Should I Have Called The Police?

[Willow]

This doesn't make a lot of sense to me....

Any mother I know, who had someone they don't even consider a friend try to take her child without permission out of her daycare, would have called the police immediately AND pressed charges without hesitation. They'd also follow that up with a restraining order.

The fact that you didn't OP, instead choosing to talk to the person who would have creeped and scared the daylights out of most mothers, leads me to believe there is more to this than is being disclosed.


I cannot imagine thinking, well, they weren't successful so that's all that matters! I'll drop it now!

NO. FLIPPING. WAY.


How did she even know where your child's new daycare was at?

How did she know that she'd be there at that time?

What do you mean when you say you dropped off your kids together at the old daycare?



And last, I don't understand how you are questioning if letting your provider "off the hook" in this was the right thing to do but that's exactly what you're doing with the woman who tried to take your child - that's so backwards!!!

[SunshineMama]

Wow Willow is right. If the lady was from the old daycare, how did she know where the new daycare is, and when your daughter would be there, especially if you arent friends. That is super scary- I would be on the phone with the police right now.

[itlw8]

so much effort is going into providers making emergency plans lately. Not just for fire and storm but abduction. The provider did nothing wrong but she could have done better. I am sure she is thinking that now after the fact. It would be a good time for the center to update the emergency policies. AND the information should be shared with all other centers and family childcares in the area so they can update their policies.

Emergency policies work best when you plan ahead and review them often.

[Springdaze]

I woudnt even do that with my upper elementary school age friends of my daughter that I have known since they were babies without asking! just weird!

[Qpmomma]

We both came in t the same time every morning and dropped off our kids at the same time. We would be polite and talk in passing. I guess I am the only mom who talks with other moms? But I wouldn't consider her a friend.

When the old daycare was closing us moms wanted to know if the other ones had found a good place. So I told another mom and a teacher that my daughter was going to the dayare our director recomended. We all had the info on this daycare. In fact, another family decided to go there too. So I think what happend is the teacher said what daycare we decided to go with.

I'm not quick to bring the athorities into a situation if I can handle it myself. Maybe it was how I was raised. I don't know. I will go ahead and call my local PD to see what they recomend. I do care for my child's saftey 100%. But I can't give you a reason why I don't feel the need to call the police. I just don't feel like it's the right thing to do at this point.

I do appriciate your advice though.

[seebachers]

Please call your local PD........this lady does not seem to understand what normal boundaries are (that is the least it could be called) and to me, it would be considered an attempted abduction. Either way, she needs to understand the full ramifications of what she could be charged with.

Too scary!!!

[daycare]

We both came in t the same time every morning and dropped off our kids at the same time. We would be polite and talk in passing. I guess I am the only mom who talks with other moms? But I wouldn't consider her a friend.

When the old daycare was closing us moms wanted to know if the other ones had found a good place. So I told another mom and a teacher that my daughter was going to the dayare our director recomended. We all had the info on this daycare. In fact, another family decided to go there too. So I think what happend is the teacher said what daycare we decided to go with.

I'm not quick to bring the athorities into a situation if I can handle it myself. Maybe it was how I was raised. I don't know. I will go ahead and call my local PD to see what they recomend. I do care for my child's saftey 100%. But I can't give you a reason why I don't feel the need to call the police. I just don't feel like it's the right thing to do at this point.

I do appriciate your advice though.

just because you said something to this woman does not mean that it is resolved. How horrible are you going to feel if this woman does take your child or someone elses child, knowing that you had the chance to do something about it??

Also, why would a teacher tell other parents your private information??

[Willow]

just because you said something to this woman does not mean that it is resolved. How horrible are you going to feel if this woman does take your child or someone elses child, knowing that you had the chance to do something about it??

Exactly.




Restraining order.

Like, yesterday.

[saved4always]

I would totally have called the police! That is very scary that a woman you barely know would try to take your child from daycare. That sounds like an attempted abduction to me! Thank God the teacher did not release your daughter to her.

[BABYLUVER]

The daycare provider did the right thing. I'm not sure I'd call the police if she didn't go up to the kid and try to grab her, but rather asked to take her instead, and the dc provider said "no". If the parent went up to your child and said "Hey come with me let's go to lunch" then NO WAY is that acceptable and in THAT case I would have called the cops. But I have had requests from people I didn't really know to come p/u children and I just say "you're not on the list, I cannot release the child" and that's that. I've never called the police because they never actually tried to say grab or influence the child to come with them.

[C'est la vie.]

That would be kidnapping wouldn't it?

I don't care WHY someone thought they could take my child. Whether it's for lunch or to hide them in their basement... I would still consider it kidnapping and call the police.

It doesn't matter how well intentioned someone can try to explain the lady could possibly, maybe, sorta have inteneded the kidnapping. It's still kidnapping. It's not normal. Call. Even late, call.

[C'est la vie.]

Now that I've thought about it more, I think you should be even more suspicious.

It's not like she saw your kids playing and said "sure, I'll take her home for her mom... blah blah blah."

She sought out a completely different centre, she SOUGHT your child out. SHE WENT in to that center SPECIFICALLY for YOUR child. She looked for and found your child!!!! Then she LIED to try to get access to your child.

SHE SOUGHT YOUR CHILD OUT SPECIFICALL, THEN LIED TO TRY TO GAIN ACCESS TO HER.
What normal, rational well intentioned person would EVER do that. EVER?

Whether we can understand her motives or not, these are the actions of a predator. Whether she thinks of herself as a predator, no matter how it could have turned out. She's lying to you or herself, because only a predator would go that far out of their way to find and access a child.

[BABYLUVER]

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