Venting Thread

[Alwaysgreener]

DCM termed on Good Friday (Yay) and asked to set up a time to pick up the kids' things. I was closed until Tuesday, so I did not respond until then. I gave her 3 different options of day and time to get the kids things and said to let me know if these would work for her.

I also let her know that she had no wipes, very few diapers and that I had sent home one pair of pants.

She has not responded. I am now kicking myself for never adding the policy that families have 30 days to pick up from the termination date.

[HatParty]

So done with being sick every single weekend, I'd think I had some immune issue if my son and hubs weren't getting it too

[Michael]

Stayed at my brother’s home a couple weeks ago. His daughter always comes home sick from daycare. He’s been sick and I’ve been sick for the last two weeks. I’m tired of being sick also. Something fierce is going round.

[Alwaysgreener]

I hate having babies under four months. They nap all the time and the older kids get restless never being able to go outside.

[e.j.]

I haven't had an infant for awhile now but I take them outside with the rest of the kids and let them nap out there. The group of kids I have now behave so much better when we get outside. I wouldn't be able to stay sane if I couldn't get them outside to play. Rainy days are miserable with this group!

[Alwaysgreener]

I have always wanted to find a way to do this. We are required to only sleep in a crib or PNP, but because of the PNP regulations, I use a foldable crib.

How do you do that (nap babies outside)?

Keep them in the shade? Take out the crib?

[e.j.]

It's really odd. Infants here have to be moved to a crib or pnp if they fall asleep in a swing or chair if they're inside. Unless things have changed in the last year or two - and I don't think they have - they can stay in their stroller, baby swing or baby backpack if they fall asleep outside. We're not required to wake them or move them as long as they're safe where they are. I have a stroller that lies flat and it has an expandable hood that pulls forward to keep the sun off the baby. I have a couple of shade trees in the play area, too, so I could just wheel a baby to a shady area. With my current group, it would be well worth the inconvenience of bringing a portable crib in and out as I needed it. Inside days are the worst!

[Alwaysgreener]

Allergy season is kicking my butt. My eyes are so watery that I can not see, especially when we are outside. I have never had watery eyes like this before.

[e.j.]

Allergies are bad this year. My kids, especially my son, are really suffering right now. They've had to use their inhalers more frequently than usual for the past month. Ever since the pandemic, I've noticed that wearing a mask when I'm outside with the dc kids has really helped me with my allergies. I'm experiencing some slight symptoms like a runny nose and itchy eyes but I'm definitely not reacting as much as I could be. I haven't had to take any allergy meds yet and I'm usually taking them every day this time of year.

[Alwaysgreener]

She messaged me again. Every summer this dcm messages me that she is not happy with current day care (good dc but don't align with her beliefs) She contacted me first when her dcb was a baby ( now 4) and then started making requests, so I told her I had nothing available.

[e.j.]

I'd be willing to bet you're right about that! You dodged that bullet!

[Alwaysgreener]

Yeah, I have dodged this bullet for the past 4 years. Hopefully, this is the last time.

[e.j.]

Hopefully she gets a clue this time. If not, I'd tell her nap time is non-negotiable at my daycare; every child has to rest. That might get her off your back once and for all...maybe?

[girlmomma]

I’m am done with people’s audacity today.

A woman reached out needing childcare for 12 hours a day. I told her my hours. She asked if I was flexible on my hours ♀️

[e.j.]

I guess she figures it doesn't hurt to ask. 12 hours is a long day!

[girlmomma]

e.j.

When I opened I did 12 hours a day… I now work 8-4:30 (5 a few days a week) and I wouldn’t even consider going back to 12s. LOL

[Annalee]

When I started over 30 years ago, I didn't have hours per se but now I'm at 7-4:30. Like girlmomma, non negotiable on the hours now.

[Annalee]

It's funny how when I close I get some snarky looks but when I show up and expect 10 kids and only 4 show up that's OK in THEIR EYES.....Guess they will NEVER GET IT BUT I WILL CONTINUE TO CLOSE AS WELL

[Annalee]

So only five today; It's like this in the summer but when someone snarks about my closings I'm going to say "at least I give you notice; I don't get a notice from YOU'. LOL

[Alwaysgreener]

I had a tour with a dcm at the mid July, I held the tour on Saturday because she worked second shift but had her mom planned to pick up the child by 4:30. Dad came with her to the tour but mom couldn't make it.?

i told them that I couldn't start the child until he turned 18 months and until I came back from vacation, plus all the paperwork had to be done before I left.?

About a week went by and I heard nothing. Then she messaged July 30th saying she was ready to enroll, I try to respond as soon as possible but I had scheduled a day off and I was busy all day (the next day) I messaged that I was out of town and would respond when I return.?

I sent her my enrollment packet on Friday with a 72 hours window of time. The following Wednesday she says she is sick and will get started on it soon. My vacation starts Monday and she starts the paperwork then. She sends me a message and I respond back that I am on vacation and the daycare is closed, that I will respond to her when I reopen on the 19th, the day that she was asking to start.

Today, a Saturday, I am still on vacation, she text asking again, when can I meet her mom and does this mean he can't start on Monday.?

i haven't responded and do not plan to do so until Monday morning.

[girlmomma]

I can’t stand when parents wear sunglasses in the house.

[Alwaysgreener]

I had one do that once, she was late paying and drop off the money then went home and emailed me a list of reasons why they no longer needed my services. Can't look me in the eye, then you got something to hide.

[Alwaysgreener]

Just talked to another provider that told me "hearsay" that there is another provider near me that is also having trouble with the same consultant, so I am not alone.

[e.j.]

It doesn't solve the problems you're having with this consultant but it does have to feel a little better knowing it's not just you.

[Alwaysgreener]

DCM keeps brining more diapers every Monday, I already commented that I have an overflow spot but that it is already full. I use daily connect to let families know when I need supplies. So I will let her know when I am running low.

FFWD she brings clothes for both kids because she did not have time to read which child needed clothes. Maybe note which child had soiled clothes sent home.

She also comments that she could e pay the last provider cause they used procare, well she could pay me through daily connect but it would take me a week to get my money from daily connect so I do not use the option. Plus I pay less than 10 a month and procare is 25. So no I do not plan on changing .

[e.j.]

Lately, it feels as though some of the parents are worse than the kids. They don't listen, follow instructions or use common sense. I have a teacher parent who just returned some registration forms. She didn't follow the instructions I gave her and failed to completely fill out all areas on the forms. I laughed to myself thinking, I'll bet you give your students such a hard time when they don't follow instructions or complete their assignments. If only they knew you weren't any better at it!

[Alwaysgreener]

She is still doing it, I am gaining diapers every week. HELP

[Alwaysgreener]

Naptime is over, so I send potty trained 4yo to the bathroom which I do every day before and after nap with everyone. He sits on the toilet for a longer than normal and then gets off. He starts crying because he can not get his pants to pull up, they have a button but he has gotten them up and down all day. I make him sit down, to calm down. He is almost calm but I have to step away to care for another child. I come back to an hysterical little boy, that is focused on getting the pants unbuttoned which he did not have to do earlier. I ask him to remove his pants, after a few minutes, he complies and the pants are wet. He had peed himself during nap and was trying yo hid it from me but failed because he could not get the wet pants to pull up. UGH. I think he was in the bathroom for about 30 minutes to avoid telling me that he was wet. Top it off, when I went to wake him, he was already awake and sitting up on the mat waiting for me. AND before nap I sang, If you gotta go potty go right away, flush and wash and be on you way. (insert head shake)

[Alwaysgreener]

My mud room is my entry space, I do not keep the light on in that room when it is not in use. On most days I have a 745 family and then this family at 8. Today this family was the first family, so the light was off when they arrive, this happens every week (but DST just happened) but this week DCM was super focused on the fact that the light was not on when she arrived.

She then tells me that she put shirts in the bag for the baby because I requested them, I had seen the shirts but thought it was by mistake because I DID NOT REQUEST ANY SHIRTS. I told her, oh I was wondering why they were in the bag because they are smaller then what he wears. She insist that they still fit him.

She is the same dcm that sends diapers weekly even though I do not request them, every week I have to find a place to put them because both diaper storage areas are full, which I told her.

I also need a policy stating that if a child shows up in a larger size diapers that I will send home the smaller size. She brought me a huge sleave of size 2 diapers that lasted me more than a month, meanwhile the diaper that I take off the baby that morning was a size 3.

[Alwaysgreener]

Next one, DCM comes in today. She is in the middle of a sentence when she entered and says that her hours have changed. She is now not working every other Monday but she thinks she will bring dcb anyways, to nap! He comes after lunch and is gone shortly after nap. Some days, that is all he does because he falls asleep late and does not wake until just before his pick time. So she is going to bring him to sleep, no meals or play, just to sleep.

[Alwaysgreener]

He comes for naptime and then goes home. I teach my own kids during nap, so I need him to quietly rest while I am teaching my kids not taking a break. Even when he is the only child, he still needs to nap because I schedule my day around him coming and napping, not me playing with him while I get my stuff done. So PLEASE do not nap him before he comes because he then screams during nap and disturbs naptime for the other kids.