Teenage Mom- HELP!

[Tracyesplace]

I have a teen mom (18). She has a 8 month old girl. She is a drop in, and she cries most of the time she is here. When I tell mom she becomes upset and tells me that She only cries for me. I try to explain to mom that there is always the adjustment time for a child in daycare, and when she only comes 2 to 3 times a month it is like starting all over again. She tells me she dont cry for others and she is around a lot of people and noise. I tell her it is a BIG differnce when she is one on one with an adult or a friend with one child, She is coming in to a DAYCARE with 9 new faces lots of noise, she isnt used to, I try to explain that that her daughter is scard and when she dont come often it starts the trama all over. She is one of my closest friends daughter and I fear if I give her notice that it will end our friendship. HELP!!! How do I go about this:confused:

[Blackcat31]

Why not ask mom what she wants you to do. How does SHE want you to handle it?

You cannot hold a baby all day the entire time they are there so if she cries, does mom want to come get her? Does she want to try and have her attend a bit more so she grows accustomed to you and daycare?

For mom to just keep repeating that the child doesn't cry for anyone else is kind of pointless since that isn't solving the situation.

Put it back on her and ask her how she wants to handle it.

If she wants to find other daycare arrangements will that be ok with you?

[Tracyesplace]

That is very helpful. The child has only been in my daycare. Like I said she comes maybe 2 or 3 times a month. Other than that she is with mom and grandma. I just feel so bad for this baby when she has to come and try and adjust over and over and over. I told her this morning to look for new daycare. I don't think it will be any better any where else. Mom is 18, doen't really think of much but her self and if it don't work for her she gets mad, she is very lippy to. When she first started she came 4 days a week for 5 + hours she cried for the first week and each day got better. But mom changed jobs and the baby was coming 2-3 days a month for like 2-3 hours a day and she missed a whole month to. Mom does the no call, no show. I hate that it's my friends daughter, I pray it don't aluter our friendship. I am just at my wits end with her and feel bad for the baby. I really can't see any provider put up with 2-3 days a month and only for 2-3 hours. I only put up with it cause of my friend. If it were any other client I would have gave her walking papers. I have leaned a lesson on this one and I have been doing dayscare for over 20+ years, and that is I will never do daycare for friends again. I feel many think our job is so easy, we don't do anything, we sit around with kids all day. I would like to see them do it just for one day. Thanks for letting me vent, I am new to this fourm. With this issue I really couldn't ask my friend for advice since we ALL are friends and don't think it's right to talk about friends among friends. Thanks again!

[MamaG]

I learned that the hard way myself. Only it was family. I no longer sign up children if I'm related to them.