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    WWYD If This Happened To Your Kids

    A few weeks ago I picked up my 3 month old from daycare and his car seat and hair was wet with formula. The director said she didn’t know how it happened. Last week I picked him up from daycare and this time his clothes and entire car seat were wet with formula. And again the director said she didn’t know how it happened and that her teacher/assistant must have done it. I asked the teacher/assistant the next day and she didn’t even know about it. I picked up my toddler from daycare the other day and his PullUps and pants were soaked because he had not been changed all day. The director apologized and said she forgot that he wasn’t potty trained. Basically I get the feeling that she is leaving all of the work to her teacher and my kids are being neglected. I understand that things happen and I’m trying to be patient and understanding but how many more incidents should I let go by. Should I remove my kids from this daycare? For some reason I feel guilty about removing them. I know I should, but I guess I just need other people’s opinions and experiences on this.
  • dEHmom
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • Dec 2010
    • 2355

    #2
    sorry to hear this has happened. I would make sure to keep track of it. and note that you've spoken with the director on this day regarding this incident.

    it sounds like the bottle's may be leaking while the child is in the seat. Possibly they are put there to drink the bottle, and they fall asleep and the bottle tips over. Watch the carseat padding though, because it will mold underneath if you do not clean it.

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    • Unregistered

      #3
      Do not feel guilty about removing your child from a situation that you are not happy with. Go with your gut! I think in this case your gut is telling you to leave and in that case that is what you should do. I removed my daughter from her daycare after a couple of incidents where I discovered that she had been left alone - once in the garage in her car seat and the other time in the house while the provider was outside. I felt terribly guilty about leaving but now I am so happy we did. We are much happier with our new center.

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      • lil angels
        Advanced Daycare.com Member
        • Jan 2011
        • 643

        #4
        Well I have had a baby get formula in their hair if they spit up a lot and I don't catch it right away. But for the baby and car seat to be full of it he is probably getting his bottle propped up for him and isn't being held and fed because it is easier. That is a big no no they prob don't have time to sit and do that because of all the other kids and for your older one not getting changed all day because she thought he was potty trained if that was her job then that is terrible she doesn't know the kids at all if that is the case and your son can't feel very safe there. I would start looking around for something else and give your 2 week notice as soon as possible they should have more care than that you are paying good money for daycare and the kid should at least be held when fed and changed everyday. Good Luck

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        • daycarelady68
          New Daycare.com Member
          • Apr 2011
          • 13

          #5
          Find a better place. In my opinion that's ridiculous.

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          • cheerfuldom
            Advanced Daycare.com Member
            • Dec 2010
            • 7413

            #6
            saying they don't know is a really scary response. The only reasons are that they have too many children to notice or just simply don't care. A soaking wet infant and toddler are unacceptable. Even if the toddler was potty trained, they should have noticed that he hadn't actually asked or gone to the bathroom all day. Whats the ratio there? IMO you need to start looking for something else.

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            • Kaddidle Care
              Daycare.com Member
              • Dec 2010
              • 2090

              #7
              Originally posted by Anonymous
              A few weeks ago I picked up my 3 month old from daycare and his car seat and hair was wet with formula. The director said she didn’t know how it happened. Last week I picked him up from daycare and this time his clothes and entire car seat were wet with formula. And again the director said she didn’t know how it happened and that her teacher/assistant must have done it. I asked the teacher/assistant the next day and she didn’t even know about it. I picked up my toddler from daycare the other day and his PullUps and pants were soaked because he had not been changed all day. The director apologized and said she forgot that he wasn’t potty trained. Basically I get the feeling that she is leaving all of the work to her teacher and my kids are being neglected. I understand that things happen and I’m trying to be patient and understanding but how many more incidents should I let go by. Should I remove my kids from this daycare? For some reason I feel guilty about removing them. I know I should, but I guess I just need other people’s opinions and experiences on this.
              The fact that you are asking tells me that in your heart you know you should find a better place for your children.

              The toddler, one soaked diaper isn't a huge deal. It happens on rare occasions - shift changes - one shift thinking the other one changed the children in diapers. If the child is 3 -3 1/2 and the rest of his class is already potty trained, then it's time to start thinking about getting that started.

              I'd be more concerned about the infant soaked in formula. Sounds like they are propping the baby with the bottle or worse yet, not burping him and he is vomiting. A 3 month old needs to be held for feeding - and burped properly.

              Take a good look at the child to caregiver ratio. They may be pushing the limit on it.

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              • jen
                Advanced Daycare.com Member
                • Sep 2009
                • 1832

                #8
                I really have a different opinion on the diaper thing. I don't think that there is ANY excuse for not changing a toddler. Really, by afternoon that diaper had to be hanging and the kid would smell like urine. In other words, if an adult was interacting with the kid AT ALL, they would have noticed at some point. I've been doing daycare for almost 10 years and I have never had a child go all day without a diaper change. Thats just gross.

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                • sharlan
                  Daycare.com Member
                  • May 2011
                  • 6067

                  #9
                  It's time to give notice and move on.

                  They are telling you that they don't know because YOU are accepting that answer. That is not an acceptable answer.

                  The only way the infant's carseat is getting wet is because the baby is being prop's with a bottle. That is a big no no. Formula that is going into the carseat is not going into your baby's belly.

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                  • wdmmom
                    Advanced Daycare.com
                    • Mar 2011
                    • 2713

                    #10
                    What exactly are you paying them for again?!

                    If it's for childcare, you're children aren't getting care....or so you are making it sound that way.

                    Propped bottles, "I don't know's", and not changing diapers would be beyond enough for me to pull my kids right away. That's just not cool. No one knows anything because no one is doing their job! By saying "I don't know" that means they don't want to admit guilt but it screams such to me!

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                    • nannyde
                      All powerful, all knowing daycare whisperer
                      • Mar 2010
                      • 7320

                      #11
                      Sounds like they are propping bottles in the seat.

                      Your kids aren't even getting basic child care. Time to move them. If you can just pay off your notice but take them out right away.
                      http://www.amazon.com/Daycare-Whispe...=doing+daycare

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                      • Kaddidle Care
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Dec 2010
                        • 2090

                        #12
                        Originally posted by jen
                        I really have a different opinion on the diaper thing. I don't think that there is ANY excuse for not changing a toddler. Really, by afternoon that diaper had to be hanging and the kid would smell like urine. In other words, if an adult was interacting with the kid AT ALL, they would have noticed at some point. I've been doing daycare for almost 10 years and I have never had a child go all day without a diaper change. Thats just gross.
                        You're right - I meant a skipped changing more than anything else. (Not all blooming day!) Sometimes when they are in pull ups the diaper is so thin that you don't notice a bulge but yeah - if nobody was changing a diaper they should have noticed that the child hadn't used the bathroom at all all day.

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                        • dEHmom
                          Advanced Daycare.com Member
                          • Dec 2010
                          • 2355

                          #13
                          Originally posted by Kaddidle Care
                          You're right - I meant a skipped changing more than anything else. (Not all blooming day!) Sometimes when they are in pull ups the diaper is so thin that you don't notice a bulge but yeah - if nobody was changing a diaper they should have noticed that the child hadn't used the bathroom at all all day.
                          not only that, they would smell strong of urine. It's like an all night diaper, it has a bad smell. Maybe it's just me, but I can smell when a child pees in the diaper immediately when they come close. But you can tell when it's been on for more than half a day.

                          So if they couldn't tell, then they clearly were not giving this child attention period. Because there is no way they read a book, played with playdough or whatever and couldn't tell that this child wasn't filled with pee.

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                          • e.j.
                            Daycare.com Member
                            • Dec 2010
                            • 3738

                            #14
                            Originally posted by Anonymous
                            A few weeks ago I picked up my 3 month old from daycare and his car seat and hair was wet with formula. The director said she didn’t know how it happened. Last week I picked him up from daycare and this time his clothes and entire car seat were wet with formula. And again the director said she didn’t know how it happened and that her teacher/assistant must have done it. I asked the teacher/assistant the next day and she didn’t even know about it. I picked up my toddler from daycare the other day and his PullUps and pants were soaked because he had not been changed all day. The director apologized and said she forgot that he wasn’t potty trained. Basically I get the feeling that she is leaving all of the work to her teacher and my kids are being neglected. I understand that things happen and I’m trying to be patient and understanding but how many more incidents should I let go by. Should I remove my kids from this daycare? For some reason I feel guilty about removing them. I know I should, but I guess I just need other people’s opinions and experiences on this.
                            I would be concerned that they "don't know" what happened. If they were paying attention and caring for your infant properly, they would either be able to tell you what happened or they would have cleaned up the mess before you arrived. As for the toddler's diaper, there's no excuse for allowing a child to go all day without a diaper change. As someone else mentioned, even if they thought he was potty trained, they should have noticed he never went to the bathroom all day.

                            Seems like they're aren't supervising properly either because they're overwhelmed or because they just don't care. I would not bring my children back to that day care and I would question the need to pay for not giving enough notice. It seems to me, they broke any contract you might have signed first when they didn't provide proper care for your children.

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                            • Mom_of_two
                              Daycare.com Member
                              • Apr 2011
                              • 195

                              #15
                              I am a home provider and mother of two (one and three years) - my oldest was in daycare til my youngest was born. I would most definitely remove them!!! They are not being cared for as they should. Please do not feel guilty! You are paying for this service and your children are the most important thing. That daycare SHOULD have people leave, and complain (appropriately, of course) with that kind of care.
                              I would assume that a bottle was being propped and leaked. Not ok!! And agree with PP about the toddler- do they not fill out daily report sheets??
                              Good luck.

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