Question for Parents

[Unregistered]

hey, MAC!

it's your party, sister. this is the exact type of situation that REQUIRES caregivers to have a set of policies for running the daycare. these parents don't have the right to disrupt the rest period for the other PAYING parents. i say tell them you won't take the bottle away at naptimes until the child stops crying for it because it's not fair to everyone else. do you think the other parents would be okay with the situation? i wouldn't want my child to miss a good nap because of it - because they'd be fussy and tired at home. who wants to spend the little time they get with their children fighting and punishing???

tell 'em no!

[Unregistered]

I think it's almost too late to go back on it now that you agreed to do it, without making waves, but I think you are probably going to have to.

Tell them as tactfully as you can that quitting the bottle cold turkey has not worked for DCB in X number of days and while you gave it your best shot, it is too disruptive to the other children during the rest period. Tell them you are concerned about other parents getting upset because their kids are missing their naps and are cranky at pick-up time.

Tell them you are happy to work with them on weaning the child but that the weaning will have to be done at home over a long weekend first. This is the same policy I have for children on potty training and on moving out of the crib, it must be done at home first over a long weekend and must be consistently done at home from that point on.

Also the other poster made a good point, why not have a bottle with you at nap and a bottle with them at bedtime as a compromise.

[Unregistered]

I realize this sounds bad, and I'm sure many will disagree... but I would just go ahead and give the bottle anyway. Smile and say ok to the parent, then do whatever is in the best interest of you, the child, and your daycare.
Amen.

[MamaInCali]

A parents answer

As a parent, I can't speak for their logic because thats what they came up with. But a parent has rights, at least in California to know the truth and not be lied to. You should be forward with them so they clearly understand the length their child is crying. Don't assume parents do not want to hear about their child having a bad day. And if it is disrupting nap time, you have to let the parents know that. Its the providers obligation I feel, to let that child go. To withold information and lie to the parents is wrong. And some times it is just to keep that spot filled.

[mac60]

Well, this problem has been taken care of.....a long time ago. All is well now and has been for quite some time. If I would of gotten rid of the child, that would of been a cop out on my part and that is not me. Some of us need our job, and just because we hit a rocky spot in the road, is not a reason to terminate a family. I can't believe the number of providers that always throw out that soulution.....terminate. If we terminated every time a parent did something stupid or disrespectful or didn't follow our handbook, or everytime a child was having issues or misbehaving, then I would not have a business. I need my job, and issues and problems are a part of it, you just learn to deal with it. For those of you who don't really rely on your daycare income and can terminate everytime something doesn't go your way, consider yourself very lucky, as many of us depend on our income to pay bills and keep a roof over our head, just as I did when I worked outside the home for 21 years for another company.

And just so you know, I clearly explained to the mom regularly the childs behavior....they knew, the child did the very same at home, and the mom regularly apologized for the behavior.

And please, don't talk to me about parents rights.......or I will have to bring up all the days the parents bring their child to me while they have the day off, go shopping, have "other" things to do.....where are the childrens rights here.

[GretasLittleFriends]

And please, don't talk to me about parents rights.......or I will have to bring up all the days the parents bring their child to me while they have the day off, go shopping, have "other" things to do.....where are the childrens rights here.

Hate to say it, but it's the parents' rights to decide the child's rights...

I see this with children in my care too. Not so much that the parents bring their child to me to go shopping/etc, but just the general taking their children for granted... "The children will always be my children" mentality, perhaps not realizing how fast they will grow up and how much time the parents will miss out.

For example, one of my dc kids first steps were taken here at daycare. I debated not telling it to mom, because she's a hard worker and trying to make something of her life. I didn't want her to feel guilty about missing that important mile stone.

[jen]

I never ever tell! I usually ask.."has X taken any steps at home yet? He's looking close?" But I never tell!

Hate to say it, but it's the parents' rights to decide the child's rights...

I see this with children in my care too. Not so much that the parents bring their child to me to go shopping/etc, but just the general taking their children for granted... "The children will always be my children" mentality, perhaps not realizing how fast they will grow up and how much time the parents will miss out.

For example, one of my dc kids first steps were taken here at daycare. I debated not telling it to mom, because she's a hard worker and trying to make something of her life. I didn't want her to feel guilty about missing that important mile stone.

[mac60]

I totally understand that it is the Parents rights to decide the child's rights, but when it is in my home, and it is not working, and it does no one justice including other children in my care or the child themselves, I then have to make a decision to do what is best for all involved.

[GretasLittleFriends]

I totally understand that it is the Parents rights to decide the child's rights, but when it is in my home, and it is not working, and it does no one justice including other children in my care or the child themselves, I then have to make a decision to do what is best for all involved.

I was being a smarty pants. I do agree with you.

[mac60]

I was being a smarty pants. I do agree with you.

Maybe you need to go to the time out corner then.

(I don't know, we all might enjoy a few quiet moments in the time out corner)