Venting Thread

[Alwaysgreener]

Allergy season is kicking my butt. My eyes are so watery that I can not see, especially when we are outside. I have never had watery eyes like this before.

[Alwaysgreener]

I hate having babies under four months. They nap all the time and the older kids get restless never being able to go outside.

[Michael]

Stayed at my brother’s home a couple weeks ago. His daughter always comes home sick from daycare. He’s been sick and I’ve been sick for the last two weeks. I’m tired of being sick also. Something fierce is going round.

[HatParty]

So done with being sick every single weekend, I'd think I had some immune issue if my son and hubs weren't getting it too

[HatParty]

I use an app that has very regular updates, and parents *still* text. I used to be polite, but now I just reply with screenshots of their report on the app

[Alwaysgreener]

DCM termed on Good Friday (Yay) and asked to set up a time to pick up the kids' things. I was closed until Tuesday, so I did not respond until then. I gave her 3 different options of day and time to get the kids things and said to let me know if these would work for her.

I also let her know that she had no wipes, very few diapers and that I had sent home one pair of pants.

She has not responded. I am now kicking myself for never adding the policy that families have 30 days to pick up from the termination date.

[Alwaysgreener]

I just had a dcb that told his sister that if she did ... Again that Ms DCP said she would not give her anything to eat or drink.

[Alwaysgreener]

I had 6 months drop in twins my first, due to ratio, I could only take one at a time. Dcm would drop off one and take the other to medical appointments. Each twin had medical issues, one had more than the other.

They were the worst babies, I could not put them down ever. They cried so hard it hurt my ears.

Dcm got pissed when she arrived one time because dh was holding her baby, he is my back up, she knew that. She was rude to him and left without talking to me and then messaged me that she didn't need care the next week.

A month ish later she messaged me for care again. I told her sorry not available.

My other two sets of twins, were over two, both boys, both left around three weeks, both times dcm was the reason they didn't stay longer.

[Alwaysgreener]

Every year around my children's birthday I go get their pictures taken so I went ahead and scheduled photo session for the day and time of the party. I have yet been invited by the sisters that are throwing the party. But I did get a Facebook link from our oldest sister who I am not talking to, I got her muted on my phone so I just saw it and I didn't click on the link.

The other two sisters don't agree that I have the right to cut her out when she hurt me so I had a feeling they doing this on purpose. It's going to backfire in their face just like other times when I say oh so sorry I wish you had called me and discussed that with me because we have an appointment that day.

This isn't the first time they haven't discussed it a date with me and I have had other plans and not been able to attend. And no I don't back down.

Now I need to plan my kids party for Saturday instead of Sunday as if I didn't know. Considering a location party, like the zoo or something.

[Annalee]

I hear ya; glad you are documenting! I have dcb4 and he always says "I'm sorry" after his actions and I've explained to dcm that 'sorry' should bring about change action.....she doesn't like hearing that but choices/consequence are a part of life.... and I also hear 'he doesn't act like that at home' and my answer to that is 'there are different or NO boundaries within the home but this is group care so we have boundaries/expectations'. Hang in there!

I also have dcg4 who still gets a paci/bottle at home and she has meltdowns alot and I've shared the same analogy as dcb with dcm but she doesn't take it well at all....she wants a BABY but this dcg4 will soon be going to kindy and that will be interesting as she is NOT A BABY!

[CeriBear]

I had a child go home and tell his parents that I am mean. He had called me a meanie a couple times that day—only because I sent him to time out which is something I rarely do. Both times he had done things which definitely warranted a time out. He had opened the gate between the playground and the baseball field and was wandering on the other side. When I caught him I explained what he did was dangerous and he had to sit on the bench for the five minutes left of playtime. He screamed in my face and told me I was meanie and he hated me. Then later he pushed a classmate down during center time and as a consequence he had to eat his lunch by himself. He kicked me and threw his crackers on the floor and stomped on them making a huge mess. I made him clean it up. Again he told me I was mean. He told another child to “go down the slide face first” and “ let’s go get” —meaning be mean to—another child.
At pickup when I talked to his parents they said “oh he’s just an active and ornery boy. He doesn’t need to be sent to time out. If you just talk to him I’m sure he will stop!” WTH. This child is a master at causing disruptions in the class and thinks he can get away with it because he is cute! And both parents always make excuses for his bad behavior.
I’ve begun documenting the things he does so that I have a record in case we need to conference with parents.

[e.j.]

Two of the toughest kids I've cared for were twins. After they left, I swore I'd never take another set of twins again. They used to tag-team me at nap time every day. I'd just get one settled and the other would pop up in his crib. I'd get him settled in again and his twin would pop up. It went on like that every day, all during nap time. Drove me crazy! If dcm hadn't enrolled them in preschool and given her notice when she did, I would have termed them.

[e.j.]

Sounds as though your siblings are pretty self-centered. I'm sorry you've had to deal with all of that; it must be hurtful.

[gumdrops]

Watch twins they said, they'll entertain each other they said...these are some of the most spoiled/needy babies I have ever watched and there are TWO of them! 9 months old and I keep thinking they'll grow out of it and they just don't!

[Alwaysgreener]

Unfortunately they did the same thing ten years ago for our parents 50th. And one of the sis did it 5 years ago for her son's open house and had it the same day I had planned my son's first bday.

Dh and I are trying to figure out what to say as they know I don't have fb and dh doesn't use it much, so they normally tell me about invites. I thought about making a fb invite for the same time to get their reaction.

(The other sister got married on my 14 bday, it was a bit of a shotgun wedding to the father of her son as he was dying of cancer and they were limited on available dates, or at least that was what I was told. But either way didn't remember my bday. 11+ months later he passed.
A year after that my brother did the same thing but with a planned wedding on my 16th. Never acknowledged that it was my bday or talked to me about it but then again my mom never said hey that is your sister birthday. At his wedding he overheard some one wish me a happy birthday and then he looked at me and said it's your birthday? He also forgot that our sister was married on the same day two years before.He later divorced so yeah me.)