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I know this is older, but might be helpful anyway.
I had two backups, one a neighbor (for emergency only) and two my dh.
If I had a TRUE emergency (aka. need 911) I am not going to call the parent and go looking for them to tell them I am leaving the kids with the neighbors. Sorry, but if there is something that is that serious, I am just getting my/my kids'/my husband's behind to the hospital. My neighbor surely can tell the parent what happened. If I can talk and tell the ambulance or write down a #, they might be willing to call for me, but certainly my health or the health of my immediate family will come BEFORE my wanting to make things convenient for the daycare parents. That's just life.
If I have a Pap smear or something, I am not taking your kid with me. Sorry, but that's just not appropriate. This is one of the reasons I put my DH in the contract as a backup provider. He's on the license too, and had to do all the same stuff I did before getting my license so is more than qualified, even if he didn't ever really want to do child care, he is CAPABLE. I told the parents this in the interview and if they didn't like that my husband lived here or would be interacting with the kids, they didn't use me. I understand that there may be legitimate reasons to be nervous about someones husband, but seriously, if you are a married woman, then you have a MALE husband too (presumably). Don't you trust him? If not, why have kids with him? My husband felt pretty discriminated against many times when people would be like "you're married? Will your husband be home when my kids are there?" Um, if my husband's off he's allowed to be home...he lives here!
I'm sorry for sure for anyone who has been molested, but females can do that to boys and even their kids can do those things to other kids. It's just not "as" talked about as men doing it.
I am only saying that to say this: My husband was a great backup for me when I did child care. He didn't do anything to harm those kids. I left them with him only during nap (he's not big on babysitting like I was) and only when absolutely necessary. Parents who didn't agree with that came and got their kids before my appointment at their own expense. I provided a FREE backup for their child but never ever forced a parent to use him.
My husband was great as a backup. He sat with the kids while they slept and played video games. If someone woke up, he acknowledged them and got them back to sleep or read a story to them. If they pooped, he'd (albeit reluctantly) changed them promptly. Once myself and one of my dc parents came home at the same time. She got off early and I got done from my dr visit much earlier than we both expected. We walked in the door and my poor little husband (bless his heart) was talking in baby talk to the 2yo girl I had in care saying
"Now, didn't you know you are supposed to nap and not poop until (me) gets home? That's yucky. Yucky --gag--yucky ---cough--yucky, young lady" and in a high really baby-like voice. She's giggling and me and dc mom were VERY quiet and trying not to laugh. He had NO idea we had even come home. I snuck a peak around the wall and saw him, NO JOKE, with yellow rubber gloves that went to his elbows, his shirt on his nose and him balling up a bunch of wipes trying to get her clean and gagging. It was SO funny! Even though I could change that diaper in 30 seconds without any of that "extra stuff", I could see he was creative and cared very much how this child was cared for. Mom and I busted out laughing and he looked up because we "caught" him in the act of changing a diaper---something he swore he'd never do. So, I say give our husbands a little more credit and trust that sometimes...they really do know what to do. Did he need rubber gloves? No. 30 wipes? No. Was she clean and happy? YES! In the end that's all that matters. It's not gender that makes one a molester. Remember, you can "think" you know someone and be VERY wrong and you might not personally know this man, and he could be an awesome guy. You just don't know anything until something either does or doesn't happen. Is that comforting? Hells no! Is it just simply the way it is? yeah...
I had two backups, one a neighbor (for emergency only) and two my dh.
If I had a TRUE emergency (aka. need 911) I am not going to call the parent and go looking for them to tell them I am leaving the kids with the neighbors. Sorry, but if there is something that is that serious, I am just getting my/my kids'/my husband's behind to the hospital. My neighbor surely can tell the parent what happened. If I can talk and tell the ambulance or write down a #, they might be willing to call for me, but certainly my health or the health of my immediate family will come BEFORE my wanting to make things convenient for the daycare parents. That's just life.
If I have a Pap smear or something, I am not taking your kid with me. Sorry, but that's just not appropriate. This is one of the reasons I put my DH in the contract as a backup provider. He's on the license too, and had to do all the same stuff I did before getting my license so is more than qualified, even if he didn't ever really want to do child care, he is CAPABLE. I told the parents this in the interview and if they didn't like that my husband lived here or would be interacting with the kids, they didn't use me. I understand that there may be legitimate reasons to be nervous about someones husband, but seriously, if you are a married woman, then you have a MALE husband too (presumably). Don't you trust him? If not, why have kids with him? My husband felt pretty discriminated against many times when people would be like "you're married? Will your husband be home when my kids are there?" Um, if my husband's off he's allowed to be home...he lives here!
I'm sorry for sure for anyone who has been molested, but females can do that to boys and even their kids can do those things to other kids. It's just not "as" talked about as men doing it.
I am only saying that to say this: My husband was a great backup for me when I did child care. He didn't do anything to harm those kids. I left them with him only during nap (he's not big on babysitting like I was) and only when absolutely necessary. Parents who didn't agree with that came and got their kids before my appointment at their own expense. I provided a FREE backup for their child but never ever forced a parent to use him.
My husband was great as a backup. He sat with the kids while they slept and played video games. If someone woke up, he acknowledged them and got them back to sleep or read a story to them. If they pooped, he'd (albeit reluctantly) changed them promptly. Once myself and one of my dc parents came home at the same time. She got off early and I got done from my dr visit much earlier than we both expected. We walked in the door and my poor little husband (bless his heart) was talking in baby talk to the 2yo girl I had in care saying
"Now, didn't you know you are supposed to nap and not poop until (me) gets home? That's yucky. Yucky --gag--yucky ---cough--yucky, young lady" and in a high really baby-like voice. She's giggling and me and dc mom were VERY quiet and trying not to laugh. He had NO idea we had even come home. I snuck a peak around the wall and saw him, NO JOKE, with yellow rubber gloves that went to his elbows, his shirt on his nose and him balling up a bunch of wipes trying to get her clean and gagging. It was SO funny! Even though I could change that diaper in 30 seconds without any of that "extra stuff", I could see he was creative and cared very much how this child was cared for. Mom and I busted out laughing and he looked up because we "caught" him in the act of changing a diaper---something he swore he'd never do. So, I say give our husbands a little more credit and trust that sometimes...they really do know what to do. Did he need rubber gloves? No. 30 wipes? No. Was she clean and happy? YES! In the end that's all that matters. It's not gender that makes one a molester. Remember, you can "think" you know someone and be VERY wrong and you might not personally know this man, and he could be an awesome guy. You just don't know anything until something either does or doesn't happen. Is that comforting? Hells no! Is it just simply the way it is? yeah...
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