24 Hour Child Care

[MarinaVanessa]

Thank you for your comments. I am of course trying to work with my company to get a reduced schedule and maybe job share but I want to try and plan for a worse case scenario. A live in nanny is my first choice. What I have found in Au Pair services they can only work 45hrs a week. It is not going to be any easy task but I am sure I will find someone who will fit in with our family.

I hope your work can work with you . A nanny really does seem like the best choice for you and your family. Good luck.

[makap]

Is this for real? Poor little baby! I am sorry but this just sounds so very selfish to me. I would give up anything to raise my child myself. In fact I think many of us on here have given up and sacrificed great jobs and income to stay home with our babies. Many of us chose a career in childcare because of this very reason.

I too wonder why you would have had a baby if you are unable to be there to raise him. To not see your child for days at a time? You are looking basically for someone else to raise him! I am just shaking my head in disbelief!

Maybe you can find someone to adopt him who will want nothing more than to be there for him and then you can travel the world baby free without worry.

[itlw8]

Is this for real? Poor little baby! I am sorry but this just sounds so very selfish to me. I would give up anything to raise my child myself. In fact I think many of us on here have given up and sacrificed great jobs and income to stay home with our babies. Many of us chose a career in childcare because of this very reason.

I too wonder why you would have had a baby if you are unable to be there to raise him. To not see your child for days at a time? You are looking basically for someone else to raise him! I am just shaking my head in disbelief!

Maybe you can find someone to adopt him who will want nothing more than to be there for him and then you can travel the world baby free without worry.

really you could be this rude to a parent ? Everyone needs to do what is best for their familiy.

[Unregistered]

Well I can see this isn't the right forum for my question's there only seems to be one helpful person the rest seem to want to tear a person down when they know nothing of my life and choices... To each her own, every family dynamic is different and what works for some doesn't work for others. Thanx anyways. Good bye

[MamaG]

Is this for real? Poor little baby! I am sorry but this just sounds so very selfish to me. I would give up anything to raise my child myself. In fact I think many of us on here have given up and sacrificed great jobs and income to stay home with our babies. Many of us chose a career in childcare because of this very reason.

I too wonder why you would have had a baby if you are unable to be there to raise him. To not see your child for days at a time? You are looking basically for someone else to raise him! I am just shaking my head in disbelief!

Maybe you can find someone to adopt him who will want nothing more than to be there for him and then you can travel the world baby free without worry.

Amen! I keep thinking like do you huff paint for fun? You can't fly the world and have a child. Go regional or stay home and be a mother! I can't even imagine this. I would live in my moms house before giveing up my child like that. That baby needs consistent care from a mom who is always there not there half the time and someone else the other half.

[MamaG]

really you could be this rude to a parent ? Everyone needs to do what is best for their familiy.

There is no way two international pilots can raise a healthy child. You can't have a career that demands that kind of time from you and an infant. If she were a close friend or family member I'd have even harsher opinions to share with her. Would you recommend to a med student, yea start a family right now! No. She asked we told!

[NeedaVaca]

really you could be this rude to a parent ? Everyone needs to do what is best for their familiy.

I don't think she will really be a "parent" if she never see's her child...When I originally saw this post the other evening I decided to wait until the morning to post a response because I was so so sad and mad about the situation. I honestly couldn't sleep that night! So I just wonder how this parent can sleep at night not seeing her baby 1/2 the month every month...the whole thing is just too sad for words

[Snapdragon]

Is this for real? Poor little baby! I am sorry but this just sounds so very selfish to me. I would give up anything to raise my child myself. In fact I think many of us on here have given up and sacrificed great jobs and income to stay home with our babies. Many of us chose a career in childcare because of this very reason.

I too wonder why you would have had a baby if you are unable to be there to raise him. To not see your child for days at a time? You are looking basically for someone else to raise him! I am just shaking my head in disbelief!

Maybe you can find someone to adopt him who will want nothing more than to be there for him and then you can travel the world baby free without worry.

Sorry, but I feel this is terribly judgemental. The OP asked for advice, not opinions. We can't know their circumstances and it's unfair to judge.

[Meyou]

Last time I checked people that travel, work shift work and have less than traditional schedules have a right to have children too. I'm ashamed that this forum has driven away a parent who was looking for HELP and ADVISE to make things work.

Just because their life isn't ideal for you doesn't mean that it isn't right for them or their child.

Judgey Mcjudgerson's much?

[Unregistered]

Maybe try to find a SAHM that is willing to add your lil' one to their family while you are out of town. Or even an older couple, could be the grandchildren they never had! That is if you are willing to allow your daughter to "live" with them while you are traveling. I am sure this will not be inexpensive though! ......... Good Luck!

[Nickel]

I am a little disappointed in some of the responses that were given. You cannot know a families situation, and judging someone on that just isn't right. Things happen. And she never said it was consecutive care. Honestly, 7-15 days a month isn't that long. Working parents that are away 40-50 hours a week sometimes only see there child for an hour in the evening.

I come from a military family. I know many dual military parents. What if they had to deploy at the same time? Should they forfeit the right to be parents? I can't believe some of the comments that were given.

Because one family made the choice to stay home with their child and do child care, or just be a sahm does not give them the right to decide what is best for another family. What works for some may not be right for every family. We should not judge another families decision.

[nanglgrl]

I have tried and tried not to comment on the post because I had no advice to give other than to ask the poster to please do whatever she could to stay home with her child, find an other job or get her hours reduced but now I have to say something.
I understand that we don't know her situation and that there are dual military parents and others that work 50 plus hours a week but that doesn't make it any less horrible.
My sister is in the Navy and she's a single parent. Her mom (my step mom) helps, other family helps and of course there's a long line of providers that he jumps around to. A few days ago she stated how sad it was that he cries for her when she has to leave to go out on ship but when she finally gets back he cries because he doesn't want to leave the sitter. He's a confused little boy, it's hard for her to be around him because she's not used to raising him. She has a hard time connecting with his cries, body language etc. because they didn't grow with each other.
How many times have we talked about how the children who are with us over 10 hours a day are also the children that have more behavior problems? How many states have regulations prohibiting such extended care? A lot, and there is a reason for it.
I'm glad some of the posters said only nice things but I'm also happy that some told the OP the hard facts. I don't know why she feels she can't leave her job but she needs to hear both sides even if she thinks it's harsh because this is a huge decision.
Original poster, are you o.k. with your child calling someone else mommy/daddy? I don't say this to hurt you I only say it so you can get ready for the future. I have had plenty of daycare kids call me mommy and they have been the ones that are here 10 hours a day, I imagine your child has a good chance of doing this after being away from his/her parents for so long. Are you ready for your child to scream for someone else when you are there for them or to be on their provider's schedule? Are you willing to wonder why your child likes one thing and doesn't like another and then find out that it's because they are taking after their provider? This things can and probably will happen. In the first few years children develop so much, if you aren't there for it you can never get it back.
I'm not trying to be mean to you, I hope you and your child the best. I'm sorry that you thought some posters were mean but this probably isn't the best board to post you problem in. Most of the women here are helpful so they will try but most of them have also given up great jobs, better pay, opportunities, recognition and benefits to stay home with their children so they can avoid having to live a situation that isn't nearly as extreme as yours. All the best.