PSA: Be Careful What You Say...Even Here

[dEHmom]

Just asking this to the original poster....

Did you create a website? And did you list your personal information on the website?

I am wondering, through a google search, if a potential client found your website, but also found you daycare.com posts where you username was linked to your website? If so, then they were able to go to your profile and then find all your posts. That is one reason why I don't want my personal information such as phone number on my website. I ask them to contact through the contact form, and then I will discuss with them after the fact. Because I know if I google any information I've posted in a thread on here, it comes up!

[jen]

I saw this happen on another daycare website that I belonged too. It's a crappy thing to do. I'm sorry it happened to you and very glad that it all is working out OK for you.

On another note, we just a note last month that being on the computer would be considered a lack of supervision during daycare hours, even if you were updating your daycare's facebook.

I would guess that any future accident investigations will include dumping our computers to find out what and when we are online.

[grandmom]

I'm so sorry this happened. Someone must have too much time on their hands.

[Blackcat31]

To the OP, I am so sorry this happened to you. People ask for help and support and then get poo'ed on for doing it...or they keep to themselves and things happen and society wonders where the person was failed.....

I know others have mentioned it but I think this is where a private members only area would be nice. I don't mean the off-topic area but an on-topic area for us reguluars to vent about things we all know about each other. So we can vent in "private" to each other. (My husband has a forum he visits in relation to his job that has an area for members only called "the basement" and you can't even go into that area until a moderator has approved you AND you have a minimum of 250 posts.)

I know that this site is suppose to be a useful tool for parents also but I don't see why we, as members can't choose which section we want to post in.....kwim? If it is a straight up general question about how do you handle late payments etc, then post in the general area but if a member wants to say "Hey, I got a family I talk frequently about who I have had problems with in regards to this or that.....what should I do?" We should have an area to get more on-topic advice from each other in a private area. If this means having to pay to be part of a forum, then charge me because this forum has been my therapy, support, on-line help, comedy act, etc. ever since I discovered it by accident.

I don't want to always have to be so secretive when we are in a business that does not allow for a lot of physical get togethers so we have no alternative but to vent on here. Plus alot of people on here have gotten to be friends so we should be allowed a bit more privacy in sharing. (Facebook does it...)

I know what the original intentions were when the site was started but like childrearing trends/methods, we have to change with the times and I think the needs of the members are different now..... this is just my honest opinion.

[Unregistered]

I am a registered user and for some reason it's not letting me log in???

Anyways, I am so sorry that this happened to you... I guess it can really happen to any of us. Scary! Hope everything works out for you. (((HUGS)))

Just asking this to the original poster....

Did you create a website? And did you list your personal information on the website?

I am wondering, through a google search, if a potential client found your website, but also found you daycare.com posts where you username was linked to your website? If so, then they were able to go to your profile and then find all your posts. That is one reason why I don't want my personal information such as phone number on my website. I ask them to contact through the contact form, and then I will discuss with them after the fact. Because I know if I google any information I've posted in a thread on here, it comes up!

I've never written anything on here that would be risky, but I did vent about a DCM quite a few times. When I first became a member I registered as the name of my daycare and then a few days later changed my name. Well, after reading this post I went to google and googled my business name and found all the post attached to my "NEW NAME". I'm so bummed, because it will forever link me to my business now.


Michael- any suggestions?

[DCMomOf3]

I am a registered user and for some reason it's not letting me log in???

Anyways, I am so sorry that this happened to you... I guess it can really happen to any of us. Scary! Hope everything works out for you. (((HUGS)))





I've never written anything on here that would be risky, but I did vent about a DCM quite a few times. When I first became a member I registered as the name of my daycare and then a few days later changed my name. Well, after reading this post I went to google and googled my business name and found all the post attached to my "NEW NAME". I'm so bummed, because it will forever link me to my business now.


Michael- any suggestions?

I changed one name this afternoon after pming, was it you? look back at this post to see if it was you. You should be able to log on with the new id and old password.

[momofsix]

That is so wrong and I am so sorry that happened to you. This is supposed to be a place for support but often times it seems more like a place for people to act like middle schoolers (as in "I'm so smarter than you, I know everything, you're wrong no matter what you do/say....") If there was someone on here that actually said they abused their daycare children or left them alone or something like that it would be different.
Again, I'm sorry this happened to you.

[dEHmom]

I edited out the posts with my website address on the ones I could actually edit. Most of them I cannot. Funny thing, I googled part of my web address, and it came up on daycare.com as another user who has the same name but she has her first name and middle initial as well in there.

It ****s because I wish I never posted it now. Now my name can be linked to the website if anyone does a google search. I don't think I've said anything really bad or anything on here, but I guess I haven't always said the nicest things either.

[littlemonkeys]

I changed one name this afternoon after pming, was it you? look back at this post to see if it was you. You should be able to log on with the new id and old password.

No wasn't me... I changed mine a while back in January.

I'm able to log in now! Thx!

[Live and Learn]

OP....
What a bummer!
Somebody around here needs to get a life! Thanks for the PSA.

This thread got me to thinking about my rants on my screamer that I termed. I hope I didn't give out to much info!!

Bless your heart & chin up

[AAA713]

I am so sorry this happened to you. People that do this make me sooo mad! I just recently changed my username and lost my history because my name was in my other one.

This is just awful! Some people.....

[countrymom]

well, someone has way too much time on their hands. I think we need a private vent forum and lurkers need to be locked out. I'm sorry but why is it that they can read all our posts but don't have to post how safe is that.
anyways, to the op, if you want I can tell you what will happen with cas because I had an incident happen a couple of months ago, but I won't say what happened on this board but this is what happens when people take things to a new level.

[Michael]

I am not in the office but will write about this in a few hours. I've dealt with this over the last 15 years on the web and have not lost much sleep. Facts are what is needed. I will give a few pointers later. This is a great topic to discuss for the Internet in general.

[Kaddidle Care]

This is what I was trying to warn a fairly new poster about a few weeks ago (I think). I can't even remember what the thread was about but it was written like this was a private club and I tried to point out that anyone can look in on this forum.

It could be changed so that certain threads are to be read by members only but anyone can still sign up and become a member.

Just remember that when you post it can be read by anyone so try to not be quite so explicit about the scenarios. (I know it's hard)

We all have to think twice about what we say these days. Writing it on a message board can be like writing in pen - not so easily erased.

[countrymom]

the more I think about it, its weird. think about it, they had to get your name, your number, where you live (esp. since I'm assuming your are in the states) find out which cas to contact and keep all your posts. It has to be someone near you, someone who is very very jealous.