Venting Thread

[e.j.]

Oh, that stinks! Hopefully it wasn't deliberate on their part and just an honest slip up. If they were my sisters, I'd talk it over with them to see if it would be possible to reschedule the anniversary party. If they said it's not possible, I'd plan to celebrate my son's birthday on his actual birth date with immediate family and have an extended family/friends party on whatever other weekend is available. If your son is young enough, he may not even pick up on the fact that his birthday party is being held on a different weekend than usually celebrated. If he's old enough to realize the anniversary party is horning in on his usual weekend and is bothered by it, I would explain that a mistake was made and sometimes, we need to be flexible for the sake of family harmony. I'd encourage him to be happy for his grandparents and reassure him that his birthday party is going to happen - it will just happen either earlier or later than usual this year.

[Alwaysgreener]

So I use my dh FB account to do things on FB. My friend sent her son's bday party invite and I was responding to it, but then I looked over and saw a 60th party event off to the side. I clicked on it out of curiosity and two of my sisters got together to throw our parents a 60th-anniversary party the same day I was planning my kid's bday party. I had not sent out official invites because it is over a month away but I do it the same weekend every year, in between both of their birthdays.

BTW parents' anniversary was in March but they are south right now and will be returning at the end of April. They are planning the party three weeks later. They could have planned this earlier in May or waited until June.

I can't boycott the party either because they are having it at my sister's house who lives next door.

[Alwaysgreener]

So glad allergies, teething and ear infections are not contagious.​

[Alwaysgreener]

The darnest things kids say...

DCB playing with his sister this morning, Says to her that "if she did not stop touching him/taking the toy/pushing him, that Alwaysgreener said that she would not give her anything to eat or drink"

Um no, I have never ever told any child that I would not give them food or drink.

This is the same child who will not let others play with his sister without his permission.

Little worried that this was said to him at home.

[Alwaysgreener]

I have a feeling that I am going to have to deal with in the morning.

I am not even sure how to say your son would not get down from the table this morning. He stayed at the table even with me and my DD telling him he could down, he wouldn't come to circle time. Finally when I said he had to wash his hands, he smiled and got down. I am not even sure what to think. (He didn't even eat all of his snack)

My DD was trying to do her school work and keep saying, you can get down, why don't you get down. He wasn't disturbing her, he was just sitting there, he turned around once but when he saw I noticed him, he turned back around.

After snack he got down and played like normal. Honestly I don't know what to think.

Then ever day after nap, each child goes to the bathroom, same as before we go outside or before nap. He refused. When he finally agreed, he peed a lot.

Is this a control game?

[sahm1225]

Those types of parents feel that they’re your friend and it makes them feel important that they talk to you every day.,I wouldn’t even reply. Since it said ‘text when you get the chance’, it’s your day off, you just didnt get the chance

[Alwaysgreener]

Help I am trapped. Dcm texts me every day between lunch and nap on how the kids are doing. I wait until the kids are asleep to respond.

Today, dh was subbing for me as I had an appointment. Dcm text, message me on here when you get a chance since I won't see you at pick up.

Normally I would send a message but I am now annoyed that she asked like she doesn't trust that I would let her know anything important.

[Alwaysgreener]

DCB is just sitting at the table, and won't get down.

[Alwaysgreener]

DCB, potty trained, does not go unless I tell him to. I did not realize this until today when we did not go outside, he had held himself until he could not hold it anymore. When I asked his mom, she told me yes, if he has not gone in 2 hours she sends him.

So he knows how to use the toilet and how to hold it but does not know that when he is holding himself so much that it hurts that he should go to the bathroom. Thanks for the heads up.
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I was confused as to why he was not playing with other kids but sitting watching and he wont talk to me when I ask him if everything is alright.

[Alwaysgreener]

sahm1225 DCM lied to me, I know she lied and she knows and is trying to cover it up. I would love to call her out on it but I never know how to say to the parent that, I know that you lied without being all confrontational with them.

I have been temping these kids hourly to see if she has been giving them meds. The older one does not talk to me and the little one talks very little, so neither of them is telling on her.

[Alwaysgreener]

sahm1225 LOL I had that family a few years ago but it was not how they breathed, it was DCM and DCB voice, it sounded like they were always talking in a whiny voice. It was so hard. I always wanted to term because of it but never did, I even told her that I did not have space for her baby and she still stayed until DCB went to preschool.

[sahm1225]

I’d put the star on the calendar and start working on their exit plan. You knew they were sick and they intentionally withheld that info. But they’re also not a respectful family so anything they do will irk you more than normal. Once it gets to the point, put a star and if you still feel that way when you get to the star, then it’s time for them to go,

Sending you hugs. I’m currently dealing with families that I just don’t mesh with and I swear, even how they breathe bugs me.

[Annalee]

I've had to let loose on some of my OCD++++ behavior as I've had parents drop off in masks so I know something is off but I have tried to NOT think about it......my clients sign in/out outside and I will probably NEVER change that due to my own sanity. We do have offer some outings together but usually at a park or something like that.

[Alwaysgreener]

"Thankfully there is no one left to get sick"

Yes there is, ME and the rest of the day care, including my DD. (cause ds and dh already have it)

[Alwaysgreener]

I normally do look at an occasional cough as just that. But dcb has a cough the Friday before they were gone for the week (ds ended up sick) When I asked how dcb was doing Dcm said he was well and there was no cough.

Ha ha dcm messaged and asked how the kids were and I told her that Dcg was coughing and fell asleep at 11 while coloring. That dcb had a cough again. She just messaged back to me as I was responding to you.

"Aw, poor baby. They were both sick the weekend before last and part of last week, then my husband and got it... DCB was fine again by Monday, but we all still have a residual cough, and sleeping a bit more than usual.

No one had had a fever or anything for several days, and we're no longer contagious (waited CDC guidelines for quarantine). Thankfully, there is no one left to get sick."

However she told me that they were not sick and DCB had no cough when I asked last Monday. That her dh was the one sick last week, all week.