Venting Thread

[Annalee]

A very wise woman once told me in so many words, that we need to adapt to the times and new issues this business brings.
And it's true!
You need to find a way to learn and adjust to what is happening with the children and parents in our time to work with it.
Working in a center has it's limitations due to political diplomacy.
Working in a home child care has it's limitations to pay need.
Either way, learning the new ways of how parents are parenting is a challenge.

Not sure how far I want to go to accommodate the parenting-style today... Completed an interview last week....I have a 3-step process.....ended with client giving me a check for first week of care.....text me and pulled out knowing she would lose the money.....told me her 4 yr old had told her she did not want to stay here No money is worth dealing with what some of these clients bring.... NOTHING surprises me anymore!

[Play Care]

Interview supposed to be here any minute. Blech.

[daycarediva]

Interview supposed to be here any minute. Blech.

GOOD LUCK! Fingers crossed for a golden family!

[Play Care]

Holy Moly she was ADORABLE!! I only have a PT spot though.
Darn NYS and their 2 under 2 rule!

[MunchkinWrangler]

Yay, trying to fill 2 spots!!!!

I respond to an email saying my hours are 7:30 to 5:00.

The response: pickup at 4:30 to 5:30

Me: ??? I close at 5:00, NO MATTER WHAT!!!! (not actual response, written more professional but I was thinking it.)

The response: okay,thanks.

Why do they think that pickup is whenever they want not when my business is open.

Also, I had another interested person but she kept wanting to schedule her interview even when I said I wasn't available, even suggesting BEFORE I open. I said, not, so nicely this time, that, not only do I have to get ready for the day but that I have my own child to get ready also and that would be inappropriate. On nights that I said I was unavailable she kept pushing for ANYTIME in the evening. She is still bugging me and I haven't responded because it is definitely a red flag to me for this type of behavior and we haven't even met yet!!

I hate interviewing, it eats up so much of my personal time.

[Leigh]

Don't wait until 10 weeks before your due date to inform your daycare that you're expecting! ARRRGH. Now, I am going to have to replace her other 2 children when Mom has to move them to a new daycare (IF she can find one-there is a SERIOUS shortage of infant spaces in my town) because I just filled an infant space for a child due just a few weeks after DCM. DCM, by the way, just started to show about 2 weeks ago, but I wasn't going to bring it up, since I KNEW that I couldn't take the baby.

[Blackcat31]

Yay, trying to fill 2 spots!!!!

I respond to an email saying my hours are 7:30 to 5:00.

The response: pickup at 4:30 to 5:30

Me: ??? I close at 5:00, NO MATTER WHAT!!!! (not actual response, written more professional but I was thinking it.)

The response: okay,thanks.

Why do they think that pickup is whenever they want not when my business is open.

Also, I had another interested person but she kept wanting to schedule her interview even when I said I wasn't available, even suggesting BEFORE I open. I said, not, so nicely this time, that, not only do I have to get ready for the day but that I have my own child to get ready also and that would be inappropriate. On nights that I said I was unavailable she kept pushing for ANYTIME in the evening. She is still bugging me and I haven't responded because it is definitely a red flag to me for this type of behavior and we haven't even met yet!!

I hate interviewing, it eats up so much of my personal time.

Aw, that ****s! :hug:

I adopted a policy of telling potential client's "I have these times available for interviews. Which time works for you?"

I offer Mondays or Fridays only and have 4 different times available. If a parent can't make it any of those times, I am just not the right fit.

Of course you'll always get one that says a time/day that wasn't an option so you have to re-direct; "I'm sorry, I have only these times available interviews. Will any of them work for you?"

It's another way to take the reins right from tne beginning, helps keep me less stressed about trying to fit interviewing into my schedule and honestly just simplifies the whole process.

[Blackcat31]

Don't wait until 10 weeks before your due date to inform your daycare that you're expecting! ARRRGH. Now, I am going to have to replace her other 2 children when Mom has to move them to a new daycare (IF she can find one-there is a SERIOUS shortage of infant spaces in my town) because I just filled an infant space for a child due just a few weeks after DCM. DCM, by the way, just started to show about 2 weeks ago, but I wasn't going to bring it up, since I KNEW that I couldn't take the baby.

Parents are as puzzling as America's fascination with the Kardashian's :confused:

Do you think she may have just assumed you knew and was automatically taking the baby since you have the other children? I've had that happen before..

Maybe she plans on staying home after baby.. 3 is alot of kids to pay daycare for.... and didn't want to tell you too soon?

Just trying to find the logic...

[Leigh]

Parents are as puzzling as America's fascination with the Kardashian's :confused:

Do you think she may have just assumed you knew and was automatically taking the baby since you have the other children? I've had that happen before..

Maybe she plans on staying home after baby.. 3 is alot of kids to pay daycare for.... and didn't want to tell you too soon?

Just trying to find the logic...

She asked me today if I knew that she was pregnant. I told her that I figured it out about 2 weeks ago. Then she asked if I could take the baby. Staying home isn't an option-she's a single mom who gets zero child support (and likely won't EVER get it). It seems that moms who work actually do worse than moms who don't, but she's going to keep working. She works 6 days a week, including some doubles to take care of her kids. Her mom helps her pay for daycare-she's waiting and hoping that childcare assistance will help her out, but she's been turned down before, even though she is dead broke.

[MunchkinWrangler]

She asked me today if I knew that she was pregnant. I told her that I figured it out about 2 weeks ago. Then she asked if I could take the baby. Staying home isn't an option-she's a single mom who gets zero child support (and likely won't EVER get it). It seems that moms who work actually do worse than moms who don't, but she's going to keep working. She works 6 days a week, including some doubles to take care of her kids. Her mom helps her pay for daycare-she's waiting and hoping that childcare assistance will help her out, but she's been turned down before, even though she is dead broke.

I know the struggles of a single mom. This is really harsh but she shouldn't be having another child if she can't afford the 2 she has.

It just makes me wonder why you would put yourself in a worse situation.

Family is always saying how my DS needs a sibling. I balk at them, I am a single mom without help. That would be the smartest decision ever right!?!!!????!

[Leigh]

I know the struggles of a single mom. This is really harsh but she shouldn't be having another child if she can't afford the 2 she has.

It just makes me wonder why you would put yourself in a worse situation.

Family is always saying how my DS needs a sibling. I balk at them, I am a single mom without help. That would be the smartest decision ever right!?!!!????!

I agree with you. Dad flaked off about 5 months ago, he's back for a while, but he'll be gone permanently soon. I know that this one wasn't planned, but still-birth control his highly effective! She's lucky to have her mom to help with childcare and covering the bills-most don't have that.

[daycarediva]

I agree with you. Dad flaked off about 5 months ago, he's back for a while, but he'll be gone permanently soon. I know that this one wasn't planned, but still-birth control his highly effective! She's lucky to have her mom to help with childcare and covering the bills-most don't have that.

Birth control is not highly effective for everyone. I have had four kids.

pill
patch
depo
paraguard (copper) iud perfectly in place

I even had a miscarriage after my tubal ligation.

I am also supposed to have difficulty getting pregnant at all (PCOS).

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

PAY YOUR BILLS PEOPLE. ALL OF THEM TO EVERYONE IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD YOU OWE $ TO!!!

:dislike:

[Miss A]

I agree with you. Dad flaked off about 5 months ago, he's back for a while, but he'll be gone permanently soon. I know that this one wasn't planned, but still-birth control his highly effective! She's lucky to have her mom to help with childcare and covering the bills-most don't have that.

Birth control is not highly effective! I am currently 34 weeks pregnant with a birth control fail baby.

[MunchkinWrangler]

I will have to say that the most effective birth control is....

Drumroll.....

ABSTINANCE!!!!!

LOL, it is true though. If you don't want more kids/can't afford them that is the best way to not get pregnant.

I can't comment on people with marriages to uphold. Don't drink the water!!! ::