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Oh my goodness! I am so sorry for everyone involved. Like everyone else, that is my biggest fear and yes, the investigation would be so frightening...as if walking in to a limp infant wasn't enough (but I guess investigations must be done!).
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Every time I see "SIDS" I just want to hug you.Sorry for your friend and for yet another family.
It is a very diffficult thing to go through.
My son had NO "risk factors" and still had the same outcome.
Full term, prenatal care, excellent diet, breastfed, perfect well baby checks, non-smoking, middle class, the works.
SIDS just ****s.Comment
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I start watching a infant in Dec. and this scares me more then anything...I wake up some nights just terrified. I started watching a 3 mo old when I started childcare...now I will have his brother starting in Dec. and he will be about 2 if not 2 1/2 mos coming into my care. I am nervous but mom is not worried. I hear these stories and I panic!! A month ago one of my dcm's asked if I could watch her sisters 2 1/2 mo for a week while her dc lay was out on vacation. That was last weekend. I was soooo paranoid...That baby slept either in my arms or in her bouncer right next to me. Where i could see her breathing. They brought a pnp and I tried laying her down on her back on it but she just wouldn't sleep.. the vibration in the bouncer she really liked. I would feed her and burp her and she would play a bit with me and then sleep. It was eat sleep poop and pee. I got over my fear. But seeing this just upset and terrifies me! I am sooo sorry for your friend OP!! I can't imagine what she must be going through not to mention the family. It is heartbreaking.Comment
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Wow... your poor friend. That is my worst fear ever. I hope she gets thru this okay and ESPECIALLY the parents. Must be awful for them.Comment
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omgosh, your poor friend, I'm sorry she's going through that and I'm sorry to everyone who has ever lost a baby to SIDS or known one who was lost (laundry, catherder...)
Why does it seem like a lot of SIDS deaths happen in/at daycare? What is different about daycare than at home? People don't keep their babies within arms reach all the time at home; they don't check them every 15 minutes at home...what's different?Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!Comment
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I've been reading a lot about SIDS in the past couple of days, and I read that 20% of all SIDS deaths occur in child care settings, with 60% of those deaths being in family child care homes.
Just putting your infant in child care more than doubles their risk for SIDS.
It's no wonder it's probably the number 1 fear among child care providers who accept infants.Comment
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I'm sorry for the family's loss and for your provider friend. What a traumatic thing to go though for everyone. I have a friend who lost her son to sids 10 years ago and it was a horrible thing to have to go through. I love babies, I love everything about them, but that is my greatest fear. Hugs to all of you who have suffered the loss of an infant to sids.Comment
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Hugs to you littlemommy. (((((So sorry)))))). Thanks for being there for your friend, she needs you right now. How tragic.
Sharlan, you are so right, we hear about it happening at daycare because the media thinks it "news". When it happens at home, it just a personal tragedy and not "newsworthy". Sad, but a sign of the times.
I don't do infants. Newborns...wow...too risky.Comment
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OR perhaps those deaths occur in child care settings more often because the babies are in child care settings longer and more often than they are at home? Statistics do not always tell the whole story!
Also - to keep it in perspective - "Constant worrying about the possibility of SIDS and constant checking on the baby will not safeguard a baby from SIDS, although it does provide some comfort, even though it is exhausting for the parents. The first few months are a time best spent by loving and watching your child grow and develop. Although SIDS is a terrifying and horrible experience to go through, it must be recognized that SIDS is not a very common occurrence, and that if viewed in a different light, of every 1000 babies born, 998 will not become SIDS victims." [http://www.sidsfamilies.com/index.php?sec=sidsstats]
This is truly not to make light of those who have endured the tragedy of SIDS (I too have endured the loss of an infant) but in hopes of reassuring day care providers who choose to provide infant care. There is also a very good chance that "all shall be well and /All manner of thing shall be well" (T. S. Elliot LITTLE GIDDING, quoting St. Theresa) Love the babies and watch over them and trust that all will be well.Comment
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Actually, 1/3 of the SIDS deaths that occur in child care settings happen during the first week of care, with 1/2 of those happening on the first day of care. I doubt very much that it has much to do with spending more time in daycare than at home. I would imagine that it has more to do with not following the safe sleep guidelines than anything else. That's just my opinion, of course.Comment
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This is the PowerPoint Presentation: http://www.healthychildcare.org/PPT/SIDSfinal.ppt
I have been unable to locate the research paper that this came from, but I do see that this researcher has done a lot with SIDS:
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