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  • jen
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • Sep 2009
    • 1832

    #76
    Originally posted by hoopinglady
    Drama with one daycare family whom I always set a poor precedent with. I let them pay late. Payment due on Monday, I've not gotten it earlier than Wednesday a handful of times. Daycare is dad's child support.

    I need the money today. I am struggling so much and barely living paycheck to paycheck. I texted her I needed paid today and ended up getting a bunch of drama. She kept saying, "I'll pay you tomorrow" and "I'll TRY to get it tonight" I said no, I need it tonight. Finally said, "look we need diapers and food tonight. It ****s that I live paycheck to paycheck but I do" God, how humiliating. Dad called me directly and is supposedly paying me tomorrow for two weeks and will "make sure I have it on time from now on". He was sweet as pie and reasonable even though I am still not getting my money tonight.

    She arrived for pick up and said he said they'll just look for another sitter if it's that big of a deal and if I'm living paycheck to paycheck. What a kick in the teeth for charging them next to nothing!!!! So now I don't know who to believe and have to brace for getting fired. He's firing me because I want to be paid? um.....

    She then goes on to say that dcb, 3.5 is going to be "taking medicine now" and that she "could not deal with him this weekend" I adore this boy. He is starved for attention and I work with him a lot. I do not want him to be medicated.

    THEN I get a call that my other new dcb who hasn't been here in three days dad is getting laid off and sorry for the short notice but doesn't need daycare.

    I know I did this to myself and I am planning night and day to get my program to be what I want and fix the mistakes I've made so far. It's a little difficult to improve the business with no income!

    After the walk from hell this morning, I am so frazzled. I just want to cry right now.
    Hugs! That whole thing just ****s. Here is to getting better clients, who pay on time so you won't have to live paycheck to paycheck!!!

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    • hoopinglady
      Daycare.com Member
      • Oct 2011
      • 245

      #77
      Originally posted by jen
      Hugs! That whole thing just ****s. Here is to getting better clients, who pay on time so you won't have to live paycheck to paycheck!!!
      Thank you, dear. I know..it is totally in the back of my mind that this is a blessing, but still....

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      • mema
        Daycare.com Member
        • Jul 2011
        • 1979

        #78
        OMG! It there a full moon coming or something? I have a DCG-2.75 that has been screaming and crying at EVERY meal. The food is nothing new. We've had it all before. I take her down and tell her when she is done screaming she can return to the table. She says ok, calms down and goes back to the table. 2 minutes later, she starts in again. She didn't eat breakfast today because after going back and starting in again, I just removed her and the plate.
        She also refused to put shoes on to go for a walk. Everyone else was ready to go, so I had her sit at the front door and everyone else waited outside on the step so she could see that we were waiting for her. After 10 minutes, I finally got her to let me put them on. She cried and screamed the first 10 or so houses. My poor neighbors. She rarely cries or pitches a fit, so I'm not sure what is going on, but I hope it doesn't last.

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        • BigMama
          Daycare.com Member
          • Oct 2011
          • 158

          #79
          Ugh Neighbors!

          I had a busy but good morning with the DCKs. It is unseasonably warm here so we played outside and went for a walk after our morning activities. They all ate a good lunch and went down for their naps so peacefully. I knew they were tired and I was looking forward to getting some much needed organizing done while they napped. Weeeelllll....my neighbor has two toddlers (ages 1 and 2) that don't nap and she had them outside. They use my backyard like it is a public playground (a whole other issue), but today her 2-year-old decided that he needed to be on my front porch. Because it was so nice out I had the front windows open...windows that lead right into where the kids are sleeping. Well, the boy is talking and shouting and the mom is talking in her regular loud voice. They had already woke up one DCK when I went over & shut the windows (which she apparently took offense to). Seriously? SERIOUSLY?

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          • Cat Herder
            Advanced Daycare.com Member
            • Dec 2010
            • 13744

            #80
            So I fell, injured my arm and now EVERYTHING is taking twice as long to get done. Grrr.. I am tired, my arm hurts AND I'm grumpy.

            This week needs to end, NOW.

            Where's the caffeine and chocolate???
            - Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.

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            • queenbee
              Daycare.com Member
              • Oct 2011
              • 132

              #81
              In my November newsletter, I reiterated my policy of No Naptime Pickups.

              My separate garage is converted to our daycare room with a kitchen and a bathroom and a separate infant space.....but we are all in the same large room. All of my children start getting tucked into mats and into pack'n'plays at around 12pm everyday.

              Today TWO of my parents informed me that the kids have doctor appointments and that they will be picking up between 12:30 and 1pm.

              Really?

              I absolutely dread pickups that happen during naptime. It disrupts my schedule and then I have to keep up kids who should be sleeping and who then cry because they want to lay down.

              Never again. The parents got a big ol' *sigh* and I reminded them AGAIN, that I don't allow naptime pick-ups and that they need to schedule appointments after naptime. I can only imagine the crying and fit-throwing the parents have to listen to on the way to the doctors.

              Why would anyhone schedule a child's doctor appointment during naptime? :confused:

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              • SilverSabre25
                Senior Member
                • Aug 2010
                • 7585

                #82
                Gulp...I have to go vote by myself with two cranky children. Here's hoping the wait is short.
                Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!

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                • kayla
                  New Daycare.com Member
                  • Nov 2011
                  • 298

                  #83
                  how come parents cant pick up their kids when there done at work

                  Ok this has been seriously bugging me for awhile now. my husband works with one of my daycare parents. Awhile back he heard her talking to another co-worker saying "oh i never leave my kid at daycare unless i need to" well i have her child everyday for the max amount of time they seriously wait til 4:59 a min before i close to pick up their child, mind you hes already been kicked out of a daycare here in town. Well my problem is she has been off at 2:00 everyday, you think she could pick up her child who is disruptive early??? oh no... i get that you have things to do but me myself i would pick up my child to spend time with them. i've come to the conclusion she leaves him because she cannot stand him well im pregnant and they know that, even on days when i tell them hes my only kid they still dont come and pick him up until i close, im thinking im gonna start closing early on days i just have him because i know the dad doesnt work and my husband is her boss and i know she gets off at 2, any help would sure be appreciated!!! im rally starting to stress out :confused:

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                  • daycare
                    Advanced Daycare.com *********
                    • Feb 2011
                    • 16259

                    #84
                    start charging by the hour.....about $6.50 an hour and I bet she will pick up as soon as she is off of work

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                    • Christian Mother
                      Advanced Daycare.com Member
                      • Feb 2011
                      • 875

                      #85
                      Originally posted by kayla
                      Ok this has been seriously bugging me for awhile now. my husband works with one of my daycare parents. Awhile back he heard her talking to another co-worker saying "oh i never leave my kid at daycare unless i need to" well i have her child everyday for the max amount of time they seriously wait til 4:59 a min before i close to pick up their child, mind you hes already been kicked out of a daycare here in town. Well my problem is she has been off at 2:00 everyday, you think she could pick up her child who is disruptive early??? oh no... i get that you have things to do but me myself i would pick up my child to spend time with them. i've come to the conclusion she leaves him because she cannot stand him well im pregnant and they know that, even on days when i tell them hes my only kid they still dont come and pick him up until i close, im thinking im gonna start closing early on days i just have him because i know the dad doesnt work and my husband is her boss and i know she gets off at 2, any help would sure be appreciated!!! im rally starting to stress out :confused:
                      How long have you had this family in care? I think it's time to have a meeting with the family. Explain to them that you've noticed repeatedly that pick up is late each day. Ask them if they need more hrs. If your willing to do this set a specific fee on charge of what you already charge the family. If you really would like them to pick up early since she gets off at 2pm then tell her you have now made a change to your contract and policies that you will only care for children that are working. Since she is now off at 2pm she will need to pick up. If she wishes to use more hrs and your ok with that then put a price to it otherwise tell her no. The things is by changing she could term. or you have that choice to term if she isn't willing to pick up on time. You have couple of options really. Good Luck!

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                      • auntbecca

                        #86
                        This is my first time posting, and this venting thread came in handy today!

                        When I give parents my policies to sign and a copy to keep I was under the misconception that they would actually read them. I even go over the policies with them. Especially the one about two full weeks notice of an absence or they will be charged for the scheduled day. 9 days is not two weeks notice. She is a bank teller, i assumed she could count. (Please excuse the snarkiness) Anyway when I told her how much she owes me for the week she got all crabby about having to pay for Veteran's Day because she is off work. I am not closed that day. I have two of her kids all day and one after school. I can't afford to not make her follow the same rules as my other parents. I am not getting rich off of $2 an hour! So she sent me a text and told me just so we were clear she is off every federal holiday and the kids will not be here on those days.

                        My husband was right, I shouldn't babysit for people I know. But in a small town, I know everybody.

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                        • Christian Mother
                          Advanced Daycare.com Member
                          • Feb 2011
                          • 875

                          #87
                          Originally posted by auntbecca
                          This is my first time posting, and this venting thread came in handy today!

                          When I give parents my policies to sign and a copy to keep I was under the misconception that they would actually read them. I even go over the policies with them. Especially the one about two full weeks notice of an absence or they will be charged for the scheduled day. 9 days is not two weeks notice. She is a bank teller, i assumed she could count. (Please excuse the snarkiness) Anyway when I told her how much she owes me for the week she got all crabby about having to pay for Veteran's Day because she is off work. I am not closed that day. I have two of her kids all day and one after school. I can't afford to not make her follow the same rules as my other parents. I am not getting rich off of $2 an hour! So she sent me a text and told me just so we were clear she is off every federal holiday and the kids will not be here on those days.

                          My husband was right, I shouldn't babysit for people I know. But in a small town, I know everybody.
                          What is in your phb and contract about paid holidays? Do you have anything in there about being paid regardless of whether the kids are in care or not? You might need to make a change this upcoming yr with that new policy. I ashually need to do that this yr as well. That way I am covered. Regardless as to whether the parent has a personal day or sick day what have you. If they decide to take it off and keep there child home then they will still have to pay regardless. Specially if daycare is open. She paid for that day so she always has the option to bring dck's to you....

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                          • familyschoolcare
                            Advanced Daycare.com Member
                            • Jun 2011
                            • 1284

                            #88
                            Originally posted by auntbecca
                            This is my first time posting, and this venting thread came in handy today!

                            When I give parents my policies to sign and a copy to keep I was under the misconception that they would actually read them. I even go over the policies with them. Especially the one about two full weeks notice of an absence or they will be charged for the scheduled day. 9 days is not two weeks notice. She is a bank teller, i assumed she could count. (Please excuse the snarkiness) Anyway when I told her how much she owes me for the week she got all crabby about having to pay for Veteran's Day because she is off work. I am not closed that day. I have two of her kids all day and one after school. I can't afford to not make her follow the same rules as my other parents. I am not getting rich off of $2 an hour! So she sent me a text and told me just so we were clear she is off every federal holiday and the kids will not be here on those days.

                            My husband was right, I shouldn't babysit for people I know. But in a small town, I know everybody.
                            Tell the parent you have too much going on all year long to keep track of what days are Federal holidays so she will still need to give you a two week notice. After all she could ddecied to make plans for that day and bring the kids. At least that is the way it sounded.

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                            • auntbecca

                              #89
                              Originally posted by Christian Mother
                              What is in your phb and contract about paid holidays? Do you have anything in there about being paid regardless of whether the kids are in care or not? You might need to make a change this upcoming yr with that new policy. I ashually need to do that this yr as well. That way I am covered. Regardless as to whether the parent has a personal day or sick day what have you. If they decide to take it off and keep there child home then they will still have to pay regardless. Specially if daycare is open. She paid for that day so she always has the option to bring dck's to you....
                              My policy states that if they are scheduled for that day and I am open they have to pay for that day unless they give me two weeks notice and then they can use one of their 10 days I give each year for parents to take the kids out for vacation. And her kids are scheduled for Fridays when the holiday falls. I also require them to pay if they take off a sick day. The only time I don't require payment is if I close due. I plan to update my policies and have the parents sign again, but I doubt it will make a difference. I've been trying for 6 months to get one parent to understand I open at 7:15, not 7:07.

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                              • Christian Mother
                                Advanced Daycare.com Member
                                • Feb 2011
                                • 875

                                #90
                                Originally posted by auntbecca
                                My policy states that if they are scheduled for that day and I am open they have to pay for that day unless they give me two weeks notice and then they can use one of their 10 days I give each year for parents to take the kids out for vacation. And her kids are scheduled for Fridays when the holiday falls. I also require them to pay if they take off a sick day. The only time I don't require payment is if I close due. I plan to update my policies and have the parents sign again, but I doubt it will make a difference. I've been trying for 6 months to get one parent to understand I open at 7:15, not 7:07.
                                Then I would call her and if she doesn't answer advise her per message that per your guys contract that your paid regardless of federal holidays. If she wish's to take a day off it needs to be in writing..and a text message will not be excepted as form of writing. Let her know that she can use 1 of the 10 days you give her as a free holiday if that is how she wishes to use it. Other wise she will still need to pay. As far as opening time lock your door turn the lights out and if someone comes knocking that early don't answer. Not til 7:15am right on the dot. Then turn lights on and unlock your door at 7:15am if you have a parent upset tell them that you do NOT open up til then. If they continue to come early then will not be welcomed in to daycare. If they get upset advise them that if they wish to have a meeting on changing the time to best fit there needs to schedule one with you. Then at that time you can determine if you'd like to open early...but make sure you charge a extra fee for that service. I guarantee that if you put a fee to it that they will not come early or they will wait in their car.

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