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  • PitterPatter
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • Mar 2011
    • 1507

    Non-Paying Parent Busted!

    OK as some of you know I have a client that put a guilt trip on me a couple weeks ago to avoid payment. She said the car tire was bald and she's afraid she will wreck with the kids in the car... laid it on thick so I would have to of course put the lives of children before my $15. I let it go AND without fees. I told her next time I will charge the $10 per day late fee. Well another 2 weeks come and gone. Now DCD calls Friday to say the kids are still ill and will be out. I tell him ok but today is payday and you have another payment due. That makes $25 due today. He says alright I will get it to you when I can. I figure that means I won't be paid and just bite my tongue. I have sent newsletters home on top of the contract on top of reminder notes so this guy has to know policy. Yet I know if he can't afford to pay $15 or the now $25 due then he can't afford $10 per day late. Really if I had charged him that he would owe $180 in fees by now plus the $25. I decided to let it go ONE LAST TIME and ask again for payment next Friday. OH AND as of yesterday the tire is STILL BALD they are still running with the kids in the car on a bald tire, DCM told me so!!! SO where did my money go?

    Now today I am pi55ed off!!! I didn't have any kids today by a fluke so I took off for some lunch with my Mother. We got to a restaraunt and guess who walks in? DCD!!! I think ok you can't pay me the money you owe me but you can eat out? I let it go everyone has to eat, it's lunch time maybe he's grabbing a burger. We said hello and took our seats. Then I notice DCD is paying the whole bill for 2 large meals for he and his friend. We finish and go to Walmart. While shopping I turn a corner and guess who I run into with a buggy full of cookies and junk? DCD!!! He actually shows me a halloween decoration and laughs about it. I smile and walk away because I am about to say something!

    What should I do? Obviosly he HAS the money to pay me just doesn't want to. I guess his wants come 1st! If I had told my child care provider I didn't have money to pay and then was caught out like that I would be totally ashamed and offer the money right there!! Nope it gets worse!!

    Next stop thrift shop/ bread store for some bread. DCD IS THERE TOO!!!! I walk up and say "what are you doing following me?" I smile and look in his cart where he has 4 cases of SODA! He giggles and said it seems that way but no. My Mother makes a comment that the sale is good but she doesn't buy pop. I couldn't help but make the comment "Wow that is a deal but I can't afford POP".... DCD says see ya later.

    I admit I can be petty when bills owed are small BUT it's MY EARNED money and I know the latte drinking, camel smoking parents are just being selfish. Today proved it and I wanted so bad to snatch those bills out of DCDs hand at the register and say thanks for the payment! I am going to make it painfully clear that there will be no more payments skipped and if the payment is not paid by closing time on Friday the $10 fee will be applied PER DAY!

    What would you do in this situation where you have now caught the client blowing money on junk instead of paying you what you are owed?

    I'm sorry this got long!
  • SandeeAR
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • Sep 2010
    • 1192

    #2
    I would have had the waitress deliver my bill to his table, as soon as I saw him. Let him wiggle out of it, and explain to his lunch partner, why!

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    • snbauser
      Daycare.com Member
      • Jan 2011
      • 1385

      #3
      Time for "no pay, no stay". Plain and simple. If you don't MAKE them put you first, then they won't.

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      • awestbrook713
        Mommyto3boys
        • Aug 2011
        • 421

        #4
        Term for non payment. This makes me mad for you. I had dcm who picked up kids and said she forgot to stop at atm she would pay me that weekend, weekend goes by no call nothing, shows up monday and doesn't pay, I ask when will I be getting paid, oh when she brings the kids next time which is wednesday (dcm is my neighbor we live acrossed the street and for some reason couldn't walk acrossed that night and pay me) wednesday comes and I get less then half of the money. I have seen her out at the bar spending money, shes had the opportunity to send in papers to get assistance paying but is to lazy to do it so I ask her to step outside tell her I feel I am being taken advantage of and as much as I love watching her kids if I don't get payment and she doesn't pay me on friday pay days I will have to term, needless to say shes been on time since. Put the fear into him if that doesn't work say goodbye

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        • laundrymom
          Advanced Daycare.com Member
          • Nov 2010
          • 4177

          #5
          I think I would say wow, look at all the extra goodies you found, I'm guessing you have the funds to pay your past due daycare balance, do you want to give me the $$ in cash right now? Or should I lend you a pen to write a check?

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          • PitterPatter
            Advanced Daycare.com Member
            • Mar 2011
            • 1507

            #6
            Thanks for the support ladies. They have 2 spots so I have been giving in more with them. No more! I am telling DCM as soon as I see her point blank this can NOT happen again and telling her to make sure she tells DCD AGAIN too! They must assume I will let the $10 per day go all the time now because why else would they avoid paying $25 just to pay $205. I swear I feel like they think I am stupid! Either that or I'm rich and don't NEED the money. BTW this is my family with the entitlement syndrome so it shouldn't come as a surprise to me but it did! I just don't get it, wouldn't you be totally ashamed? Nope he was all grins and giggles.

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            • daycare
              Advanced Daycare.com *********
              • Feb 2011
              • 16259

              #7
              whenever you see them next, I would say looks like you came into some money since you were out having a great time shopping. I am so happy you can afford to pay me now and avoid all of those late fees. I was starting to feel really bad that I was going to have to charge you guys all the extra fees. then just stand there with you hand out....

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              • Kaddidle Care
                Daycare.com Member
                • Dec 2010
                • 2090

                #8
                Was he paying for these things with cash or credit card? Because if it's credit card, he's probably not paying them back either.

                I like the No Pay/No Stay policy. Remind them that you are not blind as well.

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                • Sugar Magnolia
                  Blossoms Blooming
                  • Apr 2011
                  • 2647

                  #9
                  Pitter, honey, I am just so sad to read this. I know I've commented to this before, but PLEASE term them. Please! You WILL get another client! Please stop letting this family ABUSE you like this! This is Awful!! Truly awful!!!!!

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                  • laundrymom
                    Advanced Daycare.com Member
                    • Nov 2010
                    • 4177

                    #10
                    Originally posted by Sugar Magnolia
                    Pitter, honey, I am just so sad to read this. I know I've commented to this before, but PLEASE term them. Please! You WILL get another client! Please stop letting this family ABUSE you like this! This is Awful!! Truly awful!!!!!
                    Standing ovation!!!!!!!!!

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                    • wdmmom
                      Advanced Daycare.com
                      • Mar 2011
                      • 2713

                      #11
                      No pay, no stay. If payment is due Friday, charge them Saturday $10, Sunday $10 and when they drop off MOnday, they better have payment plus $20. If they don't turn them away at the door.

                      This family clearly needs to see you have a backbone and use it before they will stop with the nonsense! 4 cases of pop?! Are you kidding me?! A case of pop lasts my whole family a month plus!

                      Some parents need to quit mooching off the state and learn to sacrifice what they want in order to give to their kids.

                      When they have no one to watch their child/ren on Monday and don't go to work and don't make the money, they'll have no one to blame but themselves.

                      Time for you to lay it on and THICK!!!

                      Your house, your rules, your money, now pay up!!!

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                      • daycare
                        Advanced Daycare.com *********
                        • Feb 2011
                        • 16259

                        #12
                        Originally posted by wdmmom
                        No pay, no stay. If payment is due Friday, charge them Saturday $10, Sunday $10 and when they drop off MOnday, they better have payment plus $20. If they don't turn them away at the door.

                        This family clearly needs to see you have a backbone and use it before they will stop with the nonsense! 4 cases of pop?! Are you kidding me?! A case of pop lasts my whole family a month plus!

                        Some parents need to quit mooching off the state and learn to sacrifice what they want in order to give to their kids.

                        When they have no one to watch their child/ren on Monday and don't go to work and don't make the money, they'll have no one to blame but themselves.

                        Time for you to lay it on and THICK!!!

                        Your house, your rules, your money, now pay up!!!
                        like like like! love love love!!

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                        • PitterPatter
                          Advanced Daycare.com Member
                          • Mar 2011
                          • 1507

                          #13
                          Originally posted by Kaddidle Care
                          Was he paying for these things with cash or credit card? Because if it's credit card, he's probably not paying them back either.

                          I like the No Pay/No Stay policy. Remind them that you are not blind as well.
                          Cash! He handed the cashier cash at the restaraunt to cover he and his friends meal then again at the thrift store. I made it a point to spy I don't know what he used at Walmart I didn't see him leave there.

                          Originally posted by Sugar Magnolia
                          Pitter, honey, I am just so sad to read this. I know I've commented to this before, but PLEASE term them. Please! You WILL get another client! Please stop letting this family ABUSE you like this! This is Awful!! Truly awful!!!!!
                          I know I know. I really like the kids though! I swear they are the best 2 kids I have had here in a long time. They have thier issues and times where their listening ears seem to have fallen off but 90% they are great kids and work well with my schedule. I just got rid of a child that was totally out of hand and abusive so to get these 2 in here I just tend to want to hang on kwim? It's always the same either great parents and naughty kids or great kids and ignorant parents, then we have the duo of terrible parent and child. I know there are great parents & kid combos out there I just have to get 1. I am running my flyers again. I just got a new idea from MarianaVanessa so I will be making a new flyer and get it out PRONTO!

                          Thank you again ladies for the support. I was feeling petty again

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                          • PitterPatter
                            Advanced Daycare.com Member
                            • Mar 2011
                            • 1507

                            #14
                            Originally posted by wdmmom
                            No pay, no stay. If payment is due Friday, charge them Saturday $10, Sunday $10 and when they drop off MOnday, they better have payment plus $20. If they don't turn them away at the door.

                            This family clearly needs to see you have a backbone and use it before they will stop with the nonsense! 4 cases of pop?! Are you kidding me?! A case of pop lasts my whole family a month plus!
                            Some parents need to quit mooching off the state and learn to sacrifice what they want in order to give to their kids.

                            When they have no one to watch their child/ren on Monday and don't go to work and don't make the money, they'll have no one to blame but themselves.

                            Time for you to lay it on and THICK!!!

                            Your house, your rules, your money, now pay up!!!
                            TY! As for the pop yes serious!! I don't even buy it by the case we buy a 2ltr once in a while or if we have a cookout maybe 1 case. Whats worse is when I see people fill a grocery cart with MANY cases and swipe the food stamp card to pay for it all! I think pop and junk food should not be allowed on the food card. But that's another story.

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                            • beachgrl
                              Daycare.com Member
                              • Aug 2011
                              • 552

                              #15
                              Definitely charge them the late fees and do no pay no stay, no one is going to let them by with non payment do you shouldn't either. Learn to say in your most sincere voice' so sorry u are going through that(whatever their pity party is to get u to feel bad for them so they don't have to pay) and hope u get it figured out, but, no pay...no stay

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