Our Montessori school does not allow parents to bring in children no matter the age. You pull up to the door, a worker comes out, unbuckles the child, helps them or carries them out and into school, drive off. Pick up is in reverse.
Not Allowing Parents To Walk Children In
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I also would question this. Our center lets parents come in and get their childs day started. We also have an open door policy, they can come to visit anytime. I would wonder what was going on inside a facility that doesn't allow parents to come in.- Flag
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I am so torn on this subject. First of all, I most definately think that they should have given you warning so that you could prepare and also prepare your daughter. My kids went to a Catholic School when they were in elementary. Almost exact thing happened to us. One day we were walking the kids in and there was a huge sign in the door saying that noone was allowed into the hallways anymore. Irritated all of the parents. We were more upset because we didn't see the other parent anymore and that's where we talked about alot of the things we did together such as fundraisers, school activities etc. So I definately understand your frustration. On the other hand, I can understand the massive disruption of all of the parents walking the child in and having long goodbyes. I can't imagine what that's like because when I have a couple of parents do that it's highly disruptive. CAnnot imagine that many parents doing it. I also have one parent that does this handshake, kisses routine that started out with one round of it and now it's up to 3 times of the routine. Let me tell ya, that takes forever and I'm supposed to stand there and wait for the ritual to finish. Also, i agree that parents have no business in the bathroom. This is for obvious security reasons. Is it a long ride to the center for you? Why, if your daughter goes to the bathroom before leaving home does she need you to take her upon entering the school? Think of it from another angle. What if your daughter was in the bathroom and a parent that you're not familiar with was hanging around in there too. Are you okay with that? You and your daughter will get used to it and it will be fine. Just don't make a big deal about it. maybe tell your daughter it's because she's such a big girl now that she can handle it on her own. Let me restate though that the way they handled it was poor.- Flag
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I am so torn on this subject. First of all, I most definately think that they should have given you warning so that you could prepare and also prepare your daughter. My kids went to a Catholic School when they were in elementary. Almost exact thing happened to us. One day we were walking the kids in and there was a huge sign in the door saying that noone was allowed into the hallways anymore. Irritated all of the parents. We were more upset because we didn't see the other parent anymore and that's where we talked about alot of the things we did together such as fundraisers, school activities etc. So I definately understand your frustration. On the other hand, I can understand the massive disruption of all of the parents walking the child in and having long goodbyes. I can't imagine what that's like because when I have a couple of parents do that it's highly disruptive. CAnnot imagine that many parents doing it. I also have one parent that does this handshake, kisses routine that started out with one round of it and now it's up to 3 times of the routine. Let me tell ya, that takes forever and I'm supposed to stand there and wait for the ritual to finish. Also, i agree that parents have no business in the bathroom. This is for obvious security reasons. Is it a long ride to the center for you? Why, if your daughter goes to the bathroom before leaving home does she need you to take her upon entering the school? Think of it from another angle. What if your daughter was in the bathroom and a parent that you're not familiar with was hanging around in there too. Are you okay with that? You and your daughter will get used to it and it will be fine. Just don't make a big deal about it. maybe tell your daughter it's because she's such a big girl now that she can handle it on her own. Let me restate though that the way they handled it was poor.
The only thing to add is that liability starts the moment you enter the door, and if a parent takes their child to the bathroom and a slip takes place injuring the parent or child there is increased liability, that's all. Ya know, high heels mom's wear are lovely, but not for the bathroom tile. Agree, communication letter should have gone out prior, not just started at the door that day.- Flag
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I'm not surprised at your answer.
While I understand the concerns they might have with some parents, I agree with you, Crystal. Allowing parents to visit unannounced is a requirement here, and in most states. Allowing parents to walk their children in, to observe the program's activities in the process, and to interact with the teacher/provider are indicators of a warm, high-quality environment.
As I said before, I would never "punish" a group for the actions of a few. I would address the parents that are causing the issue individually, not make a blanket rule. I believe around here it's called "bye bye outside".
I have done bye bye outside if there is a prolonged drop off, or if the child is having an issue with separation. It is always discussed before hand with the parent/s, and then implemented. Typically, it's for a short period of time.
If a child was able to run away from staff and nearly get out of the door, then they need to address the safety issue with THAT child and the staff present when that happened. Obviously a 1:1/shadow during drop off could also resolve the issue.- Flag
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I must agree here as well. I know that I, from a parent's prospective would not feel comfortable not being able to check in on my child while at daycare. I have a very open "open-door" policy to make parent's feel comfortable with my program. If I ever needed to change that I would definitely notify all of the parents of the change because for all I know, some parents may have chosen my program because of my open-door policy. I know that if I chose child care with this perk being one of the benefits and then they changed the rule suddenly and without notice then I'm pretty sure that I'd be upset too. I don't know that I would choose child care elsewhere but I would definitely reevaluate my options.- Flag
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Do you think that this is different because of it's a school? I know even with my kids's school now (7th grade and 10th grade), you cannot just walk in the school and go to their classrooms. They very much frown on that. Even in elementary. If they forgot something in 2nd grade and you took it to the school, the office secretary took it to the classroom.- Flag
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I also see both sides.
Though I don't think it seems fishy. They didn't say parents can't drop in unannounced and observe, they said no mote parents walking kids in at drop off. If it is a center that can be over 100 parents coming and going in a short time frame. Meaning the door would be open constantly. Much different than a few parents dropping by at lunchtime.
I do think notice would have been nice, but it sounds like this child/ten are having severe separation issues causing dangerous behavior. I would bet that there was no other way to safely handle this situation while the changeover occured.- Flag
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I had to stop allowing parents to come all the way in during drop offs because one parent was spending 10-15 minutes in here daily with her child, who is not young. It was actually delaying us from continuing our routine, it disrupted the other children and I who were doing math lessons, and it was getting increasingly longer and longer. All parents are to drop their children off in the front area now. They can hear and see what we are doing quite easily, but actually coming in and participating really throws off everyone AND makes the other parents uncomfortable when it's a constant thing.- Flag
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Do you think that this is different because of it's a school? I know even with my kids's school now (7th grade and 10th grade), you cannot just walk in the school and go to their classrooms. They very much frown on that. Even in elementary. If they forgot something in 2nd grade and you took it to the school, the office secretary took it to the classroom..
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At my daughters school, parents aren't allowed past the office. No exceptions. Very tiny school and they know everyone but they don't break the rules no matter what.
At car pickup we have to have our child's assigned number on the car and they have the car riders lined up and ready to be picked up, the child has to wait in line until you are the next to pick up, they call the child, the child goes to your car- Flag
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I bet a big part of the decision making processes is how many kids are coming and going during the day. some of the daycares around here are easily 40 kids, sometimes more. so yeah, one kid finding a weakness in the security of the daycare IS going to change the policies. And offering one-on-one solutions when you have so many kids coming and going is not cost effective or realistic in most cases. Its just like an elementary school. The teacher is there for the class and there is not individualized care for the most part. and liability is a huge concern. again, that changes the way a daycare is run because one bad situation and the center could get shut down with a lawsuit.
most of us here are home providers with 20 kids or less and many of us have assistants as well. thats the best its going to get as far as ratios for safety. centers normally have one person running the front desk or entrance area and they have to keep the parents coming and going smoothly and safely. if the parents drop off directly to class, there is still a good size group for each teacher to keep track of and we all know that centers are notorious for high turnover in teachers, or shifting around teachers from class to class. the person in that room may not even know your child yet or recognize the parents yet. you have to make the rules to cover any possible scenario including the small possibility that a stranger will just walk in and grab some kid.- Flag
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Little Suzie would come in with mommy and mommy would take a good 5 minutes to undress her and put her things away, then another 5 minutes to talk to her about how she had to go to work and how when she was done she was coming to get her and what they were going to do after she was picked up etc. Then we would have 5 minutes of hugging and cuddling and kissing and mommy telling her how much she was going to miss her. This whole time I have 6 others to care for and I am waiting to get Little Suzie to join the group.
Now because my attention is partly off of the other 6 while I am waiting for little Suzie, they decide to act up/do things they are not supposed to be doing because I am busy waiting for little Suzie and mommy to finish what has now turned into a half hour drop off because now little Suzie is crying because she wants mommy to give her more hugs and cuddles and kisses.
I really loved little Suzie but mommy drove me nuts and created too many problems first thing in the morning.
Let me just say, I am very happy now that little Suzie is in school and mommy does not disrupt my morning anymore.
I wanted to just say........Just drop off your child and leave! I have 6 or more other children who need me and while I am waiting for this "routine" to end you are taking me and my attention away from what I need to be doing for them.
I no longer allow this myself. Parents now all come in hand their child to me and they go. This is one of the things I discuss during the interview. Drop off must be done quickly!
(I do have an open door policy and parents can show up any time they like unannounced)- Flag
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I believe parents should be allowed to come in however, I have had a couple of parents who had their "routine" and it was a time consuming disruptive process.
Little Suzie would come in with mommy and mommy would take a good 5 minutes to undress her and put her things away, then another 5 minutes to talk to her about how she had to go to work and how when she was done she was coming to get her and what they were going to do after she was picked up etc. Then we would have 5 minutes of hugging and cuddling and kissing and mommy telling her how much she was going to miss her. This whole time I have 6 others to care for and I am waiting to get Little Suzie to join the group.
Now because my attention is partly off of the other 6 while I am waiting for little Suzie, they decide to act up/do things they are not supposed to be doing because I am busy waiting for little Suzie and mommy to finish what has now turned into a half hour drop off because now little Suzie is crying because she wants mommy to give her more hugs and cuddles and kisses.
I really loved little Suzie but mommy drove me nuts and created too many problems first thing in the morning.
Let me just say, I am very happy now that little Suzie is in school and mommy does not disrupt my morning anymore.
I wanted to just say........Just drop off your child and leave! I have 6 or more other children who need me and while I am waiting for this "routine" to end you are taking me and my attention away from what I need to be doing for them.
I no longer allow this myself. Parents now all come in hand their child to me and they go. This is one of the things I discuss during the interview. Drop off must be done quickly!
(I do have an open door policy and parents can show up any time they like unannounced)
And then multiply Suzie and Mommy by 12.........and the morning is put on hold for chaotic rituals.
Suzie and Mommy can do their secret handshake etc in the car. They can hug and kiss all they want to. Suzie needs to go potty before they leave the house. If she's big enough for pre-school, she's big enough to go potty by herself when she gets to school. She's also big enough to take her own coat off and put it away.- Flag
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