I Have A Few Problems And Need A Providers Point Of View

[cheerfuldom]

It was not okay to call your child names at all.

As you said, your child has gone through a lot and I think all parties agree that she is a handful right now, to say the least. It sounds like you need to look for a daycare setting with teachers experienced with kids that do need particular care or have special needs. It sounds like the current teachers are very overwhelmed with her and she obviously is not reacting well to a variety of things.

Whatever you do, please continue pursuing help for your child. Look into programs provided through the public school systems. Sometimes they do free evaluations, therapy or special preschools. Please also be honest with your next caregiver and let them know the behavioral struggles as well as your expectations regarding what approaches you are comfortable with and what you are not. I know you are upset right now and that this current situation does not sound like it was handled in the best way, but in the teachers defense, they have a lot on their plates on a daily basis and many are not trained to handle special needs kids.

[MizzCheryl]

Children with ADHD often do better in a smaller setting.

Unfortunately there is no test for ADHD it is just questionairs from the parents, teachers, and childcare

Then if the meds work they know it was ADHD it seems because the way their brains are wired a stimulant calms them down. Whichmakes me wonder about my grandson. Caffine calms the boy down weird. hmmmm I do see my #1 ds in his behavior but he is a 2 yr old boy also.

I would try a great family childcare with a preschool program.

My child psychology teacher told us that a sure fire way to tell if a child suffers from hyperactivity is to give them caffine. If it calms them down they are hyperactive. Ritilin speeds up people that do not suffer hyperactivity.