OFFICIALLY Sent to Collections..!

[kelliott]

Oh, I see. I must have misread.

I'm not sure then. I will say I don't agree with the provider transporting, but I think you had the responsibility to pick your son up early.
I understand that you said this wasn't possible, but as a provider I would have tried to call you and if I was unable to reach your contacts I would have called social services.

The reason I'm bringing this up is because since there were bad decisions made by both parties do you think she would be willing to settle for half?

i texted her about settling but she just stuck with the fact that i terminated care and i signed the contract..blah blah blah... she's very demeaning when she talks/texts me so i left it at that and yesterday she texted me stating that my file has been referred for collection.

i get i was supposed to pick him up early but without enough notice, i wasn't able to and i told her that.. i would have rather her called my emergency contacts and my workplace..and even social services if it came down to it! but all that was sent was a text message to me(which i did not immediately see) no phonecalls to ANYONE i listed to her :/

[snowball]

i texted her about settling but she just stuck with the fact that i terminated care and i signed the contract..blah blah blah... she's very demeaning when she talks/texts me so i left it at that and yesterday she texted me stating that my file has been referred for collection.

i get i was supposed to pick him up early but without enough notice, i wasn't able to and i told her that.. i would have rather her called my emergency contacts and my workplace..and even social services if it came down to it! but all that was sent was a text message to me(which i did not immediately see) no phonecalls to ANYONE i listed to her :/

I'm sorry but I do think you had notice. I think since it was talked about at interview, you knew that early pick ups were required. It does not excuse her from transporting without permission, but it also doesn't excuse you from picking up when required.

But now that she has sent you to collections, I don't know if there is anything you can do other than speak to an attorney.

Also has she said anything about late fees? If she is planning on collecting late fees on top of the 4 weeks you might be better off just to pay her.

[NeedaVaca]

Why we are rehashing this? :confused: The original thread was more than enough. You knew then that she was going to send you to collections if you didn't pay, you were advised a couple of weeks ago to call an attorney. Now it's starting all over again because you did nothing... you even said you don't want to know if you are right or wrong, you just wanted to know if you could win. You have had many posters say call an attorney so...call.an.attorney

[mom2many]

Why we are rehashing this? :confused: The original thread was more than enough. You knew then that she was going to send you to collections if you didn't pay, you were advised a couple of weeks ago to call an attorney. Now it's starting all over again because you did nothing... you even said you don't want to know if you are right or wrong, you just wanted to know if you could win. You have had many posters say call an attorney so...call.an.attorney

My thoughts exactly! Enough already....

[Willow]

At this point our opinions don't matter.

Fact is doing nothing, as you have been, is not going to make this go away. Venting on a daycare forum isn't going to change what happened or what the provider is asking for.

If you think something illegal or unethical has taken place you needed to do something about that from the get go. I think the fact that you've procrastinated taking action will only weaken your argument that you've been wronged.


Waiting to seek legal counsel until now, only after she sent you to collections, is going to make it appear as if you simply don't want to pay. Being proactive instead of reactive could definitely have made all the difference in whether you're stuck or not regardless of what she did.

[AmyKidsCo]

At this point our opinions don't matter.

Agreed.

What we think about who is wrong doesn't matter.
What we do in our programs doesn't matter (in this situation ).
What we think the parent or provider should have done doesn't matter.
What we would do differently doesn't matter.

The only thing that matters now is what the law in the OP's state says, if she decides to go that route.

And that's my 2c.

[lolaland]

You knew then that she was going to send you to collections if you didn't pay, you were advised a couple of weeks ago to call an attorney. Now it's starting all over again because you did nothing...

https://www.daycare.com/forum/showthread.php?t=61919

Several weeks ago TomCopeland gave you professional advise in this forum about your situation. …

And AGAIN you have an important information (example: “Kids are transported in that daycare”/”pick up your child earlier tomorrow”/ “talk with an attorney”), and AGAIN you decide to do nothing about it and expect things to work as you want.

“Insanity – Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results” - Albert Einstein

[momofboys]

I have not had time to read all of the responses but I think you need to pay. You signed a contract concerning his care so you need to abide by it.



As a provider with male children I think you will understand how important it is to attend your childrens games when your own child is older. I find it ridiculous when someone trusts me with their child all day but not in the car. I used to take my dckids to my sons games and the parents would pick them up there. You either trust the provider all the time or you don't.

[countrymom]

if she sent you to collection agencies, have they contacted you and did you call a lawyer yet.

[nanglgrl]

right???.... as a daycare provider i think it's important to remember that you technically are on the parents schedule..and you should get used to the fact that parents can't just leave work when they feel like it, unlike the providers themselves. providers get paid holidays, vacations, sick days(just like regualr employees)...i will never understand why they feel like making their own schedules at the risk of the parents losing their job should be included in that..not only that..but many of you get to stay home with your kids all day!.. if that ain't "the good life" already, i dont know what is..!

The only thing that I don't like about my job is parents who act like I work for them. I read through your prior post and I do think the provider shouldn't have transported but what you did to her was incredibly rude. It's obvious to me she made it 100% clear the night before, that morning and when she text you that day that she would have to transport uf you didn't pick up and it's also 100% clear to me that you knew when you dropped your child off that you had no intent on picking up in time for her to leave. I don't know when she got her schedule but I have gotten sports schedules a day in advance before. Regardless, there are many reasons a provider may have to close on short notice. I'm not on my clients schedule. I set my schedule and telling them I have to close is part of that and I expect them to either pick up when I tell them to or find another provider. The more you post the more I see this situation from the providers eyes.

[Former Teacher]

Am I the only one who thinks this thread is like a broken record?

The OP asked for advice and she obviously didn't take it because she started a new thread asking for more advice.

As a PP said: why do we keep on rehashing this? We all said what we needed to say. No sense on keep on repeating it

[Angelwings36]

You knowingly abandoned your child with this provider. The provider transported ONLY AFTER you left your child with her when she was not able to care for him. You will lose. I would advise to try to settle things out with the provider before your credit gets ruined.

[Blackcat31]

Am I the only one who thinks this thread is like a broken record?

The OP asked for advice and she obviously didn't take it because she started a new thread asking for more advice.

As a PP said: why do we keep on rehashing this? We all said what we needed to say. No sense on keep on repeating it

+1

yeah, this is getting old.

[bunnyslippers]

right???.... as a daycare provider i think it's important to remember that you technically are on the parents schedule..and you should get used to the fact that parents can't just leave work when they feel like it, unlike the providers themselves. providers get paid holidays, vacations, sick days(just like regualr employees)...i will never understand why they feel like making their own schedules at the risk of the parents losing their job should be included in that..not only that..but many of you get to stay home with your kids all day!.. if that ain't "the good life" already, i dont know what is..!

As much as I want this thread to end, I can't help but comment on this outrageous statement. We are obligated to uphold our end of the contracted deal. The parents are also required to do the same. If you are under the false impression that provider's need to put their lives on hold for parents who choose to be late or disregard the contracted hours, you are living in a dream world. We make contracts with parents based around what is best for our own family's needs. Some of us choose to be open for 12 hours a day, and others choose to be open for 6. It is your responsibility, as a parent, to find the proper fit for your family. If you don't like the hours that your provider is available, or her special stipulations, then FIND A NEW PROVIDER.

I did choose to open my own business and get paid for it. I do get to spend all day with my children. I am fairly sure you could make the same choice. We all do what is best for our own family situations.

This is a good life, and one I chose for my family. I also make sure that the parents I choose to enroll are able to follow MY schedule requirements, so it can continue to be a good life.

I have no tolerance for people who expect their providers to bend over backwards for them. It is obvious from your previous posts and your initial issue that you are a parent who thinks the provider is your personal babysitter. Hire a nanny or go to a large center. Clearly a better fit for you and your demands.

[bunnyslippers]

+1

yeah, this is getting old.

I know, I am sorry I just prolonged it. I just had a little moment for myself. I won't chime in again and maybe it will go away.