Venting Thread

[AmyLeigh]

Baaaad week

This is the only outlet I have to vent negative things....so here it goes.

Ugghhhhh!!!! I came down with UTI on Sunday, the day I was having friends over. I couldn't get in to see the doctor until yesterday, dh's day off. I came home from dr's to find all the kids in the front yard, dh not to be seen. He comes out of the house to move the bikes that were in the driveway. I asked him what he was doing inside....downloading apps for his new smartphone I got him. Then he proceeds to tell me that he went inside to use the bathroom and when he came out, our son and dcb were in the neighbor's tree. I told him that if he is going to let the kiddos in the front yard, he needs to use the bathroom before going out. His response? "I didn't have to go then!" What are you, 5?? Then I said that he would have to bring everyone in, or hold it. How do you think I got the stinkin' UTI??? Plus, we had the 2 yo yesterday. He left her out in the front yard unsupervised!!!!! I think he is trying to make me lose my license.
He knows I don't feel good, tells me he will help out, then plays on his phone and hops on the mc to go shopping. Sooooo annoyed. I asked him if he would help me clean house last night. He said yes, but didn't do a gosh darn thing!!!! Then later tells me that if I make arrangements for babysitting, he will take me to a movie Saturday. Ummm nope. I don't have time for it and I really don't like you right now.
I don't usually complain about him, I absolutely adore him as a husband and father. Most of the time, he is a great guy. It just seems he was being selfish yesterday and didn't seem to care about my needs.
So I didn't sleep well last night ( haven't slept well all week), and still had to get up early this morning to clean the house. DD decided to play wii right when I started mopping the floor in the playroom. I reminded her of her chores....yet again.
I don't feel well, am tired, annoyed beyond belief, and will not get to rest much this weekend. We are hosting Super Bowl party on Sunday and have a bunch of things to do before that.
I am trying my hardest not to take it all out on the kids. I am successful....about 75% of the time. Thankfully, the dck's are being great. My own, well, not so much.
Hopefully next week will be better.......

[boomer00]

Mouthy

I am new to the Daycare.com forum and I am so happy to have somewhere to go to vent besides a few great friends and my husband.

What to do when you have a child that is 5 years old and thinks it is okay to call his mom by her first name. She allows this! It drives me nuts sometimes I don't realize what he is talking about because he has used her first name. He is really rude and seems to rule the roost at home no manners no boundaries and just talks to me like I am not important and that I have no right to tell him how things are done at my house! Very frustrating!

[safechner]

This is the only outlet I have to vent negative things....so here it goes.

Ugghhhhh!!!! I came down with UTI on Sunday, the day I was having friends over. I couldn't get in to see the doctor until yesterday, dh's day off. I came home from dr's to find all the kids in the front yard, dh not to be seen. He comes out of the house to move the bikes that were in the driveway. I asked him what he was doing inside....downloading apps for his new smartphone I got him. Then he proceeds to tell me that he went inside to use the bathroom and when he came out, our son and dcb were in the neighbor's tree. I told him that if he is going to let the kiddos in the front yard, he needs to use the bathroom before going out. His response? "I didn't have to go then!" What are you, 5?? Then I said that he would have to bring everyone in, or hold it. How do you think I got the stinkin' UTI??? Plus, we had the 2 yo yesterday. He left her out in the front yard unsupervised!!!!! I think he is trying to make me lose my license.
He knows I don't feel good, tells me he will help out, then plays on his phone and hops on the mc to go shopping. Sooooo annoyed. I asked him if he would help me clean house last night. He said yes, but didn't do a gosh darn thing!!!! Then later tells me that if I make arrangements for babysitting, he will take me to a movie Saturday. Ummm nope. I don't have time for it and I really don't like you right now.
I don't usually complain about him, I absolutely adore him as a husband and father. Most of the time, he is a great guy. It just seems he was being selfish yesterday and didn't seem to care about my needs.
So I didn't sleep well last night ( haven't slept well all week), and still had to get up early this morning to clean the house. DD decided to play wii right when I started mopping the floor in the playroom. I reminded her of her chores....yet again.
I don't feel well, am tired, annoyed beyond belief, and will not get to rest much this weekend. We are hosting Super Bowl party on Sunday and have a bunch of things to do before that.
I am trying my hardest not to take it all out on the kids. I am successful....about 75% of the time. Thankfully, the dck's are being great. My own, well, not so much.
Hopefully next week will be better.......

I know how you feel about UTI. I just had UTI last Saturday and I wasn't feeling so well. I went to CVS to buy Azo medicine for UTI. It works very good. I have used it before because I am so sick of going to dr all the time if I have UTI. I have UTI in my life time. I would save my money to pay Dr visit and medicines.

Here is the information: http://www.cvs.com/CVSApp/catalog/sh...ump&navCount=3

I promise you it works and it will get rid of infection faster within two days but I warned you you will be pee like orange. I am so glad they have in the store because I don't like to go to the dr very often to get medicine for that. I hope it helps and save your time.

[AmyLeigh]

I know how you feel about UTI. I just had UTI last Saturday and I wasn't feeling so well. I went to CVS to buy Azo medicine for UTI. It works very good. I have used it before because I am so sick of going to dr all the time if I have UTI. I have UTI in my life time. I would save my money to pay Dr visit and medicines.

Here is the information: http://www.cvs.com/CVSApp/catalog/sh...ump&navCount=3

I promise you it works and it will get rid of infection faster within two days but I warned you you will be pee like orange. I am so glad they have in the store because I don't like to go to the dr very often to get medicine for that. I hope it helps and save your time.

Thank you so much. I took Cystex, which has an antibacterial. The PA told me that there was very little bacteria in my urine, so it must have worked!! He still put me on antibiotics since I was still having mild symptoms. They were actually cheaper after insurance than the OTC meds.
A friend of mine just got over a kidney infection cuz she didn't get to the doctor in time about a UTI, so that kind of scared me. KWIM? This was only my 4th UTI in about 20 years, so I played it safe.

[Hunni Bee]

Hi everyone. I'm a daycare provider that quit in November after 10 years of staying home with my kids so that I could go to work and get away. I had the craziest most awful parents. In the mix I had a HANDFUL of decent people. I quit because of so many reasons. I posted my "last straw" story but this is the whole shebang!

In 2005, I had a set of new parents whose baby cried every single day, all day, 12-14 hours per day and nothing I could do would help her. She had colic awfully bad, I knew it, but the parents refused to buy gripe water or anything for this child. The kids came dirty, gross smelling, and her 2yo son was just nasty. He bit, kicked, screamed, yelled and seemed to deliberately hurt kids. I've watched a lot of two year olds in my day, and never saw anything like this. They would get off work at 5 and not p/u till 8-9pm. They paid me a mere $100 per week for two children. That's when she felt like paying, that is.

After that I had great parents until 2007. In 2007 I had this woman, seemingly awesome. Paid on time, everything was great. Then she went bat**** crazy. One day, her baby was just crying and didn't want to eat. I did a report and told her the baby didn't want her bottle and was not feeling well all day, but since no fever, I kept her for her. I figured she may need to take a day off so didn't want to inconvenience her by sending the kid home. I am a nurse major so if something was going to come up that was bad, I could deal with it accordingly. The next day she was kind of rude to me when she dropped off. I figured "Oh, bad day". She came early to p/u the kids for Dr. appt and told me she wasn't upset w/ me at all like I thought (yep, I asked) but that she was mad about something that happened w/ the husband. They had been fighting all night. Then she said "thank you" and "I'll see you tomorrow and have your $80" I said "Ok Great. Well, the husband came by to pick up the kids who weren't at my house. Mom had already gotten them early for the appt. He got REALLY pissed off. Says "Give me the kids' stuff" I was like "What? what is going on?" He said "Just do it" Apparently HE hated me because I was "friends with his wife" OK whatever, what can I do.I figured I would call the wife later and see if the children were coming back. Before this guy leaves, he accuses me of beating the baby up! What?!!! My husband was about to beat his a** and show him what false accusations would do to him! After this, I called "M" and told her what happened. She said "Well he's my husband so I have to go with what he says" I was like WTF!!? After all this stuff and that's your response? I told her "Well you still owe me my money" She argued about the amount because she would miss 2 days. I said "YOU guys are the ones quitting, so you owe me technically for two weeks, but if you pay through two days, we're even and I won't worry about the 2nd week" (I was trying to be reasonable) She said she had to talk to the husband. A few hours later, she calls and tells me she's not paying me and she is turning me into CPS. I said "What, for real, over a payment? I told her "You can't do that because you can get in trouble for false reporting" I told her I didn't care if she called, I wanted to be paid and she could tell them all she wanted that she owed money and waste their time. Then she said "I'll tell them you burned my baby's foot" I was like "WTF?" She said "yeah, you did it with a curl iron" I was like "B****, go ahead, say that...I do not even OWN a curling iron and they can search my house and car, I don't care" She said "Well, maybe you'll have done it by the stove" I told her "Yes, they will believe that one because ALL parents/providers just cook their babies" She got silent. She said she would do it. She made up all sorts of stuff and then calls CPS. CPS investigates, nothing happens. There was not ever a mark on that baby's foot (they say to me) I said "because---DUH, she never got hurt!" Then the woman actually asks me to finish out the last 2 days and says she'll pay me! I told her to stuff it. No way was I going to take back a child after I was supposedly "abusing" it, right? That makes no sense. A normal parent who really believes (and isn't making **** up like in her case) their child is abused doesn't want to bring them back to the abuser!

That same year, I had a loser mom who was on child care subsidy. She was to pay me a copay of $85/month and the state paid the rest. She paid pretty well the first year, but always had some reason to pay late. Because she was pretty good about paying, I took the payments after the fact (dumby me). I knew she could afford to pay because she sure could afford the $175 tattoo the $35 lip and nipple piercings, the new rims, the new Nikes for her and both kids, for the new clothes she got for herself. And the boyfriend who she was living with. She decided she didn't want to pay and said to me she wouldn't. I told her that if she didn't, I would be forced to report that to the State among her living status with the boyfriend she had never reported living there. She said she'd call CPS. She told me she'd say that I left the baby in poop #1 I would never do that and # 2 Since I was VERY pregnant WITH TWINS, there was no way in hell any baby got away with pooping and peeing without a change practically in the middle of them doing it! I was very sensitive to smells! I told her to call CPS, and I did end up reporting her to the State and she lost all her benefits. She never did call on me but she did call my home and her bf called my home while I was in the hospital delivering the twins threatening to kill my husband and our other two children. My husband told them to come on over and try it. They didn't.

Then I had a woman who called me for care and there was so much drama in that one. Her husband supposedly beat her, so she couldn't pay. Her child supposedly got molested by some dude, so she couldn't pay. I put up with it for a time, but she started owing more $ than was worth me keeping her 3 kids at night, too. One day, she never picks them up. The husband comes at like 3am (their p/u time was 9pm). He tells me he doesn't know where wifey is and takes off like he's in a panic. I am quite suspicious that they are playing me. The next day the wife calls me and tells me that she was taken from a taco bell, raped and left in the mountains (with her phone, keys, car, etc so that the kidnapper could walk away on foot) for dead and he robbed the $300 she owed me. Weird cooincidence, right? What's weirder, is that it was a "black " guy (she was prejudice) and that he jumped in the back of the van. She went as far as to report it to the news. It was all over the news that she was beaten/raped from some guy in a line at the taco bell...except there was NO one in the cameras. She described the guy as getting in behind her with a gun and making her take off out of line...IMPOSSIBLE since there was a HUGE island on the right side. Someone in front of her and someone in back of her, HOW did she get out with someone in front? Cameras captured her actually getting her food! Cops were suspicious too. She had falsely accused a ghost! A few days after telling me all about the rape, she came by and gave me $100 and asked if I could keep the kids. Before the above was disclosed on the news, I believed her, so I wanted to help. Plus she paid me $100 of the $300. I kept the kids another week and never saw another payment. I told her that I felt terribly about what happened but that I could no longer keep the kids because it was hurting my family and the twins were just newborns at the time. She left pissed off and so I called her boss. I got another $100, but mind you she'd added another $300 for the week so she still owed me $500 by the time we were done. She then disappeared off the face of the earth. She quit her job, the husband quit, and know one knew what happened, not even her mother in. I actually just found her again. Apparently, before she moved away, she got found out by the cops and got into trouble, a LOT of trouble, which explains why she just suddenly disappeared. She'd made the whole thing up! Apparently the truth was that her husband hit her and she was too ashamed to admit it. Well, geez lady, you don't have to involve your whole family and someone else's family in your little plan to protect the husband and get out of paying me.

In 2009 I had yet another crazy family. This family daycare hopped a lot When they came to me they had a problem filling out forms, my transporting their kids to school, just about everything. I thought it was nerves since they had other issues with the daycare, but I found out later what it REALLY was.I had them over a year, so I was shocked when what happened, happened. During the course of the year, there were days the kids just didn't show up, usually right before a long weekend. The parents wouldn't tell me they weren't coming or if they were coming back. They usually paid me, but a few times they didn't. My husband joked about them taking the kids on these mini vacations to "hide bruises and give them time to heal" but I don't know why, but I had a feeling he wasn't wrong. These parents paid me to keep these kids very specific days/times because they "could not miss work" and lost out on some money here and there (their choice, I don't refund for your choices to keep your kid home) but yet they were so "poor" (their words). It was just odd. One day, right after my twins' 2nd birthday, they decided that they wanted more hours. I couldn't accommodate them because that required me to drive the kids to/from every day and I was already driving other part-time kids around ( meaning no room in my car on certain days). I let them know that if they could get their children on the bus route, I'd be happy to take the kids. They were going to do that but then for the extra days, they decided they didn't want to pay me for them. I was only charging $10 per extra day. For TWO children. Not a bad rate, I'd say. They said it wasn't fair, I knew they were poor, etc. I told them I'm not rich either and since they were having a hard time, I was giving them a hell of a rate. They still didn't like it. They told me either I let them bring the kids free or they'd make me lose the license and then "I'd see how being poor would feel" I told them "are you people insane? I don't do care for free, I live in the same neighborhood and obviously do not get rich off daycare because I work WITH people like you who need help and you have some NERVE saying those things to me!" They said that they hated me because I was taking their kids away. Ummm...How? I only had the kids part-time and then someone else had them the rest of the time (not the parents) so if anything the other provider had more time with the kids. I told them my intent was never to ever make them feel like their child wasn't theirs if that's how they felt, but that if that's indeed how they felt, why would they ask me to have the kids for MORE hours? After this, I told them I didn't think it would work out anymore. There were other issues with the children and them that bothered me over the year anyway, and I just was very uncomfortable. I had some suspicions of child abuse I had previously reported, and think maybe they knew this when trying to bully me. So I quit. The minute I did, CPS was called and I was accused of:
Not feeding the kids, beating the kids, molesting the kids. Luckily, the kids were pretty honest and told them that they DID eat at my house, I never touched them and certainly did NOT ever molest them! The police did get involved and closed their investigation when neighbors actually came to MY defense and against theirs, Even former parents who didn't pay me in the past stepped up for me. What really came out is that the child's father (actually it's her stepdad) was doing things to her. Apparently there were witnesses, so he used all the things HE did to these kids to try to blame them on me and it backfired! During the investigation, they also lost all their pets because the oldest girl was living in filth, left home alone with mice and stuff on the counters. Over the year, I never knew it was that bad. They were also evicted from their home and moved to another city. Mom promised to leave dad and once she was away 6 months, they GAVE HER HER CHILDREN BACK! I saw them one day at walmart and I was amazed to see her with them. She got back with the mad who did those things to her kid! Several other providers called me (she'd given them my #, for what I don't know) and told me their concerns too. Then one day the kid ends up bleeding everywhere and taken to the hospital one town over from me. The babysitter said she didn't know what to do. I told her to report, then quit or she'd have accusations like I did. She didn't heed my warning. She got CPS called on her too. Apparently, EVERY provider these parents used had CPS called on them for something and so it really helped our investigation. But still, you have to be crazy!

And then after that, I got smarter, but that meant no one wanted me long term. They would promise long-term but not sign the contract, or promise and then quit. I started turning people away AT THE DOOR if they showed w/o my $$. I had parents tell their CHILDREN to be nasty to me because of how I "look". The parents before the lady who called the police reporting her kid "missing" said she hated me because I should have provided more activities for the older kids (hers is a 9yo child) but yet, I ran a preschool, NOT a school-age program. I always took the school-agers if they had a sibling in preschool, but didn't have as much for them to do because they weren't in my care enough. I still made it fun, but yes, it was set up like a preschool.


These vents are just the BIGGER of the stories that led into my quitting. There were many more issues that made me realize I had been abused LONG ENOUGH!

I will do an advice thread later and when I give that advice, you'll see WHY I give it from reading this small (albeit long) snippet of info.

Really, this post is still here? Besides the profanity and general crudeness of it, it mentions a persons real name, their location and very sensitive details about them. Sounds a bit like slander.

I'm really surprised this got past the mods. I think it should be taken down, or at the very least edited a little better.

[Blackcat31]

Really, this post is still here? Besides the profanity and general crudeness of it, it mentions a persons real name, their location and very sensitive details about them. Sounds a bit like slander.

I'm really surprised this got past the mods. I think it should be taken down, or at the very least edited a little better.

I PM'ed you

[sharlan]

Why is it that when I wake up early, my early morning guy shows up late? If I set the alarm clock for 5, he shows up early...........

[sassysue]

Why is it that when I wake up early, my early morning guy shows up late? If I set the alarm clock for 5, he shows up early...........

Don't you have scheduled drop off times? I wouldn't get up early for anyone.
If they are not here by 1/2 hour after their scheduled time,I call.If you are late more then a couple times a week,they get a new drop off time.
Did I already say-I don't get up early for anyone

[sassysue]

5 a.m? Too early! Don't you wish dayare hours could be 9a.m.-3p.m. That would be great!

[MrsB]

ugggh...

So a little background first...
I have a 3 yr old dc boy that has a significant speech delay and some other issues. He has several tests and his parents are refusing some therapies and tests because they dont want him labeled as "disabled". On a side note, I have alot of experience with ADHD, Aspergers, and Autisim and it is more than just being behind on his vocabulary. But anyway, the parents only need care on Thursdays but since I do a preschool curriculum and they wanted more structure for him they decided to put him in full time. I told them that I start curriculum at 9am so more often than not he is there around 9. This morning they show up at 1030am and the father says that the boy slept till 10am, and goes on about how wonderful it was to get stuff done and have a quiet morning while he slept. (When boy is awake he goes from thing to thing to thing and is absolutely exhausting. Very sweet kid though) Anyhow now boy doesnt want to take a nap cause he just woke up 2 hours ago and is throwing a complete fit and woke everyone else up! Now a bunch of cranky kids! Ugggh really! What a wonderful Monday.

[momofboys]

Grrrr. DCF arrives at 6:20ish most days. This morning as I am almost ready for the day DH pops his head in the bathroom & says DCF called & said they would be 45 min late today b/c the DCD has a dr's appt. :confused: There is no way in heck that DCD didn't know about this appt yesterday at his 4:45 pick-up time. No one makes dr appts at 6 in the morning & I highly doubt he called at or later than 5:00 pm to make an appt. Ughhh. I could have slept in until 6:30 instead of getting up at 5:45! How/would you address this? This family is not very organized & I am!

[queenbee]

Newly enrolled dcfamily came at 6:15am this morning - I open at 6:30. It wouldn't be bad if she didn't POUND on the door and wake up my entire household. Ugh!! I threw a towel on my head and opened the door pissed! DCM was completely shocked and embarrassed that she didn't know I didn't open til 6:30 and that she could have sworn DCD said I open at 6am. She tried taking the kids back to the car to wait but I quickly ushered the kids in and told mom goodbye.

I know she didn't mean to wake up my entire house, but they are still awake and grumpy now. Less sleep = not a happy family :-(

[AfterSchoolMom]

GRRRRRRR!!! The baby is still not feeling well, but not "sick" enough to exclude. He usually takes at least an hour and a half nap in the AM. He woke up coughing and now won't go back to sleep...and he only slept for 20 minutes. Now he's going to be cranky, will probably take his afternoon nap early, and will throw off my whole schedule today.

[sahm2three]

2.5 year old refuses to listen today. I have 3 in time out right now. There have been toys thrown thru the air, friends hit and pushed down, and on and on and on. Ugh. I can't wait for 5:00.

[wahmof3]

ARrrrggggg!

Why do these DCP think that we provider's are open 24/7 and sit around all day long to wait for them to arrive or depart??????


A dcf I keep schedule is changing. I was aware of this bc dcm attends school & needed to transfer to another college- 1 1/2 hours away. So that would be 3 hours per day of drive time!!!!! Well the kicker is she needs drop-off at 7am on some days & 6am on others. My business hours are 7:30am-4:30pm.

Thank you DCM for taking me into consideration when scheduling your classes!!!! I am not open at that time & will probably lose this dcf if I don't do it. I can't really afford to lose them. She doesn't care how it effects me bc she has a center where she can take them if I can't keep them.

I guess I will look to replace them, at least I have until the end of March.