Advice On DCP Issues

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It also seems to me that the OP is not taking responsibility for her DS actions and instead is making excuses for them. There have been contradictions as well regarding this. In the OP she says he admitted to hitting another child but then later says he's not aggressive and after talking to his teacher and therapist wonders if it happened at all?

I believe my son hit the child. He admited it. He was also provoked. My point is, it is not normal behavior for him. The situation was delt with and he never hit again in the 4 more months he was there. He pushed a child the day before he was terminated. He admitted it, it was addressed with hiim. It was also an out of the ordinary experiance.

I am not makeing excuses for him.... but is not aggressive ANYWHERE else. That is my point. I believe after reviewing the situations it happened, but they were also very avoidable. He is autistic and does have special needs.

I didnt want to let her know i wasnt staying the 4 weeks right away because i was fearful it would affect my childs care. was it a sound fear, maybe, maybe not. I know it was a highly emotional situation for both me and the provider and a possibility.

but you are right. there is one more thing that i have left out. Up until this happend, i was friends with the provider. Our families did things together outside of daycare. I was upset (now just hurt) that she would not talk to me about a problem she was having with my son. Whenever we talked she understood his triggers and avoiding them.

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How did you find special needs childcare so fast in a childcare crisis time?

a friend and SAHM is watching my boys until i find a new daycare. She was my backup daycare and has a son who is also autistic the same age as my son

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Anyway... I got distracted sorry... I'm also curious about if the provider nixed the 1200 .. If she DID.. You better get that in writing for real!!

As the mom and provider of a few special needs in my time, I do have to completely agree that hitting and pushing are NOT normal for a five year old. However, it's actually not that abnormal at all for an autistic five year old. They have a horrible time socially and how they relate to other les is very skewed... Sometimes even reality is skewed. But gosh yes, they are well known for the concrete thinking... The gray areas totally set them off. My daughter when she was smaller had a lot more issues with it. I had to keep reminding myself that socially she was not her age and I never compared her to how the AVERAGE five year old etc would respond to something.

I have it in text message, that is all. and i am still not completely sure since she only wanted the 300.00 but wanted it a week early.

It was wrong of me to say it is normal for a 5 year old to hit and push in general. I feel in the same situation a child of 5 may have the same behavior, but it is almost certain to happen with an autistic child. My son is very concrete and gray areas are a major issue. He is also very concerned with belongings and space. On of his fixations is "is it mine" and if it is his, its HIS. thats why the blanket is such and issue. its his and he doesnt have it. At preschool he has his table, his chair, his watch, his glue, his weighted blanket ect. he wont use anything that is not his, and nobody can use what is his.

The mother that is watching them now does not want to do it permenently. But she is helping me out because what has happened to me is the reason she is a SAHM and she understands. My boyfriends schedule is changing at the end of the month so i will only need someone 3 days a week for the summer until school starts. This made it easier for my friend to agree until the end of summer at the absolute latest. then we are going to try the afterschool program, but I am concerned that it might not work.

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If you are quiting then you need to pay her what is due for that week! If you are not staying until that due date you Should pay for the week that she watched him. Be glad she is NOT keeping you to the four weeks as she could as "you" are choosing not to stay in care the last four weeks.
Im not really seeing what the problem is if you are quiting and she is only making you pay the 300 dollars which you stated is due? If you are not staying until the 26th? then you should pay the last day of care. I would not trust anyone to pay after they left care as most likely that is a sign they are not going to pay!