Venting Thread

[mema]

The next time the dcp sends a text saying they are running behind, I am sending one back saying, great, dck will be sitting on the step waiting, I have a life too. Dcp isn't even working and still can't get here on time. Time for that to go. I couldn't even say anything I was so fuming when they picked up. Everyone else had been gone for over an hour and they said they would pick up early once they heard everyone else was. Go figure on that, but $h!t, at least be ON TIME

1. If you aren't working, there is absolutely no reason why you can't at least be here at closing, if not a few minutes early.
2. If you are running late, do not stop to pick up anything on your way-including your significant other....they can hang at work a few extra minutes.

So glad to be meeting up with a friend tonight, she may have to drive

[Patches]

Ugh!!! My whole day is thrown off! I was mmaking lunch and it was running late because my chicken was not cooking as fast as I planned. Then my doorbell rings and I couldn't get the door open because I had a safety cover over the knob. When I finally get the door open it was DHS for a visit. Got in trouble for two little things that were my fault but I feel stupid for them. Now everything is even later than it already was plus one doesn't want sleep sooo not a good nap today for anyone!!!

[LoraJenkins]

And it's only 10:30 in the morning!!!!

Ok....I have a 3 yr old DCG that has decided to break EVERY rule this morning. Throwing balls inside ( took the balls away), running in the house, messing with the infant playzone, hitting another DCK in the face. I swear she has spent most of the morning in time out! I ask her why she did so-and-so and I get "because". Argggggg! Thank goodness tomorrow is Friday and is early pick-up! (Did I mention she is an overnighter on Thursdays?)

Seeing the toddlers behavior, I would have sworn it was a full moon today. The toy throwing and stealing, the fighting, tantrums. Dcb resisted nap, only slept for 45 minutes, then was miserable all afternoon. And he was spitting on his cot.

Then we have two dcg's who are potty training at the same time. They have been doing fantastic all week (last week too) and today they both had multiple accidents. And I ended up going home with a fat lip because dcg ran into my face when I was helping her get redressed after an accident. Is it Friday yet?

[Play Care]

My 3.5 yo DC boy is behaving like a first class BRAT. Whining and tantrums when he doesn't get his way, crying if someone looks at him the wrong way, etc. We have a crying spot (a cozy chair off to the corner) and honestly I felt as if he spent the day there. I expect him to help get himself ready when we go outside and he sat there screaming because I wouldn't do it for him. Every day I model appropriate behavior/interactions, I praise out the wazoo when they do well, but lately I am fighting to find something to praise for with him

[Lyss]

I'm so tired of blatant disrespect (even though it's always "I didn't mean it that way, i just assumed') to my time and family. People aka DCPs think all we want to do is sit around and watch their kids (and for pennies no less), that we have no life and watching other people's children is our hobby and what we do for fun.

Yes I care about the children and I like what I do but I want to spend time with my friends and family in the evenings and on weekends, not watch a DCK. I'm really starting to become bitter and not like adults in general anymore. !

I just had a DCP assume that taking the day off (after dropping DCK off) and going out for the evening would be fine because DCK will just stay with me (DCK is already scheduled for 11.5hrs today). There was no question of "if" I would do it, instead it was simply stated to me. I set it straight, but what bother me the most is the disrespect for me and my family's time.

Ugh! Vent over!

[theycallmetaytor]

Then and than! Then and than! I really wish people would learn the difference!

Sally went for a bike ride and THEN napped. George napped too, but his nap was shorter THAN Sally's.

Then and than! Learn it, know it!

[Hazel]

No rest today!

So my youngest is a 20 month old super ball of energy (aren't most?), a real little spit fire! Yesterday she slept very well at nap and then went to bed on time last night, no problems... But woke several times during the night and wouldn't go back to sleep easily! So she wakes this morning in a nasty mood, so dad (graduate student taking online courses) puts her back to bed and mom brings brother saying lil girl will be here later... Well she slept till 10:30!!! Happy and ready for the day, which is awesome, but I KNOW she will not nap today! And that means no one else will either! Ugh!

[kitykids3]

Having 2 toddlers that only sleep 1.25 hours then wake up the other 4 kids really ****s!

[saved4always]

So I have lost ALOT of my kids since June, have been advertising like a maniac but business is slow where I live. Ive had 1 full time spot open since June and 1 full and 1 part time open since Sept. Ive almost cleaned out my back up funds and need kids ASAP!
LOOOOONG story short, wishy washy lady calls (we'll call her mom #1) and needs 2 days a week for 13 month old. She MAY need AS MUCH as 4 days POSSIBLY in ABOUT 2 montshs (WISHY WASHY MUCH!!!!!)
Current sitter is amazing but is having a baby in Feb and mom doesnt think anyone can take care of a 13 month old and newborn (wants her 13mo to be youngest and TOLD me this at interview).
Calls me like 4 times over a period of 2 weeks asking for more info before FINALLY ok with scheduling an interview.
Interview is on a Thursday afternoon, says again, son should be youngest. I tell her that If I get someone with a baby that wants care, I would have the right to take the baby (mom doesnt say ANYTHING) but at the end says her husband will want to meet me before they decide anything.
Meanwhile, I am communicating via email with a mom of 2 (3mos and 2yo)that needs fulltime (call her mom #2). It didnt seem promising since she had trouble with my rates so I wasnt expecting much from it.
On the monday following Mom #1's interview, I set up to meet mom #2 on Thursday evening.
Wednesday mom #1 texts me and wants to arrange for husband to meet. I set it up for Sunday afternoon.
Mom #2 and I interview Thursday and she LOVES what i have to offer and visits AGAIN the NEXT morning for her girls to meet the other kids. Calls references Friday and Sat morning and then drops of Deposit to hold 2 full time spots on Sunday AM.
I call Mom#1 and tell her that I now have a family with baby younger than her son and they have put down a deposit for the 2 full time spots.
I tell her that I can still watch her son but I remember her saying she wanted him to be the youngest AND i couldnt guarantee the POSSIBLE 4 days she may POSSIBLY need in the future.
She SAID I WAS UNETHICAL! Said That I never told her she needed to put down a (non refundable) deposit to hold the spot for her son (I know I did tell her because I tell EVERYONE! but why would I need to anyway since she only needed 2 days and I had plenty of room)
She said that me taking 2 full time kids to fill my quota and pushing her son out was the easy route for me to take and in her opinion, somewhat unethical!
seriously??? If youre looking at a used car and someone buys it while your "thinking about it" then thats ok? or looking at an apartment and someone acts first and gets it?? THAT'S not unethical!! BUT me making sure my family is financially secure isnt a priority?? Her convience is?? UGH!!!
Its been 2 days since this conversation and Im still boiling about it!!!!!!!!!!!
thanks for letting me vent

That would make me angry, too. There is nothing unethical about filling your open spots when someone is "thinking" about it. Especially since you still have room for her child for the 2 days she originally wanted. We cannot save spots for "maybes" that could happen later!

[Hazel]

She called me unethical!!!!!!!!!!!

So I have lost ALOT of my kids since June, have been advertising like a maniac but business is slow where I live. Ive had 1 full time spot open since June and 1 full and 1 part time open since Sept. Ive almost cleaned out my back up funds and need kids ASAP!
LOOOOONG story short, wishy washy lady calls (we'll call her mom #1) and needs 2 days a week for 13 month old. She MAY need AS MUCH as 4 days POSSIBLY in ABOUT 2 montshs (WISHY WASHY MUCH!!!!!)
Current sitter is amazing but is having a baby in Feb and mom doesnt think anyone can take care of a 13 month old and newborn (wants her 13mo to be youngest and TOLD me this at interview).
Calls me like 4 times over a period of 2 weeks asking for more info before FINALLY ok with scheduling an interview.
Interview is on a Thursday afternoon, says again, son should be youngest. I tell her that If I get someone with a baby that wants care, I would have the right to take the baby (mom doesnt say ANYTHING) but at the end says her husband will want to meet me before they decide anything.
Meanwhile, I am communicating via email with a mom of 2 (3mos and 2yo)that needs fulltime (call her mom #2). It didnt seem promising since she had trouble with my rates so I wasnt expecting much from it.
On the monday following Mom #1's interview, I set up to meet mom #2 on Thursday evening.
Wednesday mom #1 texts me and wants to arrange for husband to meet. I set it up for Sunday afternoon.
Mom #2 and I interview Thursday and she LOVES what i have to offer and visits AGAIN the NEXT morning for her girls to meet the other kids. Calls references Friday and Sat morning and then drops of Deposit to hold 2 full time spots on Sunday AM.
I call Mom#1 and tell her that I now have a family with baby younger than her son and they have put down a deposit for the 2 full time spots.
I tell her that I can still watch her son but I remember her saying she wanted him to be the youngest AND i couldnt guarantee the POSSIBLE 4 days she may POSSIBLY need in the future.
She SAID I WAS UNETHICAL! Said That I never told her she needed to put down a (non refundable) deposit to hold the spot for her son (I know I did tell her because I tell EVERYONE! but why would I need to anyway since she only needed 2 days and I had plenty of room)
She said that me taking 2 full time kids to fill my quota and pushing her son out was the easy route for me to take and in her opinion, somewhat unethical!
seriously??? If youre looking at a used car and someone buys it while your "thinking about it" then thats ok? or looking at an apartment and someone acts first and gets it?? THAT'S not unethical!! BUT me making sure my family is financially secure isnt a priority?? Her convience is?? UGH!!!
Its been 2 days since this conversation and Im still boiling about it!!!!!!!!!!!
thanks for letting me vent

[BumbleBee]

Parent TOLD me that child (not scheduled for tomorrow) will be here tomorrow.

By text.....at 11pm.

[lovemykidstoo]

It's about 25 degrees here with the wind chill and my dcb that constantly has a runny nose and the mom always blames me for didnt' come with shoes AGAIN! Had them all ready to go outside and I couldn't find his shoes and he has a thin fleece coat to wear also. Thankfully another child had shoes and boots, so I borrowed those. HOw do you not put shoes on your kid in the middle of winter in Michigan? Normally they bring him with no shoes on only socks and the shoes are in his bag. Yea, takes alot of effort to put tennis shoes with velcro on a 20 month old. UGH!

[Hunni Bee]

Why are you sending your fine motor-challenged child to daycare with these cheap magic gloves that he is not capable of managing on his own and that are even a challenge for me to get on him???

Please. Save him and me both some time and frustration and either buy the thicker fleece kind that dont roll up as he tries to put them on and allow all his fingers to go in one hole, or some mittens.

Ay yi yi....

[Play Care]

Client owes me money for this week (only paid for two days) and is acting as if he has no idea how I get paid. Shady people bother me. Thin ice, guy, thin ice.