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my 4 year has recently told me that another kid has showed him his penis and the child has also pinched my sons penis. the same child also grabbed my sons penis some months back. I have told my son as well as his doctor that his private areas are only for him, mommy, daddy and the doctor and that if anyone does something to him to tell us or his teacher. when we talk to him about the incident he gets embarrassed, almost ashamed and will change the subject. I do not want to get to detailed with him at this age but am concerned that he is scared to tell me about it. I understand that children at this age may do the show me yours and I will show you mine kind of thing but I also don't believe that anyone should be touching another child's private area. when I spoke to the director she got very offensive about it. I don't want to make a big deal out of it I just want to protect my child. we monitor what he watches on tv and keep his activities age appropriate. he has not had or been to a sleepover and there are no kids his age where we live so we play with him or I take him to play with his little cousins. I am just not sure how to handle the situation.
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It's totally normal for the age. It's probably nothing to worry about at all...but, I'd be talking to the teachers AND the director so they all know it's a problem. I wouldn't be tolerating it if someone were doing that to my child. I'm not above saying something to the child if nobody else takes it seriously. (that would be my absolute LAST resort though...because you never really know how much of your son's story is really true)
It won't hurt to practice with your son how to handle it if the kid does it again. Maybe he can practice saying really loud "EWW.. I don't want to see your penis!!!" Once or twice of that, and the other kid will not want to show your son anything ever again.
Many years ago, we had one boy who would not let himself go. He always either had his hand inside his pants, or outside his pants. Sadly he was misnamed "Peter". (not kidding) The older kids in the class started calling him "Petey the Peter Puller". It was a large school, and there was no way to stop the "Peter Puller" talk without involving Peter's parents. (I'm cracking myself up with all the P words) Peter's Parents worked with us to stop the habit. But the Peter Puller name never went away. -
I would absolutely INSIST that bathroom visits be supervised, or that the children take turns using the bathroom.
Being a family daycare, I do not supervise every bathroom visit because there is only one of me, but only one child goes in at a time, even with sibs.
If the dc cannot manage this, then I would find another place.
BTW, this is totally NORMAL behavior, but that doesn't mean it's ok.
2 year olds often bite or hit, but we don't say "yeah, go for it, it's normal..."
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Appropriate for the age…not acceptable. Don't make a big issue of it just treat the situation as if the children were "touching" any other body part. Ie; Don't pick your nose or we don't hit our friends. At four children are not sexual beings yet and it is more of a curiosity thing. They are thinking "why are we being told that area is private? Up till now it wasn't." what with diapering. bathing, potty training, etc...I see little people.Comment
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This.......
Try not to make a huge deal out of it....However, do talk about who can and CANT touch your son there. I tell my son only the doctor can if mom/dad is there and no one else but you. Mommy and daddy can see it, but not touch it....Then we go on about our day..Comment
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WE don't but some parents do..... :P Sorry - commenting on a whole different topic kind of between Heidi and I....I would absolutely INSIST that bathroom visits be supervised, or that the children take turns using the bathroom.
Being a family daycare, I do not supervise every bathroom visit because there is only one of me, but only one child goes in at a time, even with sibs.
If the dc cannot manage this, then I would find another place.
BTW, this is totally NORMAL behavior, but that doesn't mean it's ok.
2 year olds often bite or hit, but we don't say "yeah, go for it, it's normal..."
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thanks for the advice everyone, its nice to know people are willing to listen and provide help. it is greatly appreciated.Comment
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Kapten
you have to pay every week, regardless of if your child is there or not, then you have to pay if you want to keep bringing your child there. She only has a certain number of kids and if your child is missing she is still depending on that income. She can't give away your spot for only 2 weeks, you know? No one needs such short term care at the exact right time.Licensed or not, if you want to continue to bring your child there you will need to pay her.Last edited by Michael; 07-01-2012, 12:24 PM.Comment
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I dont allow for anyone to touch anyone elses anything, diaper changes and bathroom time happens with doors open so all the kids can be present if they wanted to be. WIth the exeption of my oldest, and if i dont lock the door when i go.... its amazing how fast they can funnel in"God said, ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do.'"
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LOL!!!!
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