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Hello All,
I'm new to the site, found it by accident today. I'm all for support systems, having not grown up with much of one, so it helps to talk to people who are doing the same things that I am doing in various areas of my life, to see what the experience is like for them, and to both get and give advice, if advice is asked of me.
I'm 29, SAHM. I have a 22-month-old hellion who can get into anything, climb out of anything, undo anything. It's a challenge keeping this house baby-proof, but I'm game.
I currently care for a 1-year-old girl, and it does have its challenges. The first couple of weeks were fine, my son and little lady got along amazingly well. As of late we're dealing with a serious diaper rash (I thought the girl was going to have scars) because the diaper is too small, and the mother will not up the size. Her pediatrician told her that her daughter was going to grow up to be fat, so I think mom has developed a complex. It's good in a way that little lady eats very healthily, but most babies are chunky until they start walking. Little lady's diaper has no breathing room at all, so she stays miserable if I put her in the diapers that mom provides. When I first saw the rash, I was appalled. Desitin and powder were not working, and I'd never heard of putting neosporin on a diaper rash. I suggested a larger size and A&D ointment, mom wasn't going for that. Well that's what she has when she's here. It's not that expensive, and I hate to see her in pain.
Still...there are other issues.
My son doesn't know his own strength. When he's aggressive with her I deal with it swiftly and he's learning to be gentle. But if he so much as walks past this girl she cries for half the day. I've taken to separating them, but my son is becoming confused as to why he can no longer move around his own home. He is usually very moody at the end of the week because he's tired of her whining. Even my fiancee is thinking of giving up the one day every two weeks he has off during the week (government employee schedule, it's called RDO or regular day off) because of her.
When my son was in daycare, I trusted the advice of my caregiver. Sure it was a bit unnerving to learn of the things he would do for her that he would not do for me (unless there was a struggle). But I was happy for his development. This mom is not taking any advice. I get the impression that she's a bit unnerved by how her daughter acts when she's with me, that she will take a nap without having to be held, etc. I think that as parents (and I'm a first-time mom as well as she), we are more emotionally affected by our children, and while a daycare provider will care about the child's needs, they can detach a bit better. She has yet to see that. Also, I had agreed that if on occasion one parent was to be home I would not charge them for that day. They are trying to take advantage of that, for the past three weeks Daddy has been home one day or more.
I'm getting new offers for childcare, and I'm thinking that if I get enough I may have to terminate her. Older children can tolerate my son better, and even the younger boy that would have come here had his parents moved closer didn't react the way little lady does. I fear she's used to being held all the time at home. I cannot do that. The house requires constant upkeep in order to maintain daycare standards, and my son has needs too.
Oh well, I'm glad for the extra income for now, but I have a feeling little lady might not last the year.
I'm new to the site, found it by accident today. I'm all for support systems, having not grown up with much of one, so it helps to talk to people who are doing the same things that I am doing in various areas of my life, to see what the experience is like for them, and to both get and give advice, if advice is asked of me.
I'm 29, SAHM. I have a 22-month-old hellion who can get into anything, climb out of anything, undo anything. It's a challenge keeping this house baby-proof, but I'm game.
I currently care for a 1-year-old girl, and it does have its challenges. The first couple of weeks were fine, my son and little lady got along amazingly well. As of late we're dealing with a serious diaper rash (I thought the girl was going to have scars) because the diaper is too small, and the mother will not up the size. Her pediatrician told her that her daughter was going to grow up to be fat, so I think mom has developed a complex. It's good in a way that little lady eats very healthily, but most babies are chunky until they start walking. Little lady's diaper has no breathing room at all, so she stays miserable if I put her in the diapers that mom provides. When I first saw the rash, I was appalled. Desitin and powder were not working, and I'd never heard of putting neosporin on a diaper rash. I suggested a larger size and A&D ointment, mom wasn't going for that. Well that's what she has when she's here. It's not that expensive, and I hate to see her in pain.
Still...there are other issues.
My son doesn't know his own strength. When he's aggressive with her I deal with it swiftly and he's learning to be gentle. But if he so much as walks past this girl she cries for half the day. I've taken to separating them, but my son is becoming confused as to why he can no longer move around his own home. He is usually very moody at the end of the week because he's tired of her whining. Even my fiancee is thinking of giving up the one day every two weeks he has off during the week (government employee schedule, it's called RDO or regular day off) because of her.
When my son was in daycare, I trusted the advice of my caregiver. Sure it was a bit unnerving to learn of the things he would do for her that he would not do for me (unless there was a struggle). But I was happy for his development. This mom is not taking any advice. I get the impression that she's a bit unnerved by how her daughter acts when she's with me, that she will take a nap without having to be held, etc. I think that as parents (and I'm a first-time mom as well as she), we are more emotionally affected by our children, and while a daycare provider will care about the child's needs, they can detach a bit better. She has yet to see that. Also, I had agreed that if on occasion one parent was to be home I would not charge them for that day. They are trying to take advantage of that, for the past three weeks Daddy has been home one day or more.
I'm getting new offers for childcare, and I'm thinking that if I get enough I may have to terminate her. Older children can tolerate my son better, and even the younger boy that would have come here had his parents moved closer didn't react the way little lady does. I fear she's used to being held all the time at home. I cannot do that. The house requires constant upkeep in order to maintain daycare standards, and my son has needs too.
Oh well, I'm glad for the extra income for now, but I have a feeling little lady might not last the year.
) young mother yourself, as well as being new to the profession. The majority of the new moms I have had do ask for, and even sometimes take 
, advice from me, but then again I didn't start my daycare until I had three children of my own (all grown now), and I also had a background in center care at the time. I've now been in the home daycare business for 18 years.
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