Is Potential DCP Not Interested?

[Unregistered]

The potty training at that age and separate nap issue would be deal breakers for me.

Have you had an eval through early intervention? 3+ is done with ECI here and would involve a LONG drawn out process with the school district for evals and therapy.

Yes, he was actually in the infants and toddlers program when he was 2 and we're getting him back into a speech a program called Child Find, he has an evaluation set up for the 18th of this month.

[Rockgirl]

Honestly, I would just move on at this point. If a person can't be bothered to at least respond with a simple "I have not made a decision yet".....I would not want to work with them. That's just me.

[Unregistered]

Maybe she was doing other interviews and just wanted to wait to see if they were a better fit? Try not to take it personal and just keep YOUR options open by looking for other providers too

That could be true, I just assumed she would let me know either way? We've met and spoke to other providers and they've all been excellent about communicating and letting us know if they're waiting to hear back from other interests, etc. So it's just different that she chose not to communicate at all.

We've met with other providers, just haven't found the right fit. We're still keep all of our options open!

But maybe I'm taking it too personal.

[Thriftylady]

That could be true, I just assumed she would let me know either way? We've met and spoke to other providers and they've all been excellent about communicating and letting us know if they're waiting to hear back from other interests, etc. So it's just different that she chose not to communicate at all.

We've met with other providers, just haven't found the right fit. We're still keep all of our options open!

But maybe I'm taking it too personal.

Don't make it personal. It doesn't sound like a match. Be glad to know that now instead of a month from now when you are looking for another provider yet again.

[KidGrind]

Thanks for your responses. I guess we were giving her the benefit of the doubt and as a business assumed she would be a little more professional. But I guess if she's having a hard time saying "no" and ignoring us is her way of letting us know that she isn't interested, we'll have the accept that. The communication was done through facebook, so I was wondering if there were any issues with her receiving our messages. Either way she has our phone number/email and could of reach out to us through other channels. I did send her one last message this morning saying "D, were you still interested" .. and she responded she was at the Dr's and would message me soon... I feel like an idiot for messaging her now. I'm so confused as to what's going on. Why is she posting on facebook posts (in a local mom's group we're in together) and couldn't respond to me for now 4 days, but now she's willing to reply? Could there be a legitimate reason to all of this? Or am I holding on to false hope she is a truly a good provider?

1. Just because a provider isn’t interested in having you as a client doesn’t mean she’s isn’t a good provider.

2. Again providers are people and some people have a very hard time with saying no.

3. Where is your responsibility as a parent to just move on already. She is not communicating with you in a manner that is working for you. As a parent by now I would be, “Really liked Jane, she’s not answering me. I need childcare services so on to the next provider or center I go.

4. You have your answer. Of course it’s not the answer you wanted nor addressed in a professional manner. She doesn’t want to take on your family as a client for whatever her reasons. And it’s not personal, you just weren’t a right fit for her.

[Unregistered]

1. You aren't even trying to potty train your 3 year old.
2. Nap time could be an issue.
3. You left looking for care to the last minute, and are now needing an answer on a non-work day. There is that saying... "Lack of planning on your part does not create an emergency on my part."

I wouldn't be interested, but can't imagine that I would have indicated otherwise.

At this point I think you need to move on.

[Josiegirl]

1. You aren't even trying to potty train your 3 year old.
2. Nap time could be an issue.
3. You left looking for care to the last minute, and are now needing an answer on a non-work day. There is that saying... "Lack of planning on your part does not create an emergency on my part."

I wouldn't be interested, but can't imagine that I would have indicated otherwise.

At this point I think you need to move on.

It's been almost a month, I'll bet she has already moved on.

If the provider was promising to send the OP a contract but was not interested, that doesn't make sense? Sounds like she has other stuff going on in her life and if she had just opened that recently, doesn't have herself together yet.

[Thriftylady]

It's been almost a month, I'll bet she has already moved on.

If the provider was promising to send the OP a contract but was not interested, that doesn't make sense? Sounds like she has other stuff going on in her life and if she had just opened that recently, doesn't have herself together yet.

Some people just don't know how to say no. I think it is wrong to promise a contract and not do it. I am guessing the OP has found care at this point though.

[Mom2Two]

I have three x three year olds in my care right now who are not potty trained/fully potty trained. It would definitely not be a deal breaker for me. All parents have been putting effort in but the kids haven't been/aren't ready yet. I would much rather that than the parent who pressures me to support a potty training effort that the child wasn't truly ready for yet. I hate that thing where the parent wants you to take them potty, but really they're just going to do it in the pull up anyway so I end up doing both. Actually I just won't do both. Either they're ready or they're just in diapers.