Just Turned 3 Cleaning Up Urine?

[lovemykidstoo]

Interesting. My middle daughter was speaking full sentences (in French) at 10 months, and fully bilingual by age 2. She didn't potty train quite that early but she certainly had the vocabulary to do so if she had chosen to try.

I also had one train just before age 2, mostly due to his competitive spirit with his brother (age 3.5) who was training.

That is awesome. I think it's not that common to have a child of that age talking so good. Great though

I definately had alot more success with kids training when there is 2 of them doing it together for sure.

[Angelsj]

That is awesome. I think it's not that common to have a child of that age talking so good. Great though

I definately had alot more success with kids training when there is 2 of them doing it together for sure.

:: Not sure how awesome it was. She got that way through practice...LOTS of practice. She is 16 today and speaks 6 languages, 4 of them quite fluently. She still never stops talking.


And amen on the teamwork. If I can get two of them to work together or if they feel some competition (I don't push it, but if it is there..great) I love it!! They are so much easier.

[lovemykidstoo]

:: Not sure how awesome it was. She got that way through practice...LOTS of practice. She is 16 today and speaks 6 languages, 4 of them quite fluently. She still never stops talking.


And amen on the teamwork. If I can get two of them to work together or if they feel some competition (I don't push it, but if it is there..great) I love it!! They are so much easier.

Do girls EVER stop talking? LOL!

[countrymom]

hmm, this is the first accident in the daycare. To me it seems harsh for her to be cleaning it up her own mess. I can understand if a child was doing it over and over again and knew the what they were doing it and doing it on purpose, but one accident, thats mean. Also, why didn't they put spare clothes on her.

I had a dcg who near the end of the day had peed thru her clothes (tummy sleeper) I changed her and put my own clean clothes on her. I did tell dad that it was too late for me to throw it in the wash and it wouldn't have been done by pick up but to soak the clothes right away. I usually wash the stuff during the day so they go home clean.

also cleaning up should be more like, handing paper towels or holding the plastic bag, but I never allow touch kids to touch urine, that would mean that I would have to clean more.

[SunshineMama]

Wow I've never heard of a 1 yr old having that control, not to mention the vocabulary. That's something.

Both of my children are really verbal and could speak in full sentences and communicate their needs at age 1. Also, with the potty training, I did the 3 day method, which is a no pants deal, which helps the child to be more aware of their body. But then again, that was with my own child- something I would not replicate with a dck

I did a lot of research on potty training in other countries. Most children in the world are potty trained before the age of 2 because the majority of the world (mostly non-Western) cannot afford diapers. In China, they even make special pants with a split in the middle of them for potty training, so they can squat when they need to and learn when they have to go. I also did a bit of eliminiation communication and semi-attachment parented my own children. (Not something I would do if I sent my child to daycare-but I think it contributed to the success).

[lovemykidstoo]

Both of my children are really verbal and could speak in full sentences and communicate their needs at age 1. Also, with the potty training, I did the 3 day method, which is a no pants deal, which helps the child to be more aware of their body. But then again, that was with my own child- something I would not replicate with a dck

I did a lot of research on potty training in other countries. Most children in the world are potty trained before the age of 2 because the majority of the world (mostly non-Western) cannot afford diapers. In China, they even make special pants with a split in the middle of them for potty training, so they can squat when they need to and learn when they have to go. I also did a bit of eliminiation communication and semi-attachment parented my own children. (Not something I would do if I sent my child to daycare-but I think it contributed to the success).

When you say 1 year old, was your child closer to 12 months or closer to 2 years? Also, where can I get a pair of those pants and do they come in my size LOL!! Just kidding of course!

[SunshineMama]

When you say 1 year old, was your child closer to 12 months or closer to 2 years? Also, where can I get a pair of those pants and do they come in my size LOL!! Just kidding of course!

She was 18 months when I started, and it took a few weeks to get her down to the very few accidents. She went pull up free at night at 19 1/2 months- so i suppose she's a bit closer to 2. We aren't talking 12 months .

[dansmail26]

Left a voice mail yesterday that we weren't coming back and would drop off the money for last week. Never received a followup call from them.
Hopefully it is all over with them.

[makap]

For me personally, I don't care what reason the child had an accident, I would NEVER have a 3 yr old clean it up. I would most definately be calling licensing and asking them if that is acceptable in your state. No matter what they said though, i would not by any means take my child back there. You have how many signs so far. The cleanup, the yelling if she's not eating fast enough, the not giving her breakfast ect and those are only the things you know about. Imagine the things you dont' know about.

Definitely this!!

[lovemykidstoo]

She was 18 months when I started, and it took a few weeks to get her down to the very few accidents. She went pull up free at night at 19 1/2 months- so i suppose she's a bit closer to 2. We aren't talking 12 months .

That's good. I have a couple that are 2 1/2 and smart as a whip and the parents have no interest in potty training. Well, I'm not doing it on my own. I have to say though they're big boys so I"m really kinda getting grossed out changing their diapers. Can I give them your number? LOL!

[JennyBear]

I would be upset if a daycare made my daughter clean up her urine by herself; however, if she was asked to help and they were nice about it I would get that.

I have a home daycare and if a child has an accident I just clean it up and bag their soiled clothes. It is my policy that each child has 2 sets of spare clothes no matter what (they could get wet, muddy, soil them, etc). It is the parents responsibility to remembered these things. It's not my job to go out and purchase spare clothing for the children whose parents aren't responsible enough to follow my policies. It sounds harsh, but I already invest a ton of money into my daycare and make very little at the end of the month. I don't need to spend my hard earned money on things parents can simply remember to provide. Just my opinion.

[SunshineMama]

That's good. I have a couple that are 2 1/2 and smart as a whip and the parents have no interest in potty training. Well, I'm not doing it on my own. I have to say though they're big boys so I"m really kinda getting grossed out changing their diapers. Can I give them your number? LOL!

I had an almost 4 year old boy whose parents never were interested in potty training him, so I understand those big boy diapers!

One day, (after 90% of the kids went through 2 weeks of intense potty training at my house), he decided he wanted to use the bathroom. And he hasnt had an accident since. I suppose that's one way to go about it :: But those diapers....

[Willow]

Left a voice mail yesterday that we weren't coming back and would drop off the money for last week. Never received a followup call from them.
Hopefully it is all over with them.

If I were you I'd try to get something in writing saying you're all paid up and the contractual terms have been fulfilled...either by bringing something with you or by sending an email and garnering a response.

You don't want this to come back and bite you later on and if the male in the household has a bit of a strict side he sure could be one to hold a grudge, stew on it, and then try to take you to the cleaners later.


Glad to hear your daughter will continue on somewhere else with a more reasonable provider

[Blackcat31]

Left a voice mail yesterday that we weren't coming back and would drop off the money for last week. Never received a followup call from them.
Hopefully it is all over with them.

If I were you I'd try to get something in writing saying you're all paid up and the contractual terms have been fulfilled...either by bringing something with you or by sending an email and garnering a response.

You don't want this to come back and bite you later on and if the male in the household has a bit of a strict side he sure could be one to hold a grudge, stew on it, and then try to take you to the cleaners later.


Glad to hear your daughter will continue on somewhere else with a more reasonable provider

I agree. Put it in writing. Alot of providers do not consider a family withdrawn unless they have the notice/request in writting.

When you drop off the money, make sure at that point that you get something saying you are now paid in full and withdrawn from care.

Hope you were able to find other, more suitable care arrangements.

[DBug]

I totally respect the OP for going with his gut and pulling his DD from this daycare.

I would definitely have a 3 yo help me clean up after an accident. We teach them to wipe anyway, so how is this different? Of course, I would be right beside her, cleaning and disinfecting afterwards and making sure she washed her hands really well. I've had a house full of teenaged boys and a nasty peed-on bathroom afterwards that proved to me that kids DO need to learn to clean up after themselves . Why not teach them early, before it becomes even more embarrassing?

BUT, I think OP had more to go on, even if it was just a gut feeling about this daycare, that something wasn't right. And in that case, ANY parent in the same situation (something not sitting right) needs to keep their child home until they figure out what's really going on. It's not worth placing your child in a potentially dangerous or verbally abusive situation.

Good luck, OP! I hope your search for a new (and much better!) daycare is quick and easy .