Venting Thread

[Alwaysgreener]

girlmomma I am not sure if that is true, some people would ask McD or Walmart to open early, what is ten minutes? says the customer standing outside the door.

Honestly, I would drop my child off at 845 and then head to the dollar store or pharmacy and would have loved for them to open 10 minutes early just for me. But I sat in my car and waited.

[girlmomma]

that’s so true!

[e.j.]

My dd was just complaining about a customer who is a regular and knows the office my dd works out of is manned by just her. She also knows the office closes every day from 12:00-1:00 (there's a sign posted) but still comes in anyway during that time expecting to be waited on. My dd finally reminded her that the office is closed during those hours and the woman's response was, "I can't believe you won't help me!" My dd, who has more spine than I do, said, "I can't believe you expect me to work during the only break I get during the day." Part of me was floored that she would say that to a customer but part of me was proud of her for standing up for herself.

[girlmomma]

e.j. Good for your daughter!!!

[Alwaysgreener]

It rained the first part of my vacation and DH did not get the deck finished before we left for my family reunion. (I open on Wed, so hopefully he gets it done because I am due for an inspection any day now.)

My kids did not get bussing for the school year, which means neither did my SA DCK. So SA dck and dcg will be leaving soon. (dcg is ds best friend and she is going to free preschool)

I am now going to homeschool both dd and ds. DD because I do not trust her school consular (has to do with DD 504 plan) and ds because of no bussing. Still trying to figure out how to send the breakup letter to the school.

I got a response from a family that toured before I left, that they are going with a nanny instead.

My SIS1 is still texting me over the grandma's table that she got back in October because I haven't talked to her since.
I upset my younger brother when I said that I told Dd about his teen years. (He has never told his own kids apparently)
SIS3 revealed to me that she is still upset that I have a cookie jar that grandma gave me in my teens, that my family gave to my grandma before I was born. (The thing is that I displayed it in my home for about a decade before Grandma passed and no one ever noticed it, but another decade later she is still upset that I got it.)

I lost my primary doctor, she is going to the hospital. So now I am on the search for a new one. Did I mention that I just found her after a year's search?

Oh, and the air conditioning in my van is still running funky and DH is not wanting to work on it.

[e.j.]

You need a vacation from your "vacation". Sounds as though it was more stressful than a regular work week. Sorry you're going through so many stressful situations right now.

[Springvalley]

Bless your heart

[Alwaysgreener]

So I just got a call from Sis3 she apologized for saying anything about the cookie jar, she said something about now that the story was out. The story was out a decade ago when they asked what happened to the cookie jar. I asked what jar and then told them that Grandma had given it to me and it was on display in my home. (Ironically I did not want it when grandma gave it to me, it is not pretty, but when I took it home mom explained the history so I keep it.) I have an ugly bee pin because Grandma gave it to me.

I had commented to our mom that she was upset and mom said something to Sis2, Then Sis2 accused me of stealing the cookie jar after grandma passed. It is a cookie jar that sat on my fridge or above my cabinets in my home from the day I moved out. Maybe you should visit more or be more observant. If I stole it why would I have displayed it?

I know my family talks too much behind other's backs. But knowing that I purposely told Mom because I knew it would get back to Sis3 and out the others that she indicated when she was complaining that I had it.

Sis3 has Grandma's SILVERware because she once mentioned that she did not have any silverware, so Grandma gave it to her. (Note to Grandma if it was not made of silver, it was flatware.)

[CountryRoads]

Payment is due tomorrow.

Dcm: Will it be late if I pay on Tuesday?



Parents are so strange sometimes!

[Annalee]

They drive me nuts thinking 'no rule is for them'. Such entitlement!!!!

[Springvalley]

Saw these posts on a daycare provider page on Facebook titled "Spunky Daycare Provider" here's both articles:
1st post:
Dear Child Care Parent Why? Why? Why?
I just have to ask why? Why would you think it’s acceptable to bring a sick child to daycare? Why do you think it’s acceptable to give them meds after a night of puking or diarrhea? Why do you insist on placing your sick child in your Provider’s arms.
What on earth would possibly compel you to think this would be a good idea? Especially this close to your Providers long holiday weekend. This act alone could impact so many people’s holiday plans. I have an idea why not just take the day off with your sick child and go for broke. Just take them to Target, Walmart, and everywhere large crowds of people dwell.
You surely didn’t think upon getting up after a long night of fevers, puking or diarrhea this could possibly be a fantastic idea.
Let’s do a quick educational lesson.
cough drops are medicine and do not cure a cough.
fever reducing medicine does not make the illness non-contagious. It only masks the symptoms.
the pink stuff does not make diarrhea non-contagious it just stops the diarrhea until it wears off.
cold and flu medication does not make your child non-contagious.
Are you getting the lesson here? Masking symptoms for 8 hours does not make your child good to go to daycare. It only means they have been given medicine to give them some relief.
So now because you brought your child sick and exposed your Provider and all the kids we are playing the waiting game. Are we going to get sick? Is the headache we might get be the start? Is this rolling tummy, fatigue or chills the start of an illness? Nothing like being stressed over the stress of a possibility of an illness.
Now for some advice. I have no clue as to your motive. I do know you weren’t dressed in your going to work clothes. That is unless it’s pajama day at work. My suspicions are you were up all night and going home and napping between laundry.
Your Provider doesn’t have that option. Oh we have our little emergency “somebody brought their sick kid in” kit. Change of clothes, alcohol spray, mouth wash, wipes and our other illness preventive stuff. We also know a direct hit does little to prevent illness.
What we really need you to know. For whatever reason your child exposed everyone. Please think of the impact that action might have made.
is someone’s traveling to loved ones not going to happen now?
is a holiday get together not going to happen now?
did someone waste a great deal of time and money planning for an event that isn’t going to happen now?
is this going to spread all over the nation because you knowingly and willing took a contagious child out?
So to the original question- Why? Why? Why?

[sahm1225]

e.j. I feel you. I close at 5pm. I get a call at 5:10pm saying a dck tested positive . We were already on the road to visit family out of state and turned around and came home. I started wearing a mask Saturday morning just in case and tested positive Saturday night: am absolutely miserable. I’m quarantining away from my kids, and luckily no one else is positive. I have 7 families. I know it’s an inconvenience when I’m closed, I get it. But I am always cautious and now my kids and husband are having a rough tune because I’m not able to help with anything and I feel like crap. Only ONE family has checked up by sending a text. ONE. I almost lost my husband when he had Covid (he was hospitalized, it was horrible). My youngest is immune compromised and if she gets covid, we’re instructed to go to ER immediately… they all know this: yet only ONE family has texted..

Makes me realize that these families that I consider a part of me don’t view me the same way and it hurts: but as soon as I feel better, I’m holding on to how it made me feel And I’m done worrying about how they feel if I need a day off or feeling guilty for closing an hour early in Halloween… I’m done.

Ps. I hope you’re all staying healthy and your husband is doing okay

[e.j.]

I remember you saying how sick your husband got from Covid when he had it. I think of you every time Covid rears its ugly head around here! I'm sorry you have it now and hope you feel better soon. I also hope your dd and the rest of your family stay well this time around.

My husband is diabetic so I've been worried about him getting Covid since the pandemic started. He'd managed to dodge it until now but is lucky in that he seems to have a relatively mild case. His symptoms seem much improved today and so far, he hasn't given it to any of us. Knock on wood! Both of our kids had it last year and they've said they never want it again! They were miserable with it then.

I'm sorry your daycare families are so self-centered. Definitely do what you need to do and try not to feel any guilt when you take the time off that you need. Self-care is so important in this job!

[sahm1225]

Hi E.J - how is your husband doing? I’m on day 11 and still have symptoms

I have an interview tomorrow for a new family: praying it’s a start of new families because I’m not feeling happy with these current ones

[girlmomma]

DCP doesn’t send payment by 5:30 yesterday so they were hit with a late fee at 6:00. At 6:01, they send payment without the late fee, after receiving the new invoice with the late fee.

It is truly disrespectful!

[e.j.]

That really is disrespectful.

[Guest]

Here's another one I found to:
Pressures of Child Care
wondering if we’ll get paid on time.
wondering if we’ll get off on time.
scheduling and keeping appointments.
is a parent going to freak over a stain?
how are they going to handle the lost binky?
there’s a biter in our midst.
contracted illnesses.
staying full as we need to be.
answering multiple calls of those needing infant care.
the parent who wants to run the program.
the parent who wishes you were the program can’t enroll in.
the custody battle.
the school kid who wonts to stay home and causes grief.
the mini food critic.
the picky parent.
the negotiator over pay parent.
the staff that doesn’t want to work.
dramatic people.
kids with extreme behaviors.
budgets and inflation.
the complainers.
juggling family and business and being successful in both.
planning for retirement.
holidays and vacations.
being called unreliable when you close for a sick day, a holiday, emergency or weather related day.
interviewing families.
dropping care.
cleaning the same messes up multiple times a day.
repairing, remodeling and rearranging.
paying bills.
tax time.
keeping everyone happy including yourself.

The part about staff not wanting to work is what I appreciated about this post because unfortunately you cant find people to work and if you do find someone they either 1) are lazy 2) stay on their cell phones or 3) decide they don't won't to work anymore and send you a text explaining they are quitting and send it on a weekend instead of following policy and putting in their 2 week notice or 4) get mad if someone doesn't or can't work for them because they have other commitments

[e.j.]

I can relate to most of this list. It definitely captures the stressors in daycare.

[Alwaysgreener]

Ugh how do I get myself here. I talked to a family that has four kids. It went from needing care for two to three than four with the fourth drop in care or care if he didn't get into K. (Assuming she didn't enroll him in the spring) The third child only needs Friday.

She didn't read the policy before we met and I asked her to read and get back to me to schedul a tour..She sends me state paperwork and nothing. So then I asked if she read the policies and to confirm hours of care need. I still don't have hours but she said she read everything and asked if toothbrush was required.

She didn't have a time because she just starting the job and needs to train . At the time she emailed me she only needed three days but then asked for 5 days on hopes to get more hours.

I sent her the paperwork but realized that I confused dates with all the kids and I can't start both of the younger ones on the same week because my current dcb has another week to age up.

Honestly I would love to find someone with less kids (due to being a large chunk of income) but need to fill. I did just get two other people contact me today.

[Alwaysgreener]

I once asked for an exception for two days based on the child age and he refused. Because you know that two days makes a world of difference. (I was asking for a baby over 12 months to start before an almost 18 month to turn 18 months in a day or two)

I wasn't able to sign that family because of it.

[e.j.]

He sounds like a real peach.

[Alwaysgreener]

Seriously it continues.

I went ahead and agreed to Thursday and Friday only. Told her she had til Tuesday to finish all the paperwork for 4 kids and get me the deposit. (In another email she said she had the deposit already)

I did not hear from her at all the whole weekend. I was planning on sending a follow-up at nap time and then I got an email.

"I am looking for daycare next week. For 2 babies Hours will be up to the client."

Not sure what that meant but then I get a 2nd email asking...

"Do you have an opening for tomorrow from 12-2:30 by chance? For 2 babies and preschooler?"

Which I told her yes if the paperwork is complete. She sent the About Me for the 3 kids and FP form for the older baby.
I looked at the FP form and she wants care daily 12-230, which is not what we had agreed to. I asked where the other forms were and if was she changing her hours again.

She replies that she still does not know her hours, that the state will pay, and that she does not see any more paperwork.
I let her know that all paperwork has to be done and that she needs to pay until the state pay kicks in and then inquired why she needs care for the preschooler who just started preschool today.

I have not heard anything since.

You know this is not the first time I have had a parent want to start this year without doing any paperwork. I am wondering if this is a thing, like Dine and Dash expect I won't let them dine without the paperwork so instead I get ditched.

Part of me is expecting to get a knock on the door during lunch, with her trying to drop the kids off tomorrow.

[Annalee]

Already taking an excedrin tension this morning

[Alwaysgreener]

LOL I would not be able to steep for a week if I drank 20 oz of coffee. I am unsure if it would be the caffeine keeping me up or all the sugar I would need to hide the taste.

[Annalee]

I drink coffee alot and it doesn't seem to keep me awake. My niece brought me a nutrition tea drink once and that did buzz me so I avoid those now. LOL

[Alwaysgreener]

I don't drink caffeinated soda/pop. I do have an occasional cup of hot chocolate. But coffee is something I never could use to the taste of. It doesn't smell bad but with out a bag of sugar or a paid dare, I don't drink it.

Dh doesn't like coffee either. He drinks decaf tea. When we bought our house people made comments about coming over for a cup of coffee and we would joke and say something about bringing their own coffee. Some were so shocked that we didn't own a coffee pot, they would offer to buy us one.

[Guest]

Alwaysgreener does mom not work Monday Friday or is she working from home and can work whenever? The reason I'm asking is because from what i read from your comments it sounds like she works a weird shift or a weird schedule.

[Alwaysgreener]

Her message today is that she works Thursday - Saturday but is looking for a second pt job. This is a new job and she was hoping for a FT position but got PT.

[Springvalley]

Alabama daycare providers, I just saw on the news where the Alabama Department of Human resources is stopping grants 9/30/23.

[Annalee]

That is the ARPA grants ending for every state....covid money!

[Amy71452]

A question for everyone, I'm not at capacity and need a couple more to be financially comfortable next year. I was wondering if you lower standards to take any on, if you know the parents aren't bad and the DCK isn't going to be a complete menace. I've got a couple of very interested enquiries from some who haven't been accepted into a preschool as they're not potty trained. I don't accept past 3 normally but not sure if I should go for this? It'll fit the numbers perfectly and I've got a DCG who's been with me for a while and in diapers so have the facilities, but don't really want to be trying to train DCKs I don't know . I'm torn between accepting as I could really use the numbers but worry how soft the parents might be with them.

[Alwaysgreener]

Amy71452

I have a potty training form that I place in the enrollment paperwork when it is a child at the potty training age.

[Alwaysgreener]

file:///C:/Users/thegr/Downloads/Toilet%20Training%20Checklist_CCAND.pdf

[Amy71452]

Thanks I didn't have anything in place, I'll draft something similar, I can't give the time to training as I've attempted to train but can't dedicate all the time. Parents are aware of the new policy and have still enrolled and sent nappies. Will try the two weeks without accidents. I've got a couple who have accidents every couple of days, they're almost there but what should I do in applying the policy consistently?

[girlmomma]

Do you ever have a family you just don’t like? You have no real reason to part ways with them but you also wish they’d leave?

That DCF that recently paid late without paying the late fee (it was paid the next day when I refused the child for an open invoice) asked me this morning if they could drop off DCK after a well-check appointment. The appointment was at 11 AM. I told them I only allow one drop off and pick up per day so now they’re “moving the appointment.” It’s so annoying!

[Alwaysgreener]

Yes I have had families I didn't like. I wrote so many term letters in the two years they were here but would always feel guilty for typing things like I can't stand the sound of your whiny voice or dcb. Or knowing that you are not working but dcb is here all day and you pick up later on your days off.

[girlmomma]

And another DCF I’m tired of…

DCM is expecting and ever since she told me (which was early, like at 5/6 weeks) she has slowly changed! DCK is contracted to come 3 days/week. DCM used to pick up early, like in the middle of nap time early. I never cared, I always made sure her child had a fresh diaper on a snack to go. Her child was always well cared for and clean at drop off in the morning. If DCK had a wet/dirty diaper, DCM would mention they came straight from the grocery store/appointment and she couldn’t change DCK. I didn’t mind changing a full diaper right at drop off every now and then. They were the “perfect” family.

Lately, the kid is here until their contracted hours are up, they’re asking me to add more days (sometimes I will add a day but I’ve been denying it) and this poor baby is coming in with a SOGGY WET diaper! Every morning. It’s so wet that it is drooping and you can see it in the pants. It infuriates me!

Being pregnant isn’t an excuse to slack off, IMO. I’ve asked how DCM is feeling and she just tells me she’s tired. There are no other health concerns to my knowledge. Use your contracted hours, fine. Add days if you need to, I can control what days I take and what days I don’t. But there is no excuse for the soggy wet diaper.