Venting Thread

I did something SOOO stupid today. I am kicking myself and feel so incredibly horrible.
I sent a venting text meant for my husband to the daycare family I was venting about.
Yep, I did that.
I was one of those stupid people.
It was BAAAAAD.

I apologized by text and by voicemail and explained the situation (by voicemail).
But, I wouldn't blame them for pulling their kids.
I haven't heard anything back in the last 2.5 hours. I feel sick. Really sick. I deserve a swift kick in the rear while burning my phone.

[Play Care]

Not DC related.

We had a death in the family this week and the services are tomorrow. My sister, who lives outside of Atlanta, was supposed to fly in today so she could attend. She is ALWAYS late and has missed flights in the past.
Of course she waltzes in to the Atlanta airport at 8:15 for an 8:50 flight and then doesn't get through security in time.
She's all upset and texting up a storm.

The rest of us are over it.

Your cousin died, and you couldn't get your butt moving a few minutes earlier to make your flight?! And now you're complaining because the airline attendant is being "condescending" Really. Grow up.

[Claraskids]

Oh man, folks, this day. I have a DCG who cries until she throws up whenever she gets upset. I mean, throw up, for real. Usually its because I have told her no or told her to do something she doesn't want to do. Today it was because I finally moved her away from the other kids at lunch because she was constantly grabbing people and their food and generally fooling around. I had warned her a bunch of times, so when she did it again I went over and moved her chair. She started crying and screaming - the other kids look at me and go "here she goes". Ha, they even know its going to happen. Sure enough, out comes her lunch, all over what's left of her lunch.
Really struggling to like her right now.

I have a dcb2 who likes to do this, but is getting better. I have made him responsible for cleaning up his puke as much as possible. He hates that! Also, when I sense that he is heading in that direction, I set him on a plastic chair in a middle of the tile floor with a bucket and just let him at it. It contains the mess better, and he doesn't get as much negative reinforcement/attention. The other kids just leave the room.
He plays the same attention trick at home and mom is at her wit's end.

[Controlled Chaos]

Oh man, folks, this day. I have a DCG who cries until she throws up whenever she gets upset. I mean, throw up, for real. Usually its because I have told her no or told her to do something she doesn't want to do. Today it was because I finally moved her away from the other kids at lunch because she was constantly grabbing people and their food and generally fooling around. I had warned her a bunch of times, so when she did it again I went over and moved her chair. She started crying and screaming - the other kids look at me and go "here she goes". Ha, they even know its going to happen. Sure enough, out comes her lunch, all over what's left of her lunch.
Really struggling to like her right now.

:hug: that's rough!

[Missjaime]

Oh man, folks, this day. I have a DCG who cries until she throws up whenever she gets upset. I mean, throw up, for real. Usually its because I have told her no or told her to do something she doesn't want to do. Today it was because I finally moved her away from the other kids at lunch because she was constantly grabbing people and their food and generally fooling around. I had warned her a bunch of times, so when she did it again I went over and moved her chair. She started crying and screaming - the other kids look at me and go "here she goes". Ha, they even know its going to happen. Sure enough, out comes her lunch, all over what's left of her lunch.
Really struggling to like her right now.

[LysesKids]

Who is it that has the really good divorce letter for parents? Black cat maybe? Good luck, I have so little patience for behavior like that!

I believe BC has the letter, I have something similar to her letter in my policies... I got tired of the garbage, especially after one incident many years ago. I have only had one issue since & it got shut down the first week ( 3 years ago). I hate that it's needed, but Nowen days everything needs spelling out. Will gladly share if PM'd

[finsup]

You met the parents during the interview. They seem like the happy couple. After a year of caring for their child, they have a big fight and break up. Now I have an upset 4 yr old dck who is now pooping in her pants every day. Mom and dad can't seem to remember which parent is suppose to be picking the child up today or whose turn it is to pay. Mom is mad at dad so wants to vent for 20 mins. Dad is mad at mom and tells you to collect the late pickup fee from her since she forgot to pick up on time. Now mom is claiming dad doesn't wasn't to pick up on Thursdays so the dck will have to stay at least 20 mins after closing. And dad has to pay the late fee because he is going back on his promise to the mom. According to mom. I'm over it!

Who is it that has the really good divorce letter for parents? Black cat maybe? Good luck, I have so little patience for behavior like that!

[Mike]

Their problems are rolling over to you. Just remember, you're running a business. You have your rules and conditions. Stick to them. If they can't work out their issues around your rules and conditions, they need to find someone else that will be a better fit for their circumstances.

[Thriftylady]

You met the parents during the interview. They seem like the happy couple. After a year of caring for their child, they have a big fight and break up. Now I have an upset 4 yr old dck who is now pooping in her pants every day. Mom and dad can't seem to remember which parent is suppose to be picking the child up today or whose turn it is to pay. Mom is mad at dad so wants to vent for 20 mins. Dad is mad at mom and tells you to collect the late pickup fee from her since she forgot to pick up on time. Now mom is claiming dad doesn't wasn't to pick up on Thursdays so the dck will have to stay at least 20 mins after closing. And dad has to pay the late fee because he is going back on his promise to the mom. According to mom. I'm over it!

Tell them to leave you out of it, you don't want to hear a word. You are their for the child, not their drama. As far as pick ups tell them you want a written plan every Friday for the next week, if you don't have it, no care Monday morning until you do. As far as payment, have ONE parent in charge. The dad can give money to mom, or mom can give money to dad, but ONE of them needs to be responsible for payment.

[Shawn]

Am I the only one that feels this way?

You met the parents during the interview. They seem like the happy couple. After a year of caring for their child, they have a big fight and break up. Now I have an upset 4 yr old dck who is now pooping in her pants every day. Mom and dad can't seem to remember which parent is suppose to be picking the child up today or whose turn it is to pay. Mom is mad at dad so wants to vent for 20 mins. Dad is mad at mom and tells you to collect the late pickup fee from her since she forgot to pick up on time. Now mom is claiming dad doesn't wasn't to pick up on Thursdays so the dck will have to stay at least 20 mins after closing. And dad has to pay the late fee because he is going back on his promise to the mom. According to mom. I'm over it!

Not exactly daycare related but seriously all day since the end of daycare today my 5 yr old DS has argued with me over everything. Just once I would like to give a direction and not have it challenged! No, we don't talk to strangers, get out of the tub NOW, turn the tv off now, etc. And now, STAY IN BED. I'm being a mean mommy but he has exhausted my patience this evening.

[Hunni Bee]

Sorry dcb, that the only movie you like and want to watch is The Lion King. But that's not on Netflix for free, so we are watching a different one for our Movie Day. Everybody else likes it, so you're not going whine and say it's scary over and over when its not. Feel free to play, but now stop whining about playing alone.

[Ariana]

Alright, I'm getting really tired of a family not paying me on time. I normally get paid weekly, but this particular family likes to pay monthly. (Probably because they definitely couldn't remember to pay weekly!)

Well I was supposed to get paid today. I always have to send them a text or talk to them at drop off or pick-up reminding them that it's the beginning of another month. You would think they would put a reminder in their phone!!! Time to send home invoices which I should have done in the first place...

Invoices AND late payment fees and a firm reminder that persistant late payments coukd result in termination without notice

[Indoorvoice]

It's nephew's last week of care here this week. So far they took Monday off last minute and fought about paying me for it, showed up past my cut off drop off time Tuesday and picked up 5 minutes late, and dropped off 10 minutes before I opened this morning with nephew in a poopy diaper and a mouth full of food (they live less than a mile from me). Can't wait to see what is in store for me for the next 2 days. Yay for an end in sight!

[LysesKids]

Alright, I'm getting really tired of a family not paying me on time. I normally get paid weekly, but this particular family likes to pay monthly. (Probably because they definitely couldn't remember to pay weekly!)

Well I was supposed to get paid today. I always have to send them a text or talk to them at drop off or pick-up reminding them that it's the beginning of another month. You would think they would put a reminder in their phone!!! Time to send home invoices which I should have done in the first place...

Personally I would turn them away at the door until they come back with the pay... I get paid in advance BY THE MONTH; my parents all paid me last Friday @ pick up because the 1st was a Sunday. NO PAY, NO STAY... same goes on Fridays if they decide to pay weekly... no pay, no care on Monday. rinse and repeat until they get it