Venting Thread

[e.j.]

I remember you saying how sick your husband got from Covid when he had it. I think of you every time Covid rears its ugly head around here! I'm sorry you have it now and hope you feel better soon. I also hope your dd and the rest of your family stay well this time around.

My husband is diabetic so I've been worried about him getting Covid since the pandemic started. He'd managed to dodge it until now but is lucky in that he seems to have a relatively mild case. His symptoms seem much improved today and so far, he hasn't given it to any of us. Knock on wood! Both of our kids had it last year and they've said they never want it again! They were miserable with it then.

I'm sorry your daycare families are so self-centered. Definitely do what you need to do and try not to feel any guilt when you take the time off that you need. Self-care is so important in this job!

[Alwaysgreener]

Ugh how do I get myself here. I talked to a family that has four kids. It went from needing care for two to three than four with the fourth drop in care or care if he didn't get into K. (Assuming she didn't enroll him in the spring) The third child only needs Friday.

She didn't read the policy before we met and I asked her to read and get back to me to schedul a tour..She sends me state paperwork and nothing. So then I asked if she read the policies and to confirm hours of care need. I still don't have hours but she said she read everything and asked if toothbrush was required.

She didn't have a time because she just starting the job and needs to train . At the time she emailed me she only needed three days but then asked for 5 days on hopes to get more hours.

I sent her the paperwork but realized that I confused dates with all the kids and I can't start both of the younger ones on the same week because my current dcb has another week to age up.

Honestly I would love to find someone with less kids (due to being a large chunk of income) but need to fill. I did just get two other people contact me today.

[sahm1225]

e.j. I feel you. I close at 5pm. I get a call at 5:10pm saying a dck tested positive . We were already on the road to visit family out of state and turned around and came home. I started wearing a mask Saturday morning just in case and tested positive Saturday night: am absolutely miserable. I’m quarantining away from my kids, and luckily no one else is positive. I have 7 families. I know it’s an inconvenience when I’m closed, I get it. But I am always cautious and now my kids and husband are having a rough tune because I’m not able to help with anything and I feel like crap. Only ONE family has checked up by sending a text. ONE. I almost lost my husband when he had Covid (he was hospitalized, it was horrible). My youngest is immune compromised and if she gets covid, we’re instructed to go to ER immediately… they all know this: yet only ONE family has texted..

Makes me realize that these families that I consider a part of me don’t view me the same way and it hurts: but as soon as I feel better, I’m holding on to how it made me feel And I’m done worrying about how they feel if I need a day off or feeling guilty for closing an hour early in Halloween… I’m done.

Ps. I hope you’re all staying healthy and your husband is doing okay

[e.j.]

I can relate to most of this list. It definitely captures the stressors in daycare.

Here's another one I found to:
Pressures of Child Care
wondering if we’ll get paid on time.
wondering if we’ll get off on time.
scheduling and keeping appointments.
is a parent going to freak over a stain?
how are they going to handle the lost binky?
there’s a biter in our midst.
contracted illnesses.
staying full as we need to be.
answering multiple calls of those needing infant care.
the parent who wants to run the program.
the parent who wishes you were the program can’t enroll in.
the custody battle.
the school kid who wonts to stay home and causes grief.
the mini food critic.
the picky parent.
the negotiator over pay parent.
the staff that doesn’t want to work.
dramatic people.
kids with extreme behaviors.
budgets and inflation.
the complainers.
juggling family and business and being successful in both.
planning for retirement.
holidays and vacations.
being called unreliable when you close for a sick day, a holiday, emergency or weather related day.
interviewing families.
dropping care.
cleaning the same messes up multiple times a day.
repairing, remodeling and rearranging.
paying bills.
tax time.
keeping everyone happy including yourself.

The part about staff not wanting to work is what I appreciated about this post because unfortunately you cant find people to work and if you do find someone they either 1) are lazy 2) stay on their cell phones or 3) decide they don't won't to work anymore and send you a text explaining they are quitting and send it on a weekend instead of following policy and putting in their 2 week notice or 4) get mad if someone doesn't or can't work for them because they have other commitments

[e.j.]

That really is disrespectful.

[e.j.]

I can appreciate this after spending the holiday weekend at home with a Covid positive husband. My kids and I are now waiting and wondering if the rest of us will be hit with it. In the meantime, my daycare is closed, I'm losing income and all of my families have had to find alternative childcare.

[girlmomma]

DCP doesn’t send payment by 5:30 yesterday so they were hit with a late fee at 6:00. At 6:01, they send payment without the late fee, after receiving the new invoice with the late fee.

It is truly disrespectful!

[Springvalley]

Saw these posts on a daycare provider page on Facebook titled "Spunky Daycare Provider" here's both articles:
1st post:
Dear Child Care Parent Why? Why? Why?
I just have to ask why? Why would you think it’s acceptable to bring a sick child to daycare? Why do you think it’s acceptable to give them meds after a night of puking or diarrhea? Why do you insist on placing your sick child in your Provider’s arms.
What on earth would possibly compel you to think this would be a good idea? Especially this close to your Providers long holiday weekend. This act alone could impact so many people’s holiday plans. I have an idea why not just take the day off with your sick child and go for broke. Just take them to Target, Walmart, and everywhere large crowds of people dwell.
You surely didn’t think upon getting up after a long night of fevers, puking or diarrhea this could possibly be a fantastic idea.
Let’s do a quick educational lesson.
cough drops are medicine and do not cure a cough.
fever reducing medicine does not make the illness non-contagious. It only masks the symptoms.
the pink stuff does not make diarrhea non-contagious it just stops the diarrhea until it wears off.
cold and flu medication does not make your child non-contagious.
Are you getting the lesson here? Masking symptoms for 8 hours does not make your child good to go to daycare. It only means they have been given medicine to give them some relief.
So now because you brought your child sick and exposed your Provider and all the kids we are playing the waiting game. Are we going to get sick? Is the headache we might get be the start? Is this rolling tummy, fatigue or chills the start of an illness? Nothing like being stressed over the stress of a possibility of an illness.
Now for some advice. I have no clue as to your motive. I do know you weren’t dressed in your going to work clothes. That is unless it’s pajama day at work. My suspicions are you were up all night and going home and napping between laundry.
Your Provider doesn’t have that option. Oh we have our little emergency “somebody brought their sick kid in” kit. Change of clothes, alcohol spray, mouth wash, wipes and our other illness preventive stuff. We also know a direct hit does little to prevent illness.
What we really need you to know. For whatever reason your child exposed everyone. Please think of the impact that action might have made.
is someone’s traveling to loved ones not going to happen now?
is a holiday get together not going to happen now?
did someone waste a great deal of time and money planning for an event that isn’t going to happen now?
is this going to spread all over the nation because you knowingly and willing took a contagious child out?
So to the original question- Why? Why? Why?

[Annalee]

They drive me nuts thinking 'no rule is for them'. Such entitlement!!!!

[CountryRoads]

Payment is due tomorrow.

Dcm: Will it be late if I pay on Tuesday?



Parents are so strange sometimes!

[Alwaysgreener]

So I just got a call from Sis3 she apologized for saying anything about the cookie jar, she said something about now that the story was out. The story was out a decade ago when they asked what happened to the cookie jar. I asked what jar and then told them that Grandma had given it to me and it was on display in my home. (Ironically I did not want it when grandma gave it to me, it is not pretty, but when I took it home mom explained the history so I keep it.) I have an ugly bee pin because Grandma gave it to me.

I had commented to our mom that she was upset and mom said something to Sis2, Then Sis2 accused me of stealing the cookie jar after grandma passed. It is a cookie jar that sat on my fridge or above my cabinets in my home from the day I moved out. Maybe you should visit more or be more observant. If I stole it why would I have displayed it?

I know my family talks too much behind other's backs. But knowing that I purposely told Mom because I knew it would get back to Sis3 and out the others that she indicated when she was complaining that I had it.

Sis3 has Grandma's SILVERware because she once mentioned that she did not have any silverware, so Grandma gave it to her. (Note to Grandma if it was not made of silver, it was flatware.)

[e.j.]

You need a vacation from your "vacation". Sounds as though it was more stressful than a regular work week. Sorry you're going through so many stressful situations right now.

[Springvalley]

Bless your heart

[girlmomma]

e.j. Good for your daughter!!!