was stressing me out and the other kids to. I know she does it because she thinks I am going to release her from TO but I can't because then she will be the boss around here So I just had to send her to the bathroom and tell her to scream all she wanted in there, and that when she was ready and calmed she could come out. She stayed in the bathroom screaming and kicking the door for around 5 minutes, i was on the other side of door or close enough to make sure it was ok. My bathroom is safe, I don't have anything hazardous at her reach and she is older, 4 years old so she uses the bathroom by herself.

Is this bad? What else could I have done?

[SunshineMama]

So the dcb I termed is STILL having diarrhea. 3 weeks later! Are you kidding me!?!

I have only 2 days left. I feel like I can't term him immediately and keep the money because that seems crappy, and I can't return the money because I really have to have it.

So this is my letter to his parents, that I am obviously posting here instead of sending to them:

Dear DCP's,

What kind of a parent allows their child to come to daycare with diarrhea.... all the time? You are selfish and horrible. What kind of a parent doesn't take their child to the doctor after being chronically ill? Now my child is sick, and so is my best friend's child- all because of your selfishness. Your bad parenting is the worst I have ever seen in this business. It is all I can do to keep my mouth shut and put up with these last few days. Do you really think that your group daycare provider has the time or desire to care for your diarrhea child for weeks on end! I even bathed your child on multiple occasions, going above and beyond! The fact that I had to bathe him should say a lot. And never a thank you. This is week #3 of this particular illness- he has been ill for a total of 10 weeks with diarrhea in the past 6 months. And no, it is not from teething- that is the stupidest thing I have ever heard in my life. I guess the other kids caught his "teething" from him? Stop the excuses and get real. Start parenting and take care of your sick child. I promise you your next provider will not put up with that crap (literally) as long as I did. You're lucky I was a newbie with no backbone.

[DCBlessings27]

Need a backbone

I'm mad at myself and a dcm. First, I turned off my alarm over Memorial Weekend. I overslept and was woken by dcm banging on the door. I feel awful about it, and I apologized twice to dcm and dcg. She said it was okay. I could have made excuses such as I'm pregnant and need more sleep, blah blah. I didn't though. I just apologized and turned my alarm back on.

I am upset with dcm though. I don't charge for days that I take off unless it's a holiday that care is scheduled for. So, I should get paid for Monday even though I took it off. Dcm gave me a check this morning for only 4 days this week. I didn't want to send a text, so I will just bring it up later.

I don't want her to be mad and tell me that I wasn't awake for her daughter, especially since she's constantly breaking our contract. She sometimes has to work later bc her office is busy. Yesterday, she didn't pick up until 5:40. I checked her contract, and it states that the latest time to pick up is 5:30. I don't have late fees in her contract, so I can't charge her. She is supposed to pay on Mondays for the week. I haven't gotten a check on a Monday in a long time. It's my fault for not enforcing it. I just needed to vent. I need the money since I'm pregnant, so I don't know if I should enforce the contract.

[SunshineMama]

T minus 1 day until diarrhea dcb is gone! He's screaming right now for no reason in the play room- poor little guy is probably suffering from all of his symptoms. I guess his parents thought a week in Vegas and another in NYC was more important that taking time off to care for their child. I guess their upcoming Dominican Republic Vacation is too important to cancel and take their son to the doctor. The worst. Only 1 more day!

[Crystal]

T minus 1 day until diarrhea dcb is gone! He's screaming right now for no reason in the play room- poor little guy is probably suffering from all of his symptoms. I guess his parents thought a week in Vegas and another in NYC was more important that taking time off to care for their child. I guess their upcoming Dominican Republic Vacation is too important to cancel and take their son to the doctor. The worst. Only 1 more day!

Call CPS. Really, this is BAD.

[SilverSabre25]

Call CPS. Really, this is BAD.

At this point, I really have to agree.

[AmyLeigh]

2.5 yo dcg came back from vacation a tv addict! I normally allow two 30 minute sessions a day. She cries or whines when I turn it off and tell her tv time is done ands its time to play toys or go outside. If she is still like this next week, we may have to detox. Lol.

[jokalima]

DCM gave me 20.00 today for almost 2 full hours of late fees, this not including other days when they picked up late and I never charge them for it , i know my fault. Well I told them that for last week it was going to be 20.00 , it should have been 40.00 but I wanted to be nice. So today she picked up 45 minutes late and gave me 20.00, said it was for all the time she picked her baby late. Really? I told her this week that she had to pay 20..0 for last week and she comes and says that? For today alone she owes me more than 30.00

I now understand when you guys say it does not pay to be nice

[Bookworm]

Ok, so I have this girl that when she gets upset she screams, but she sreams bloody murder, so bad that I get scared that someone is going to call the police because they could think I am hurting her, yes that bad So today I put her in time out because she just was being to much, she started to scream like that, it was I mean I can't describe how loud it was, it was stressing me out and the other kids to. I know she does it because she thinks I am going to release her from TO but I can't because then she will be the boss around here So I just had to send her to the bathroom and tell her to scream all she wanted in there, and that when she was ready and calmed she could come out. She stayed in the bathroom screaming and kicking the door for around 5 minutes, i was on the other side of door or close enough to make sure it was ok. My bathroom is safe, I don't have anything hazardous at her reach and she is older, 4 years old so she uses the bathroom by herself.

Is this bad? What else could I have done?

Nope. This what I do. I sit by the door and tell them to let me know when they're finished. I don't tolerate tantrums and usually by the third/fourth time they figure it out.

[Blackcat31]

DCM gave me 20.00 today for almost 2 full hours of late fees, this not including other days when they picked up late and I never charge them for it , i know my fault. Well I told them that for last week it was going to be 20.00 , it should have been 40.00 but I wanted to be nice. So today she picked up 45 minutes late and gave me 20.00, said it was for all the time she picked her baby late. Really? I told her this week that she had to pay 20..0 for last week and she comes and says that? For today alone she owes me more than 30.00

I now understand when you guys say it does not pay to be nice

Well besides simply NOT allowing this to happen at all, you can stop this behavior by raising the late fees each time she is late.

The point of a late fee is to discourage the lateness not just be paid for your extra time. If she is simply paying you (not even the right amount) then she could not care less about you, your policies or the fees and is going to continue to do what works for her.

I raise the late fees by doubling them each time a parent is late. After 3 late pick ups I term.

I don't need families that don't respect me, my time or my business.

First late pick up is $1 per minute, second late pick up is $2 per minute and thirs is $3 per minute. Fourth late pick up and they are free to go immediately.

Late is also a few minutes, NOT hours.

[jokalima]

Well they are usually late, not always but it does happen frequently qith them, it coul be anywhere from 1-5 minutes, or like the other day it was almost 10 minutes an she was not working that day.

Is fair for me to charge even for the 1st minute? Before I was like "yeah it's OK it is just this time" but when is started to happen more and more I am getting upset because that extra minute is a minute taken away from my family and son.

Anyways, i am still working on my contract and I did it a little bit different, I put 5.00 for the 1st 5 minutes and then 10.00 for every 15.00 minutes. What you guys think? I wanted to put 5.00 1st because is more and maybe the get discourage from coming late.