Venting Thread

[ChelseaB]

My only assistant called off this morning AGAIN....complaining she was "exhausted" from "studying" all night. Yeah, enjoy your sleep princess.....

MEANWHILE, I get there EVERY DAY at 6:30am on the dot, WITH my own 8yr old ready to go. Get 4 more kids right off the bat and do all the needed paperwork for the day while simultaneously interacting with the before-care kids. By myself. No problem.
She normally wanders in anywhere between 7:10 - 7:20am (scheduled for 7am mind you). Sits in one of the bean bag chairs, barely interact with kids, telling me her life problems while simultaneously surfing her phone. If it weren't for the early buses in the afternoon that come when I go to pick up my daughter, I would do the whole damn thing myself.

I have only ever taken 2 days off, a funeral and stomach bug. She has taken off numerous of mornings for various reasons and I even let her leave early for stupid s**t like concerts or dinners. I'm so tired of 20-something dipsh*ts.

Good grief, Lady! I'd be ticked if I were in your shoes! Honestly, I'd be firing her and finding someone who actually performed the duties they are being paid to do! No reason for all that, and she's obviously taking advantage of you. At least put her on "probation" and force her to improve her performance or risk losing her job!

[ChelseaB]

:hug:

I know you said you can't term and I fully understand that but honestly that kid would stress me out too and part of me thinks maybe the solution lies somewhere you didn't think about looking...

Mom.

You said she is a model daycare client and a great parent but I have to ask, if she is such a great parent why is her kid such a bully? ....and that is what he is doing. I'm sorry but if the things he does at your house were strictly managed at home, I am betting he would not behave that way at your house and if he did or tried, mom should have the answer as to how to stop it then. kwim?

I would start there (mom) and have her find a solution that works before he harms someone else (or himself).

I would also have that kid be my shadow everyday. As for throwing food. Serve him one bite at a time. Have him "earn" the right to have more than one bite at a time served to him by showing you good table manners.

You're right, BC, I have a feeling that the answer does lie with mom. He has an older SA brother at home, and she has admitted that they rough house, although she has claimed that she has been stopping it. So his aggression probably lies with how he plays with his older brother and carrying that over here. Mom is super nice too, so I have a feeling that he is bulldozing over her in a sense. As for the food, I will have to try that, my fried brain didn't register taking it back to the basics with one bite at a time! So perhaps that should help with that!

One detail I forgot to mention is that he is a referral by a provider friend, and I've had him since school 2 weeks before school started (so the beginning of August). His previous provider moved during the summer, and her new home is inconveniently located for them to continue care with her...although I'm beginning to question if that's the full story. Lol. He has adjusted quickly here, he just doesn't listen... But thank you again BC, I will have to try your advice and see if it helps!!!

[Blackcat31]

This is more of a vent because there really isn't much more I can do, and I can't term due to needing the money. So I've just accepted it and will remain persistent to bettering the situation. However...

DCB (who is almost 2) comes off as a sweet-natured kid. However, he is really a bully (or at least trying to turn into one), and he is very "persistent" himself. He pinches, hits, bites, shoves, etc when he doesn't get his way. My DC area is in my living room, so he continually climbs onto the furniture and attempts to jump, bounce it crawl all over it, no matter how many times I correct him and remind him that the couch is for sitting etc and no matter how many times I remove him from it. As soon as I turn to attend to another child, he is back at it. He will grab toys from other children and attempts to hoard them since he has no intention on actually playing with them. He will climb onto the baby gates and do everything he can to pull them down, posing risks to himself and the other kids. Grabs the curtains and tries to twirl them or swing on them. When we go outside, he sometimes attempts to take off (my yard isn't fenced, but it's big enough that we have room), and I'll immediately pick him up and sit him down at the picnic table with me. If he continues, then we are forced to retreat inside for the remainder of the day. At meal times, he always throws his food onto the floor and has started a couple of the other kids at it too. I immediately remove the food from him and take it as a sign that he is not hungry. But even with that and more reminders that we don't throw food, the next meal is the same. And let's not forget that he also shows aggression toward my cats by smacking at them (they have free roam of the house but generally avoid the DCK).

Yeah, I reread that and realize just how bad it sounds. However, he is one of my full timers, and his mother is awesome to work with. She is a great parent, a role model that other DC parents could learn from. Plus, I'm having difficulty filling one of my openings due to the time of year and my area goes through hot and cold spurts of needing DC. However, she is a teacher, so I won't have him come summer. And I'm certain she isn't considering paying to hold his spot, so I'm seriously considering taking that time to replace him. Ughhhh...sorry y'all, I realistically know what I need to do, but unless he gets even worse, I'm going to have to make him my shadow.

**sigh**

Thanks for taking the time to read, I just had to get that out. This kid seriously stresses me out. Lol.

:hug:

I know you said you can't term and I fully understand that but honestly that kid would stress me out too and part of me thinks maybe the solution lies somewhere you didn't think about looking...

Mom.

You said she is a model daycare client and a great parent but I have to ask, if she is such a great parent why is her kid such a bully? ....and that is what he is doing. I'm sorry but if the things he does at your house were strictly managed at home, I am betting he would not behave that way at your house and if he did or tried, mom should have the answer as to how to stop it then. kwim?

I would start there (mom) and have her find a solution that works before he harms someone else (or himself).

I would also have that kid be my shadow everyday. As for throwing food. Serve him one bite at a time. Have him "earn" the right to have more than one bite at a time served to him by showing you good table manners.

[MsLisa]

My only assistant called off this morning AGAIN....complaining she was "exhausted" from "studying" all night. Yeah, enjoy your sleep princess.....

MEANWHILE, I get there EVERY DAY at 6:30am on the dot, WITH my own 8yr old ready to go. Get 4 more kids right off the bat and do all the needed paperwork for the day while simultaneously interacting with the before-care kids. By myself. No problem.
She normally wanders in anywhere between 7:10 - 7:20am (scheduled for 7am mind you). Sits in one of the bean bag chairs, barely interact with kids, telling me her life problems while simultaneously surfing her phone. If it weren't for the early buses in the afternoon that come when I go to pick up my daughter, I would do the whole damn thing myself.

I have only ever taken 2 days off, a funeral and stomach bug. She has taken off numerous of mornings for various reasons and I even let her leave early for stupid s**t like concerts or dinners. I'm so tired of 20-something dipsh*ts.

[ChelseaB]

This is more of a vent because there really isn't much more I can do, and I can't term due to needing the money. So I've just accepted it and will remain persistent to bettering the situation. However...

DCB (who is almost 2) comes off as a sweet-natured kid. However, he is really a bully (or at least trying to turn into one), and he is very "persistent" himself. He pinches, hits, bites, shoves, etc when he doesn't get his way. My DC area is in my living room, so he continually climbs onto the furniture and attempts to jump, bounce it crawl all over it, no matter how many times I correct him and remind him that the couch is for sitting etc and no matter how many times I remove him from it. As soon as I turn to attend to another child, he is back at it. He will grab toys from other children and attempts to hoard them since he has no intention on actually playing with them. He will climb onto the baby gates and do everything he can to pull them down, posing risks to himself and the other kids. Grabs the curtains and tries to twirl them or swing on them. When we go outside, he sometimes attempts to take off (my yard isn't fenced, but it's big enough that we have room), and I'll immediately pick him up and sit him down at the picnic table with me. If he continues, then we are forced to retreat inside for the remainder of the day. At meal times, he always throws his food onto the floor and has started a couple of the other kids at it too. I immediately remove the food from him and take it as a sign that he is not hungry. But even with that and more reminders that we don't throw food, the next meal is the same. And let's not forget that he also shows aggression toward my cats by smacking at them (they have free roam of the house but generally avoid the DCK).

Yeah, I reread that and realize just how bad it sounds. However, he is one of my full timers, and his mother is awesome to work with. She is a great parent, a role model that other DC parents could learn from. Plus, I'm having difficulty filling one of my openings due to the time of year and my area goes through hot and cold spurts of needing DC. However, she is a teacher, so I won't have him come summer. And I'm certain she isn't considering paying to hold his spot, so I'm seriously considering taking that time to replace him. Ughhhh...sorry y'all, I realistically know what I need to do, but unless he gets even worse, I'm going to have to make him my shadow.

**sigh**

Thanks for taking the time to read, I just had to get that out. This kid seriously stresses me out. Lol.

[Bookworm]

Is there anyway that we can have a Disney-style nap time? The kind where all of the kids are awakened by sweet little birdies wearing scarfs so they will all wake up happy and smiling. Then all of the happy little mice wearing vests will put away the cots while the lady birds change diapers. Sigh!

[midaycare]

Mondays are so rough. I have a 15MO DCB who will not nap on Mondays! He shouts, laughs, calls out to others, and cries when I lay him down. Today was made worse by dad not bringing him until after 10:30, when his usual drop off is 7:15. Then, dad u formed me that he was going back home, as he had the day off from work. Seriously? Ugh.

Sorry :hug: Some days are so much worse than others!

[Miss A]

Mondays are so rough. I have a 15MO DCB who will not nap on Mondays! He shouts, laughs, calls out to others, and cries when I lay him down. Today was made worse by dad not bringing him until after 10:30, when his usual drop off is 7:15. Then, dad u formed me that he was going back home, as he had the day off from work. Seriously? Ugh.

[childcaremom]

This is my second vent about this dcg today

She has only been here 3 weeks and I've sent her home sick twice already. She came back today and mom told me she was fine yesterday. I call bs.

I was clear when I sent her home that she needed to have a full day at home happy and normal routine, eating, playing normally. Mom insisted that she had when she dropped her off.

She was miserable this morning. I put her down for an early nap and she woke up miserable. The last hour was unbearable.

Ugh. TGIF!

[NillaWafers]

My new 2yr old DCG has finally settled in, doesn't cry at drop off anymore or spend her entire day hanging out by the door. That's nice, however, she's decided that the best way to get her way is to break down in sobs crying "mama" for every correction I give her.

Here are the things she's sobbed "mama" for more than 5 minutes about:

I put her in timeout for putting her entire hand in butter on the counter (which she put in her mouth!! YUCK!)
For breaking books on my bookcase and scentsy bars
I took away her food that took 45 minutes for her to eat
I asked her to lay down on her mat
I took away the water bottle she had more than 5 minutes to drink from (at naptime no less)
I lectured her for stealing from the plates I was preparing for lunch
I told her not to destroy my board books
Anytime I take away a toy she stole from another kid
Telling her to go play while outside (she just wants to sit next to me)

There's more but I don't feel like writing it all. I know this is all "testing boundaries" and seeing how much I'll let her get away with (not much) but damn is it annoying and I hope she moves on from it soon.

[tehck_1013]

So the grandmother of my dck's aged 2 and 7 picked up today. She was collecting their stuff and turned to ask me "No car seats?" I said "Uh, no, mom didn't leave them today." So she said "Okayyy.... I guess I'll be calling mom to see what the heck she wants me to do." and turns to leave, I said I have an extra one somewhere in the garage at least for little one... She said no it's okay I'll just call mom. So I thought maybe she would go to her car and then call and have her come by. But the next thing I know she's driving away! What the heck! The baby is only two years old and gma lives at least 15 to 20 minutes away.... If I had known she was gonna just drive away I would have kept them until mom got off work Unbelievable.

[Controlled Chaos]

I got into an argument with dh over the kids sports of all things. BOTH younger ds's wanted to play a higher level/travel league team this year. It was $895 EACH for 12 weeks. (plus expensive supplies)

I found them sports programs that they are equally excited about- but are 1/3 that cost. (supplies included)

I think this area is RIDICULOUS with extra curriculars. ALL of my dcks are in AT LEAST one 'sport' (they are 18 MONTHS-4) One is in 4 and has something EVERY night. Their parents all talk about college scholarships. My own brother got a full ride scholarship, but he was beyond exceptional at his sport. These kids are barely getting play time. They aren't going to play MLB, NFL or NBA folks. Teach them to dress themselves first. HAHA!

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[daycarediva]

I got into an argument with dh over the kids sports of all things. BOTH younger ds's wanted to play a higher level/travel league team this year. It was $895 EACH for 12 weeks. (plus expensive supplies)

I found them sports programs that they are equally excited about- but are 1/3 that cost. (supplies included)

I think this area is RIDICULOUS with extra curriculars. ALL of my dcks are in AT LEAST one 'sport' (they are 18 MONTHS-4) One is in 4 and has something EVERY night. Their parents all talk about college scholarships. My own brother got a full ride scholarship, but he was beyond exceptional at his sport. These kids are barely getting play time. They aren't going to play MLB, NFL or NBA folks. Teach them to dress themselves first. HAHA!

[MsLisa]

Can you report them? We used to have this problem in my state too where subsidy clients would never pay their copay and essentially provider hop when they were termed for non payment. Now we can report them and they shut down all future services until the provider is payed in full.most parents don't want to lose their subsidy so they get it together pretty quickly now. Before it was a nightmare. Now my assistance clients are my most consistent when it comes to payment.

Funny you brought this up actually!
I was going through the kid's files, making sure they have all paperwork and removing the old outdated things. Come to find in 3 out of the 4 of the CCIS kids folders are letters of late payment notification & warnings of termination for outstanding balances. So this isn't their first time ignoring payments which really makes me mad. I don't think I should have to put up with it. I'm not playing this game with adults.
I hate confrontations and being held in this position, but come Monday....if I don't have those outstanding payment I will have no choice but to deny them in the morning or call them to pick up in the afternoon.

Sad thing is that I have 2 awesome parents signing up for the same grant and it takes a week to get their per week price, but they are more then willing to pay full price until then. I appreciate parents like that. THAT'S who the grant is for. Not the above parents who abuse it.

[jgcp]

I havn't had to get on here and vent in awhile which has been nice! BUUUT I have a family that started in Aug and oh man they are so weird!! First they ask me more then once if they can pay for two weeks at a time and everytime i have told them NO BIG DEAL THATS FINE, they have yet to actually do that? Then last fri ( they work for the school and get every other fri off early) dcd tells me ( dosnt ask) that they will pick up at 4 because their house is a mess and they needed to clean:confused: obviously they do not communicate because i told dcm i had a 3 pm appt ( but shouldnt have been a big deal cause they got done at 1) i just called dcm to tell her id just drop dcb off on my way, When i got there she was ASLEEP!!?? I dont watch your kid so you can nap!! Then Mon morn dcd shows for drop off at 730 ( contracted for 650) no text to let me know he will be late. then tue shows up at 630.... They need to get it together and soon!! Also yesterday dcb shows up with a swollen bug bite on leg and they wont give him any benedryl so they pick up for dr appt and dcm asks me to get a diaper bag ready for her ( She dosnt have one here but wanted me to let her use mine???) Also dr told them " just give him some benedryl":::: Dcm also lets me know how nannies are the way to go and are just the best thing ever as i stand staring at her blankly I guess that i need to explain to them that im NOT a nanny and they need to figure out their drop off and pick up times?